Alexander.....or not

[moonincancer]

my husband wants to name our boy (edd 19/10) Alexander after him. there are 2 Alexs in my daughters class, one looks like he has just hatched and the other always has chapped lips. the only other Alex i know is a dope smoking loser. i dont like this name but O/H 100% wants to call him Alex. should i call him alex and please his par or dig in my heels?

As you get older, its so hard choosing a name that you both like, that doesn't have connotations for one of you. You could use it as a middle name? Or you could call him alexander, but then shorten it for everyday use, i.e sandy.

Alexi? Sascha? Axel?

why don't you just chose something that you both definately like? don't think i could've handled not liking my own childrens' names!

Luckily for me, my other half loved the name Alex as much as me, and it was my turn to name the baby

That said, i dont think its really fair if you really hate the name. Just catching up with Desperate Housewives and laughing at how Susan hated the name Maynard for her baby! She did give in because it had sentimental reasons for her hubby, but damn...Maynard!

Well I like Alex as that is my eldest boys name. I must admit I don't know any others so it helps.

Bear in mind that the name will grow to fit the child, not the other way round. In the end it will just be your son's name. But if you really really don't like it I think you have to stand your ground.

I think it's so classic, like Adam, James or Jack that I wouldn't associate anything to it iykwim. I know a few, but I don't remember them when I meet another Alex.

I like Sandy for a boy!

it's a cool name, good at any age and pretty class-less too. can't go wrong with the name but as others say if you don't like it at all go with something you both like!

I think Alexander is a great name. I know Alexes, Sandys, Alecs and Xanders. Sasha is a great abbreviation but very Slavic.

I LOVE this name - that's why it's DS1's. But I don't think you should have it if you really hate it. We took 'turns' choosing, but the other did have a right of veto if they hated it.

You HAVE to like your DS's first name otherwise you will be down at the Registrar of Births a few months and a lot of tears after registration asking to change it. PLEASE use it as a middle name in honour of your DH and come to some agreement on another name that you both like. Good luck. xxx

That should read 'PLEASE use ALEXANDER as a middle name ...'

Won't it be confusing with DH and DS having the same name?

Nice to use names with a family link but in the same household is going to end up with him being called 'junior' or similar!

Well Alexander was my partner's choice for our son and I was fairly easily persuaded despite having an ex-partner of the same name and various other associations with it.

Once he was born none of it mattered. IME if it's your son's name you won't think of all those other people called Alex. If you like it you like it, you don't you don't.

I love the name Alexander, but no, no, no to naming after your DH as a first name. Lack of imagination a-go-go. Middle name all the way.

A lovely name.

I love the name, but if i had as many negatives about a name i wouldnt want to use it, you could have it as a second name? Happy Due Date! but you really do have to be happy with the name as its forever.

tmmj - I just read your comment to my Alexander. He totally agreed