Family dont like our name choices

[Cosyreader1]

Hello..I'm a first-time mum to be. We've chosen not to find out the gender of our baby but have picked names for both. Ive found I've had mixed reactions which I don't mind (I know not everyone has the same taste) but it's knocked me a little that my family aren't keen on the boys name we've picked. The name is Toby, which I don't think is particularly out there or unusual. I don't think this will lead us to change it as it's our baby but just wondered how other people have dealt with similar situations?

Toby is a great name.

Just don’t tell people. When we were thrashing out baby name ideas, family members had strong views on some of them. It wasn’t remotely helpful. They started making suggestions within days of hearing about my pregnancy.

We ended up telling people a particular boy and girl name that we would never use in a million years when they asked, just to shut the conversation down.

Cecil and Bathsheba, I thank you for your service!

This advice is no use to you now, but it's best to keep your cards close to your chest when it comes to baby names. Announce the name when the baby arrives, not before.

Toby is a perfectly lovely name imo, fwiw.

It’s a lovely name and a little baby boy would suit that name beautifully.

Toby is a lovely name. Pay them no attention.

Your rookie error was to reveal the name before the birth. People then seem to think that you are putting it up for discussion and you will be on the receiving end of their stupid and unwanted opinions.

Put it down to experience this time, but in the future don't reveal the name before baby has arrived.

I wouldn't worry about it. We decided on a name for DS and changed our mind once he was born. I couldn't say his name and look at him at the same time because it really didn't suit him. We finally settled on his third name which was chosen by his older sibling.

Toby is a lovely name.
I'm sure they will love it once they get used to saying it.
It's not really anyone else's business.

It’s a nice name but they will probably be called carvery at some point, secondary school onwards. So many men give each other nicknames, I worked in an almost all male environment for a few years, I ended up with a nickname.

Don’t tell anyone. My friend had picked out names and her mum tried her best to overrule her with her choices. Grandma has had her go at naming babies, she needs to STFU.

Don't tell anyone. People act strangely when they hear unusual names. I love the name Toby by the way! ❤️

Oh I feel your pain! Toby is a lovely name!
My mum was desperate
To name my first child, I had so
Many answerphone messages with suggestions, we'd already chosen her name but didn't share it til she was born. My mum called me after a weekend in labour and an emergency section and just said am
I ALLOWED to know the name now? Really horrible, I said it's Tabitha, and she just said, what about Isabelle ... we've already chosen Tabitha, she tried to get the family to back her, even my dad, divorced my mum years earlier, called and tried to get me to change it, he said I'll call her Beth - I said you bloody won't, you'll call her Tabitha or tabby, Beth is not an option. My mum never apologised, she caused us so much hassle on a day which was amazing for us after 2.5 years TTC, multiple miscarriages and our beautiful perfect baby had arrived ... fucking people piss me off sometimes!

I love the name Toby. And it's YOURS and your partner's choice. I don't like my Granddaughter's name. But i have never indicated that (i hope!!) She is not my baby and i do not think name choice is an extended family decision.

It’s a nice name, but why on earth are you sharing names before baby is here? We haven’t told anyone our shortlist, haven’t decided on a name yet and won’t til baby is here safe and well.

@abracadabra1980

Fur babies.

Dogs of the past tended to either be working dogs or family pets often named by or with inclusion of the kids. Where as now theres a huge trend for child free adult adopting 'fur babies' and giving them very on trend baby names.

Whats even weirder is debate I have seen surprisingly more than once on where some have/had 'fur baby' then are having actual kids but have 'used up' their all time favorite baby names. They won't use their pets (alive or dead) name again, so they end up settling with a random weirder often more 'pet like' name for their actual kid.

I've been left thinking 'Really? You called your cats Charlie & Bella and you dogs Oliver, Lily & Hugo but your gonna name your actual human kid Meadow?'. It just seems backwards.