Would you compromise on your childs name if it would annoy your mother?

[Thepuddingchef]

I love a particular name, but it is very similar to my fathers mothers name, and my mother has already made her opinion known, and it wasn't favourable.
Would you stick to your guns, or would you try and think of something else you all like?

Nadine is probably a lot more unusual though. I know of only one. She is about 26 I think.

If I'd chosen a family name and someone else in teh family really didn't like that person, then I'd probably change it.

We ruled out a name for dd2 because one close relative would probably have taken the hump.

Puddingchef, I didn't use a name because of my mother. We wanted dd to be called Caroline, which we adored. My mother wasn't happy because her niece is Caroline and we see a lot of her so she thought it would be silly. She wasn't arsey, just seemed upset at the prospect so we gave in and chose another name. A couple of weeks before dd was born she caved in and admitted it was none of her business and to call her what we wanted. However, by that time we'd been referring to dd by her new name since the gender scan and it was too late.

We gave her Caroline as a middle name but it's not the same... I have a v good relationship with my mother and it's important to me what she thinks, hence the change.

Yeah there is a difference. Comments should be filtered. SOmebody can throw a big sulk, but what they mean is the name YOU have chosen for YOUR baby is not to MY taste. Em,,,, durrr.

But if for example my children chose the name of my x for their son, I would really find that very hard. Not hard to love the child. But hard that somebody I loved had that name. Hard to explain!! My children are in primary school, so I'm not going to worry about it yet.

Eyeballs, that to me is a perfect example of an 'objection' that should be taken on board.

You and your husband particularly might think, who is called Caroline again? When do I see her????

But if you'd called your dd Caroline, then your mum would have a gd and a niece with the same name, which would be odd and confusing for HER.

I have had similar from my mother. We like Harry for a boy and her Dad is called Harry so she finds it strange. I told her early on so she could get used to the idea. I think she will be ok as she loves her Dad, it's just that that is who Harry is to her.

She has not been so kind about my girls name Matilda. She laughed (in an irritating way!)when I suggested it. And said "oh no, stick with Lucy" (our other option). She keeps asking me if I'm still thinking of THAT name. Makes me want to use it more. She had her turn to name babies and I wouldn't have gone with her choices!

god no
almost everything I do annoys my mother
it's just a perk of being a grown up

everyone hated matilda when i announced that was going to be my dds name and now lo and behold 3yrs on they all love it and everyone comments on what a lovely pretty and unusual name and now noone can imagine her being anything other than that, even the midwife felt free to put her two pence worth in!

when i told my mum what newborn sons name was while lying in bed off my face on morphine after section she felt perfectly free to tell me that she would not call him by that name and would tell my younger brother not to either, i was so and really i cried when she went, i never told her and ooh guess what shes now rather proud of his name and cant imagine him being something other.

I wouldn't change the name. No way. It's not like your mother isn't going to love your child purely because of the name you pick.
We were going to call ds Brendan right up until the last week and my dad begged and pleaded that we change it as he hated it, but I wasn't going to just for him! Me and my dad are very close, but it's not his place.
We didn't use that name in the end, dp changed his mind (all on his own) close to the end and we went with something else that everybody loved straight away (apart from me!)

I don't think my parents have been overjoyed about any of my dcs names (you can just tell, can't you) but they have never said more than the odd vague comment when dcs just born.

They utterly adore dcs and always have.

I'm not telling anyone the names we are considering. It's hard enough to choose a name that dh and I both like that works well in two languages, without trying to please everyone else!

DO NOT COMPROMISE. We were put under so much pressure to reveal the names we wanted for the dts I purposefully kept them under wraps. But as a nice gesture towards our families they've each got our gran's middle names, both of which we love.
When we told MIL, thinking it would be a nice surprise for her, we got the response

"Oh she hated that name, why don't you use [first name] instead?"
My response, "but we like [middle name]"

followed by weeks of "I think you should change it to {first name}" and "why don't you use [first name]? My mother hated her middle name"
Well, we hated her first name, so we stuck with out choice and the name is perfect for dt1.

You will not please everyone or maybe even anyone, so just please yourselves.

MIL isn't keen on the name we are likely to give ds when he arrives. I think she should have kept her opinion to herself personally, given that we said we were almost certain about it.

She brought up the subject again this weekend, and suggested Crispin instead. Clearly her taste is to be trusted then .

Go with what you like.

I firmly believe in not revealing name choices until baby is born and named. I wouldn't even enter into a theoretical conversation on the subject last time. Luckily my mother really truly loved the name we chose for DD (well the first name - she always forgets her middle name....). But I don't think MIL has got over it yet.

She wanted a boy and lobbied heavily for Jack or John (firm belief in single syllable English names that do nothing to 'rock the boat') so when we had a girl and gave her a 3 syllable Spanish name it didn't really meet expectations and she pulled some rather offensive faces when we told her what we had chosen to call our PFB.

Lets see how much we can annoy her second time around

Oooh - I'll take Crispin Cantsleepwontsleep. That would INFURIATE my MIL.

dh chose both dd's names and all his family hated them to the point that his nan still won't call them by their names.

it took 2 years for his mum to call dd1 by her name and not a sortened stupid version.

Number 3 will be called whatever we want and bollocks to anyone who doesn't like it.

No

We think DM did not like the names we chose, she said nothing (wisely as I would have chosen names she really hated if she had commented) but I think they have grown on her.

MIL said that she didn't like them and we should call DD after her and the DSs Roger instead.

Yeah, right, Roger.

We never discussed names with either set of parents before we named our boys, but down my dad's family the oldest is a Joseph in each generation for ages back and i would have loved to call one of ours that but my parents are divorced, and to say my mum is still bitter about it nearly 40 years later would be an understatement so we just didn't use the name as it would really have upset her, I still think it's a shame though.

Don't take any notice. My parents were a bit funny over DS having 2 middle names (thought it was pretentious) and because they weren't keen on one of them. Hasn't been mentioned since. People get very uptight over names when you're pg. but when the baby's there it tends to fade into the background

(esp true for first borns. And DS was the first male grandchild which made it worse)

Your mother had her babies and chose their names.

Now its your turn to have babies and choose their names.

That's the thought process I followed anyway.

my choice everyone else can eff off

and have been in the situation where no one liked the name i chose becuase it was "gay"

fuck 'em all i say

Mum thinks I should call my daughter to come Ella, MIL suggested Liberty and FIL Miranda. Well, I ain't calling her any of those things, I am not telling them the names I have in mind until she is born and shall politely make it clear that, though they are of course entitled to their opinion, negative remarks are to be kept to themselves or expressed in private, away from mine and DP's ears. I am ashamed to say I actually gave a bloke a physical shove when I said I was considering Isadora (I am not now, and DPs vetoed it anyway) and he spat out his drink and said "Pooh, Isa-shitter, More like!"