Not many people like the name I chose

[lilgarden]

I'm 37 weeks and a little less than a month ago I changed my baby's name after seeing a color sonogram of her face. I love her new name and I'm not too affected by people's opinions. It's not a weird name, and has a lot of sentimental value to me.

When I tell people her name, the response is usually darty and avoidant of any opinion on the name. Whereas with the name I had originally chosen often got "Omg I love that name" and more along those lines. And obviously I loved that name too! I just feel like this name fits her better.

I almost kind of like it this way though. I sat here and tried to type out an explanation as to why, but I can't. It feels more authentic.

Has anyone else dealt with something like this? It's just a weird experience.

You must know some strange people then.
Nobody ever asked me that when I was pregnant.

You sound terribly defensive.

Y'all are both wrong, as I don't bring it up on my own accord. I answer when asked but thanks for saying I talk too much about the baby I'm growing inside of my body 😂 what a joke.

Oh, the drama 😂

I think people aren't terribly interested, really.

Who cares what you name your baby. We didn't name any of ours until they were born.
We didn't know what sex they were, either.

OP I totally get why you're not disclosing the name, it's not the point of the thread at all.

I had opinions when I told people what my son's name would be, it's not an outlandish name but I still got mixed opinions on it. I would absolutely stand firm to the name you decide on, whatever it may be. Children grow into their names though and when they're 5, 10, 50... their name will be their name. It's your child and it's your responsibility and right to choose what it should be

I'm just responding with my experience to people who are assuming my experience as well as ignoring my original point which was if other people had gone through this.

Everyone hated my DD’s name! I literally mean everyone. Our neighbour at the time told us it’s horrible and we should change it. I felt pressured but loved the name and we changed the spelling but guess what? My youngest DD there are 2 girls in her class with same name as my eldestvspelt the way we originally wanted! Last year a mother was calling her child loudly to come and it’s the same name! I regret changing the spelling but I know the name is perfect.

As long as you and your OH are happy with the name, don't worry about it. Good luck with the birth 🍀

I didn't tell anyone my name until she was born except my DH told a couple we were out to dinner with and you could tell instantly they didn't like it ... and that's exactly why I kept it to myself I didn't want other peoples opinions or reactions

Alright I'm not responding to y'all after this. I did not anticipate receiving this amount of criticism or demand to know my babies name. Y'all are simultaneously saying "it's so weird to not tell us the name" but also disbelieving me that people want to know the name of my baby in person? It doesn't compute. Im not about to sit here and be berated online on what I thought was a mom advice app? It was a result when I googled that. However I was clearly mistaken and I'll stick with other forums. This is like reddit or Facebook where people are itching to bully apparently. Thanks y'all and have a good day.

I'm guessing it's something 'normal' but very era-specific, like Sharon or Linda or Pauline, so when people are reacting with less enthusiasm it's because they have a negative mental connection with their mother-in-law/primary school teacher/next door neighbour, and can't imagine a tiny baby with that name.

Cheery bye!

Byesie-bye.

OP I called baby one thing until she was born when I instantly realised my mistake

Just because people ask you don't have to say

And people might just not like the name - that's kind of to be expected as not everyone likes the same thing / you need to toughen up in that regard and not see them not liking the name as anything more than that - it's not a criticism of you or anything

@lilgarden You are being a little bit silly, you know.....

Don't let the door hit your bum on your way out

Y’all?

Yeah and you just say "I have a few options I'm waiting to meet her"

First of all, because, as you have done, you might want to change the name! Secondly, people generally are more accepting of names when the baby has been born, because when they haven't been born yet they think they can convince you to change the name if they don't like it! Thirdly, in my experience it's been fairly non-eventful when the baby that we knew the gender and name of was born.... the reaction of family when my SIL had told us both well in advance was very much "oh.... lovely. Glad all is well." as opposed to anticipation and excitement.

And "mom".

The grumpy OP hails from across the pond, methinks.

What’s the point of your post then.

Ah.
Many have asked this, but the OP has flounced.
🤣🤣🤣

I was going to ask if the name was Frogmella but given that OP is American and has probably flounced anyway there is little point.

Don't worry OP, you'll talk too much about her when she's born too and for at least the first year. Your good friends and family will roll their eyes and wait for you to be interesting again! It happens to us all.

In future when people ask if you've chosen a name just say 'not yet' or 'yes, but we're keeping it for ourselves until she's born', avoids all these problems.

And we won't hold the super defensive tone against you either. No-one has much patience at 37 weeks pregnant!

Bloody hell it seems you may be in America due to your repeated use of “y’all” which we don’t tend to use here and you’re concerned about the privacy aspect over mentioning your baby’s name.

do you have any idea how ridiculous that sounds?!

people are curious/nosey. They don’t want y’all’s address.