Do you care if close family do not like the names you choose?

[soon2befamilyof4]

We had sort of decided on Talia (spelling will be looked into as it seems there are several ways to spell it but want to decide on a name first of all).

Hadn't decided 100% but I am 32 weeks and it is the only name me and DH both like.

Anyway, said it to MIL and Mum and both, although they didn't actually say anything, it was very obvious they didn't like it (and this was seperatly so didn't influence each other on that).

In some ways I think "sod what they think" but then on the other hand I think that if the only 2 people in RL that I have told so far didn't like it then maybe we have made the wrong choice?

I don't believe in telling people until it's the name of an existing child. That way, they are polite. I am sure my ILs must have disliked our dd1's name in the beginning (she's M a r s a i l i, pronounced to rhyme with partially), but they've never commented to us. But now she's just her. And we still love her name. And so does she. She loves that no one ever spells it right!

We didn't come up with that till 38 weeks though, so don't panic yet!

Talia is lovely too.

Hi soon2be - If you and DH both like it, well, good for you!
I personally love the name Thalia, - it is a very pretty name, but it is for you as a family to sort that particular thorny issue between yourselves. Good luck!

Well I wasn't actually going to tell MIL but DH said it without thinking. We might just keep it quiet from now on I guess. Hard though when everybody is asking what she will be called!

I like Talia - it's lovely! Perhaps your olds are just a bit old-fashioned? Wouldn't worry about it myself unless they are likely to take the piss out of her for the rest of their lives (yes, there are people who do that). Otherwise, go with it if you love it, they will get used to it.

Remember that a lot of previous generation mums unconsciously disapprove of almost anything you do on principle, because it is different to what they would have done (including names)!

Yes Thalia is among options too, we will sort that out in few weeks if we still like the name - we had never heard it till the other day.

My mil made it quite clear she didn't like my dd's name (Rose)...the fact that she made it clear by actually saying it says a lot about her as dd was already born.....the cow!

Well they both loved DDs name - Eloise so I guess thats why I have been taken back a bit.

To be honest, I am not THAT bothered about MIL as they are all very picky on that side of the family and very, very bitchy about alot of things and I know a lot worse has been said about us!

Where as my mum isn't and she did say she doesn't mind it, but I could tell she didn't like it iyswim.

we decided on ds' name the day he was born (the name i had secretly coveted for him when a bump just did NOT suit the face that appeared from my fanjo) and told my parents when they came to visit that night.

my mum was a bit cos its a very popular name but it just suited him and now he could not be anything else. and my mum said as such just this weekend! they grow into their names, if that makes sense.

i think Talia is very pretty, but i think its always wise to leave it open until you SEE your baby. So many people i know realised they needed a new name once the baby had arrived.

Twistle - what a lovely, inspired name. I agree with you about no-one knowing until the baby is born - then it is just "the name" and is just accepted.

Yes, we wouldn't be 100% until we see the baby. Just like DD was probably going to be Eloise but we kept an open mind that we might change her mind when she was born.

DH also told his friend the name who said it reminded him of a certain type of pasta (which I have no idea how to spell).

tagliatelle?
gosh, wouldn't have made that connection; my first reaction was "short for Natalia" but then I have just been watching CSI Miami!

My dad said the names we'd chosen were wierd and could we not pick something more normal.

Personally, I don't think Lydia or Theo are wierd but apparently Lucy is a nice normal name according to dad. He is lovely really though.

NB, I love those names! not weird at all.

MIL announced Rex was a dogs name and pleaded with us not to call ds2 that. Said she waould be too embarrassed to introduce him to her friends. I don't think she likes it you know..!

They'll get used to it really quickly and then it'll just be as lovely as your baby will be, part of her, inextricably linked, and they'll laugh in 20 years time to think that they ever disliked it.

I think she would have had more of a point if you had called him Rover..
Didn't you point out it was Latin for King?

I think she would have had more of a point if you had called him Rover..
Didn't you point out it was Latin for King?
And what about Rex Harrison?

whoops!

Lydia and Theo - not weird at all - they are nice names. Parsifal or Magwitch could be classed as weird?

The weirdest names I ever came across in one family were - Rover, Pebbles and Eisenhower. I shit you not. I can't tell you the surname, they might still be alive. Come back to me in 20 years. It will be worth it.

HC - really? Quality names!

Yes - the poor buggers came and asked for rehousing on the grounds that their parents were "not right" and they couldn't live with them any more. Understandable, really. Hope to heaven they're not reading this.

poor loves - hope you discreetly aimed them at "name-changing by deed poll" information?

TBH if they are reading this they will probably have already guessed it is them, even without the surname! I doubt it though!