Would you compromise on your childs name if it would annoy your mother?

[Thepuddingchef]

I love a particular name, but it is very similar to my fathers mothers name, and my mother has already made her opinion known, and it wasn't favourable.
Would you stick to your guns, or would you try and think of something else you all like?

No - sod everyone else, it's your choice.

Your baby, your choice. She's had her turn. And don't talk about names before the baby's born, fgs!

Sorry I read that totally differently. I depends on your relationship with your mother, but I would gladly change my DD's name if it would annoy my mother

Seriously, we don't let on any names to anyone until after the birth and my parents have been sniffy about all our choices so far, except the middle names because they are from their families- that is a fair compromise in my book. It's your child, not hers. But as I say, it depends how you get on with your mum.

The parents of the baby choose the name.

Everyone else should butt out, imo.

We didn't tell anyone which names we had in mind until the babies were born.

Then we phoned up and said:

"Flobble Blubberchops II has arrived. He is healthy, and weighs 19 ibs 4 ozs"

It never occurred to anyone to comment unfavourably, as they were so excited by the birth announcement.

Ignore her. Nothing to do with her.

And agree with these guys - just don't discuss names, those conversations never end well.

The correct response when someone tells you what they're planning on naming their baby is 'oh that's a lovely name'. I don't care if it's your mum, the queen or the pope.

believe me I wish I had kept my mouth firmly shut. My relationship with my mother is ok, close but not chummy if that makes sense.
It will piss her off a bit, i'm just not sure how much when the reality hits, she might not talk to me again, Or it might pale into insignificance once shes born.....

Oh spicemonster....remind me not to tell anyone on here! not sure I could take that pressure as well

as I say, my parents disapproved but they would have no matter what the names were. They have got over themselves about it now. I have given up trying to please/impress my parents- it's not worth it. Do your own thing, I'd say.

BetteNoire - Flobble Blubberchops- is that a family name?

I had a similar situation, but unwittingly. Apparently, the first girl baby born into our family each generation, should be called Margaret.

I didn't know this and had purposely avoided all family names as me and my dsis are saddled with a mouthful, so when we announced baby hotcross' birth, it went down like a lead balloon.

Dsis eventually broke the news to me months later that mum was upset the line had been broken and dd wouldn't be able to use her name to claim family gold or some such cobblers

I've never discussed it with mum and dd is now much loved by all the family, but is known by her initial to her grandparents

Oh, and no I wouldn't compromise on the name. It is a personal decision between the mummy and daddy.

Families are hard work aren't they......why can't it all be just simple

puddingchef - there is no name in the world that would get a universal thumbs up in the baby names topic!

I am not testing that.....might do a search and see what comes up...

Pinkyminky, I read it like that as "would you choose a name partly to annoy your mother" and yes I would too

Flobble Blubberchops II has arrived. He is healthy, and weighs 19 lbs 4 ozs"

I would think they would be so at a 19lb 4 oz newborn they wouldn't even think about the name....

rustybear- I just love the whole package- priceless

Fennel-

My dh is called Norman, so was his dad,grandad, great grandad ect.
My mil never forgave me for breaking the line,although I did give in and give DS3 it as a middle name,and he hates it.

I would go for the name that you love, they will come round to it.

It's really your choice and if people object then thats their problem.

Well thats the way i look at it anyway.

Good luck
s xx

She's being selfish and out of order.

Is there some rivalry going on?

I would. I did. I ran Phoebe, Greta and Sadie past my Mother and she HATED them all. I went with another name. She hates it far less, and that is more 'comfortable' for me. I would be hating that she hated the name otherwise.

I wouldn't care about anybody else though, colleagues, neighbours, fekkem.

BTW, I can see where your mum is coming from. if my children ever name their sons after my x, their father, I will be mentally puking every time I have to say the child's name.

None of her business, right at the end and I was overdue and bored we discussed names with my DM. She said......mmmmm not my favourite, to which I replied Good job he is not your child then.

She now loves it.

TBH it is no ones business but yours.

My aunt was going to call my cousin Meg. My granny made a face and said "Meg the Peg-leg". My cousin is now called Nadine!