Is it wrong to give my baby my MIL name and not my own mum?

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Hi. I'm considering names for my future babies (planning to start trying soon, if all is well!) and if they are a girl I like the name Melody. I'd like a one syllable name as their middle name as I think that would sound better. My partner doesn't understand the need for a middle name as he doesn't have one but I do and I'd like to add one for them.

His mum is called Jane. So it would be Melody Jane. I love "MJ" as a potential Nickname too as I am a Spiderman fan.
My mum's name is Vicky (not Victoria, just vicky) and I don't think it goes as well. Other close family members names are Joan, Lillian and Jasmine.
I just think one syllable would be better.

I'm closer to my mum so she might feel a bit left out. Hmm!

Melody Jane is gorgeous.
Melody Jane Victoria? Two middle names?

What's mums maiden name, would that work as a middle name (some do, some really don't!)

Jay
June
Jewel
Jo

Nobody really uses their middle name so I don’t think it matters. Just go with what you like. I’d wait until you actually get pregnant though as you’re worrying yourself over nothing at the moment!!

Also, it’s your husband’s baby too! It would be the same reasoning for him if you were to choose your mum’s name instead of his!

I think you'll cause offence and hurt that your mother will never get over. Even if she doesn't say so.

How do you know this?!!! I certainly wouldn’t be bothered if my child didn’t use my name and use their other grandparent’s. My mum also wouldn’t be bothered. This is all a bit ridiculous over a hypothetical middle name.

Honestly he isn't bothered, I've spent so many hours thinking/looking and he probably would take inspiration from a milk bottle in the moment 🤣 he honestly does not care as long as he likes my suggestion. He doesn't think a baby needs a middle name either.

I like Melody Ann Jane better too. I mean, if you are planning more than one you may have 2 girls, or a girl and a boy you could call something Victor or she may not care. My DS is called after my dad and not fil because fil's name was horrible ( he was nice!) Does she like her name even? She may be horrified that you were going to inflict it on her dad.

I would 100% do this. Victor is an awesome boys name!