Not many people like the name I chose

[lilgarden]

I'm 37 weeks and a little less than a month ago I changed my baby's name after seeing a color sonogram of her face. I love her new name and I'm not too affected by people's opinions. It's not a weird name, and has a lot of sentimental value to me.

When I tell people her name, the response is usually darty and avoidant of any opinion on the name. Whereas with the name I had originally chosen often got "Omg I love that name" and more along those lines. And obviously I loved that name too! I just feel like this name fits her better.

I almost kind of like it this way though. I sat here and tried to type out an explanation as to why, but I can't. It feels more authentic.

Has anyone else dealt with something like this? It's just a weird experience.

I don’t know if it’s different where you are (I’m guessing you aren’t in the U.K. with some spelling and language choices) but it’s not at all common to tell people the name before the baby comes. Firstly a lot of people change their mind once they see the baby, and secondly people are less likely to say that they don’t like a name when the baby is there in front of them.

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The nature of MN is if you make a thread regarding a baby’s name people are going to want to know what the name is. It’s really not a shocking revelation. No point saying I love my baby’s name, other people don’t, and then refuse to reveal the name.

Most people weren't keen on the name we chose for our son. My mil was actually in tears! But everyone soon accepted it once he was here and didn't give it a second thought now.

People are curious/nosey. They don’t want y’all’s address.

Just y'all's baby's name.
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Notreat
Are you sure it's the name they are reacting to and not just that you had already announced the name and they got used to it and now you are announcing another name. Perhaps they are just want to wait until the baby is born as you might change your mind again.
Incidentally it is always better to wait until the baby is born to announce the name.

Why is it better to wait? It doesn't really make a difference. You're just calling the baby "baby" until they're born anyway. Might as well call them a name 😊

This. This is why. Because you are now on an anonymous forum pissed off because people appear to be judging. You don't want to share the name on an anonymous chat for privacy but are telling people you know, then getting annoyed when they have an opinion or seem to judge. This is EXACTLY why myself and DH didn't mention names until DS were born.

You are right.

No point in replying anymore, y'all. The poster has flounced.

I think I know the name.

Jimberly.

Genuinely can’t imagine reacting like this to someone being excited about their baby. Sad attitude

The responses on this post are embarrassing. We don’t need to know the name- op was asking if anyone had had a similar experience, not for a bunch of bitter Brendas to pile on her. Childish behaviour

Sorry but it’s stupid to share your baby name in advance. Even choosing a name baffles me. I can’t imagine choosing until my baby is here safe and well.

I disagree. If baby's name is Amberleigh posters could say that might be a usual name where you're from not in the uk. Or Pauline is a nice enough name but a bit dated. Or Xanthinia is unusual but people would get used to it. What's the point in a thread 'nobody likes my baby's name' pretty sure most people have experienced that since everyone has different tastes.

@lilgarden

my daughter has a really unusual name. It’s not ‘made-up’ or a weird spelling, it’s an old name and once was well-known. People, including my MIL, expressed their dislike of it when DD was born. We didn’t discuss it prior to birth because I’m superstitious and it felt like tempting fate. We’d also previously discussed names and felt people had too many opinions - the ones that got shot down in flames were perfectly ordinary names like Julia and Sarah, nothing wild. The name we did choose, after letting the midwives have their say, well, the person registering her birth sniffed at it, and made a rude remark, and a friend openly mocked it. To be honest, I couldn’t have given a shiny shite by that point, her name resonated with us, the midwives liked it and we felt it suited her perfectly. What you said about authenticity struck me. Sometimes it just fits and that’s that. I hope your daughter loves it too.

I like Spudulika better. It's exotic.

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Absolutely hilarious. Flouncers' Corner is that way. ➡️

Best MN flounce I've seen in ages. 🤣🤣

Yes, I think it might be this. If you tell them assuredly, "Yes, we are going to call her X", they're happy to have learned a little more about the impending new arrival. If you change it - before the baby is even born - that tells them that you haven't really decided, so it's not really information that they can retain and get excited about; just changeable early musings on your part.

They may also feel silly if they've told others and now have to backtrack. Plus, there's always the risk that they've been busily working on a personalised cross-stitch, blanket, jumper or similar and now all their work has been for nothing!

I'm not quite sure why having 'rumbled' OP as presumably American is being seen as such a 'gotcha', mind. People of all nationalities use MN; there are loads of Americans on here, and very welcome they are too.

I am guessing the OP is American

Nobody really cares that much about what you name your child. You probably went on so much about the old name and now this new name that people are looking at you thinking that it will be something else in two weeks time.
If you love the name , use it. Who cares what people think . Nobody knew my sons name until he was born because we loved it. I get the feeling though you need the validation from other people

Erm well it’s a foetus not a baby, and you can’t see its face properly on a scan, they always look weird.

But that apart it’s always a mistake to tell people the name you are thinking of, just tell them when she’s out and you’ve decided for certain.

If it’s a normal name then just ignore people.

On the off chance that the OP returns I'll just give this advice.
As you go through life you will be asked all sorts of questions, some very personal. Spoiler alert. You don't have to answer any. And sometimes, it's best not to answer.

Yup, American.

I'm an Alexandra - wonderful choice😁 ❤️