Would you compromise on your childs name if it would annoy your mother?

[Thepuddingchef]

I love a particular name, but it is very similar to my fathers mothers name, and my mother has already made her opinion known, and it wasn't favourable.
Would you stick to your guns, or would you try and think of something else you all like?

We have sort of the same situation. My mother did not like my dad's mother. She was basically horrible to her. Her name was Rose. My brother mentioned it as a middle name and my mother was really upset. I tried to tell her that she won't see it as her MIL's name, but instead the name of her granddaughter. In the end they didn't go for it. I actually like the name as well, but don't think I could do that to my mom. Maybe if my mother's emotions were unfounded, but it's true my grandmother wasn't a very nice person.

We have sort of the same situation. My mother did not like my dad's mother. She was basically horrible to her. Her name was Rose. My brother mentioned it as a middle name and my mother was really upset. I tried to tell her that she won't see it as her MIL's name, but instead the name of her granddaughter. In the end they didn't go for it. I actually like the name as well, but don't think I could do that to my mom. Maybe if my mother's emotions were unfounded, but it's true my grandmother wasn't a very nice person.

If DD3's name isn't like by my Mother or MIL all the better

It's your baby your choice of name, I also believe in not revealing the name until the baby is born. I'm sure if we had told our family about DD2's name prior to her being born there would have been some raised eyebrows and comments.

Unless it's a saints name MIL doesn't believe it's a proper name, my mother is just twisted and nasty.

You pick the name that you want. Her baby-naming days are over. It is your turn now.

My mother hates ds2's name because it was my late FIL's name and she thinks we are showing unfair favouritism for 'that side' of the family.

I think if you are naming your child after someone else in the family (or using a family name) then it is likely that other people who knew that person might have an opinion. My dd is named after two grandmothers, dh's dad's mum, and my mum's mum. Neither of them actually liked their names (apparently) and my mother was quite upset when we told her dd's name. I'm not sure whether this was because she didn't get on well with her mum, or really to do with the name. But we had already registered dd, and in any case it is her middle name, so she won't actually be called it. dh's dad didn't say anything that I recall, so I've no idea how he felt about it. I think it would be a little unkind to call your child after someone who close family hated (and why would you want to anyway) but otherwise it is your responsibility to choose the name. I agree with others, I think it is unwise to tell anyone before the baby is born.

Well it depends on how similar the name is exactly and what the family history is: I mean, there could have beensome awful family rifty that lays behind her strong feelings.

However, with names, it is really up to you and yourhusband/partner.

My MIL deliberately mispronounced my child's name for about the first 3-5 years of his life, to make a point, I believe, about her dislike of his name.( and of course, her ever existing lack of respect for me at all).
My DH never would speak to her about it though.

She doesn't get a say - call her Esmerelda Frogmella Piddlebum if you like

Yes, I probably would and in fact did. One name we seriously considered I ruled out because my mum didn't like it... but then her comments were very perceptive. But the key thing is I am very close to my mother and I respect her opinions and they mean a lot to me, so I wanted her to be involved iyswim! But on the other hand if it were my mil.... would be a very different story!!!

Oooh Iklboo - Piddlebum. That's pretty!

ChipMonkey, now that I think about it, she might be a little older than 26. Not sure though. Her sur name is unusual and begins with U.

stick to your guns. if its what you want then tough. my mother hates my ds2s middle name (my fathers name) cos she hated my dad so much in the end, but i dont care. im proud he has got that name.

I misread the op and was going to post that I would happily compromise on a name in order to annoy my mother

Totally needs to be your choice. If your Mum doesn't like it tough. We kept names to ourselves both times. My Granny has said to my DB that she will never get used to DS2's name. Cooper for those that are interested. This was a Granny who said she could get used to Sam for DS1. Get used to it, its not exactly out there with the wacky names, but she's old.
Most of our families didn't like Cooper but we did. We don't care.

Also DS1 was named after his paternal great grandfathers, as was DH's wish. Nobody in DH's family commented on this. I thought the IL's could have at least said, how nice to name him after our fathers. Grrr.

i'd choose a name TO annoy my mother if I could
but nah......don't compromise