Taking someone else’s baby name

[mondray]

So hear me out here.

I’m due to give birth to my third boy in about 4 days. We’ve been struggling with boys names and really stuck up until I spoke to a mum from school.
She’s had a baby a couple of months ago and mentioned what she named him.
Now I knew immediately if I said this name to my husband it will be a done deal, as it’s the same name as his favourite tv-character. And that’s exactly what happened.

Now the boys will be in the same year mostly likely when they get older. The name isn’t unusual, but also isn’t super common.

Also to mention apart from this one conversation I’ve had with her, we’ve not spoken since. So don’t really know her and we’re not friend.

I feel really guilty, but love the name.
What’s everyone’s opinions?

Should we find another name? Even though we’ve struggled the whole pregnancy to find we both agree on?

Should we stick to it and apologies for stealing it? Might be a bit awkward, as mentioned previously we’ve only had that one conversation.

Any help would be amazing.

Am sure someone else has said this, but just chose the name you want. You may never encounter this other child or their family in school - they may move, you may move, even if they’re in the same year they may not be in the same class. No-one owns a name - my son is in a class of 7 at 6th form, there is another boy with his name. No issue for either of them.

If you both love it, choose it and think nothing more of it. And if ever comes up at the school pta or while selling cakes you just say that yes, it’s a great name isn’t it. Your DH loves it because of his favourite TV programme. End of.

There's 5 years until they start school. Maybe they might nit end up in the same school, let alone class. Maybe there'll be a run of people liking the name , and there'll be loads of them named x that school year. Not worth worrying about.

@mondray has your baby arrived?

@MidnightEagle Yes, he’s here now. Born on Tuesday morning and we decided to go with Jesse.
Nice to hear everyone’s opinions and that most people thought it was fine to use (with a few sprinkled in there disagreeing). But in the end we love it too much not to.

Congratulations on the birth of little Jesse. So glad you both went with the name that resonated for you both - let’s hope he’s not as much as a handful as his on screen namesake 🤣

Congratulations on your new baby!

I would personally think it was a little weird if I had one conversation with someone who asked my child's name, didn't express at the time that it was a contender for their child, and then used the same name.

And I'm someone with children who are the only ones with their names (that's I've seen on school newsletters etc anyway, but defo in their year groups)

Should she ever raise it, say that you have a family member called Jessica who you wanted to honour. Years at school have loads of children with the same name: Finlay, Archie, Olivia, all really popular.

Congratulations for your upcoming baby too.

Oh, just seen that he's here - congrats on the baby!

I think when you know there's going to be a child with that name it's different though, it's something else when it happens by chance

There were 5 Lindas , 4 Lynnes , 3 Davids in my class . Everyone gets nicknames anyway

I just hope you get on with the mum because this feels like one of those “omg we have the same name we’ve gotta be best friends” situations kids do 😂😅

A year group of 60 is a huge school. My kids have onky 6 in a year group ! Don’t worry about it. PS is the show Breaking Bad?

You both like it so just use it. Wouldn't bother the majority people at all, no one owns a name. There are 3 boys with the same name in my youngests year level and 2 girls with the same name in my eldest year level. They just get a nick name or first letter of surname added, so might get Jesse X. There were 4 girls with the same name in my year level at high school. It really wasn't a problem.

Just seen update, that's lovely. Congrats on your little Jesse.

Use the name