Sabrina, Rebecca or Violet

[Lollywollypop]

Hii. I'd be soo grateful for your opinions of the above names. Expecting baby #2 and it's confirmed to be a girl so now i get to obsess over names and browse girly toys and clothing.

My ex doesn't want to be involved so thought it might be good idea to join here.

TIA xx

Snore - you again? Are you saying you made the rules? No one cares what you did with your kids’ toys, just as no one should care what OP chooses to do with her kids’ toys. That was my whole point. She shouldn’t be commanded not to buy ‘girly’ toys because someone else has a different opinion or because of what you chose to do with your kids.

@FC78 , the message you are getting across is that it's acceptable in the second quarter of the 21st century to start stereotyping girls into traditional feminine roles before birth.

@Lollywollypop , Sabrina to me sounds strong and sassy and is more memorable than the other two, so go for it. All three names are nice.

TBH they are often old enough to state preferences at about 18 months.

And in practice it is very hard to control, even if the child goes along with it, as once they are at school you are not with them all the time.

Well I was - and I'm glad of it because I liked those things - and would have been gutted to miss out just so my mum could feel up to date.

I was also permitted to choose any boy stuff I wanted. I now have a profession that was traditionally male-dominated.

You can make things more of an issue than they are.

@Calliopespa ,Well I was - and I'm glad of it because I liked those things - and would have been gutted to miss out just so my mum could feel up to date.
I think you are misinterpreting. Did you really want things that were stereotyping girls into traditional feminine roles. ?
I don't mean girls mustn't have dolls.

Yes, but I wouldn’t have entertained anyone calling me anything other than my full name, even on my schooldays, I would tell them every single time to please use my given name, and nothing else.

If anyone decides to call anyone by a name they don’t use then I feel that’s very arrogant, whatever their age.

I was all set to call DD2 Victoria, but XH’s family immediately started saying Vicky, I wasn’t having that so I changed her name to something that couldn’t be shortened. She wasn’t even born and they were calling her Vicky.

The trouble with first names beginning with V is they may marry someone with a D surname.

I’m with your DD, all I see is vile / violent. Shame, as I love the flower, just completely hate it as a name.

I liked pink! Loved pink. And cute little bunnies and teddies over everything.

Rebecca

Rebecca

Pretty names.
I like Rebecca best, then Sabrina.

Rebecca 100%

Also you can control the shortening. I have a Rebecca, an Elizabeth and a Jessica in my family and none have ever been shortened.

Violet, 100%. Really beautiful name.

@RS1987 , You can but people will shorten them and you end up correcting people and it doesn't get viewed favourably.

I had only heard Jo being called Jo. When I met her, she said 'Joanna actually' and it made me feel a bit slighted. I wasn't in the wrong and neither was Joanna but it was awkward.

and none have ever been shortened. I don't believe that they never have been shortened.

I'm a Rebecca and I never use any other shortenings, so don't let that put you off.

Sabrina

Rebecca.

These are all really nice names. I don't think you can go wrong with any of them. Have you considered the nicknames? Rebecca might well be a Becks or a Becky. Violet might be Vi (pronounced Vye) or Lettie. Sabrina is probably the most nickname-proof. I think my favourite is Rebecca, although I'm not so keen on the nicknames. However, I do know a lovely Becky.

Any of them will be lovely. You have great taste in names!

Oh - what about middle names?

You can? Are your children still young?

I still think that if you dislike a shortening it's probably best to not use the name. There's not a lot you can do if the person whose name it is decides they'd prefer to be Becky.

Having said that I know someone who named their child something despite disliking the diminutive and the child has been called that diminutive all his life and the parents said it just completely suited him.

@PithyViewer , Sabrina is probably the most nickname-proof. Sab, Bree, Beena... but less obvious than Becky or Vi.

Sabrina or Rebecca for me. Not so keen on Violet.

Sabrina was the cool one in Charlie’s Angels (showing my age).