Everyone hates my baby names!

[DinoNuggetsRUs]

I'm really struggling to find a name for our baby boy that my partner also likes. I steamrolled him with it last time as I found all his suggestions ridiculous and our first son is called Max, much to his disdain.

There are two names we both agree on, not my favourites but I really want one we've both chosen this time:

Sonny & Reid

I've googled these, looked at mumsnet and Reddit and it seems everyone thinks they're awful names.

Names I like which husband has said absolutely not to:

Samson (a compromise on Sonny, use Sonny as a nickname and have this on bc so he can go by Sam when he's older if he finds Sonny childish)
Luca
Rory
Charlie

Husband leans towards more American names which I'm not massively a fan of.

Any suggestions? Are the ones we agree on really that awful? Idek I'm getting so stressed with it as I'm feeling like a lot of his suggestions are just ridiculous.

I'd go with one of his original choices for your first, River or Robin.

Both nice names, I know of lovely boys called both.

Also they both go well with Max!

I honestly wouldn't worry what people on the internet say about names. I searched my name on here and saw comments saying people with my name would be constantly bullied and it would invoke ridicule. In reality I haven't been bullied and have people telling me it's a lovely name 🤣 for what it's worth I love the name Sonny!

I like Austin. Since you chose the name last time, it’s only fair that your DH gets to choose this time.

OP MN and Reddit will always tell you to go really safe.

That's fine but that can also be dull.

Your husband's list is out there. It's not going to go well. Personally I like Maverick but only as a second name - it's a Dad's embarrassing choice like Danger or Ace but I think it's kinda fun and second names are almost there to be embarrassing. Better to be embarrassed by Maverick rather than Norman or Roger though!

I think Samson is nice. It's different without being too out there either. In person no one is going to give you grief for it and it has a sensible short version anyway.

Of your husband's choices Austin isn't bad either. It's more on trend than many think. It's not too popular either.

Your husband needs sending to a western set though. And preferably shot for the rest of his choices!

But yes, pick something you really love - don't settle for something the internet thinks is safe. You'll regret it. But equally, don't pick something that's really out there to the point of stupidity.

The trick is to pick something

1. on trend but not too popular or too try hard. Don't go top 20 or something trying to fit the trend too hard.
2. something familiar enough without leaving someone going wtf.
3. something that doesn't scream 'I've copied this from a celeb'
4. And preferably something easy to spell / doesn't have multiple spellings.

Reid for example fails the last test. That's why I'd avoid that.
American style names are on trend but if you are sounding like a western you've generally gone too far.

Carson is an American name.

Robin is a lovely boy's name OP. Go for it!

Gene?

I know a boy called Blane?

Robin is a lovely name!! Classic, but still unusual. I know a couple of men called Robin and it really suits them.

I’ve never met any female Robin’s with an ‘I’. They’ve usually spelt it with a ‘Y’, if that makes any difference

I really hate Sonny, sorry, I can't imagine a teen or an adult with that name. Reid is not great and will be misspelt.

Of your DHs other names, I like Austin. I like pretty much all your suggestions.

There's a reason for being told to go safe.. Look at the names celebs have called their children! And Zowie Bowie changed his name to the pedestrian Duncan! A sleb may pull it off, because they are a sleb, whereas Joe Public probably can't!

There are plenty of nice names that aren't 'out there'. My sibling taught a Destiny - wonder how she will feel when she's 25? or 65?! Oh and a Sapphire. Some names just don't age well! I prefer more classic, timeless names. I am not a huge fan of my own name because it really, really dates me!

@DinoNuggetsRUs imagine how DS2 will feel when he's older if you call him Maverick and his sibling Max has a much nicer, more 'normal' name!? Do you think he will thank you for it?!

I adore Rory.

Samuel with Sammy as nick name

Rowan and Max are great together

Austin and Max are also great together

I prefer Otis and Remy

Jimbob …. the US name Jimberly never got🤪

Austin is lovely.

Aaron is nice too

I like sonny

Mackenzie

Agree that it doesn't matter one bit what anyone else thinks.

That said (😁) Sonny is very '...and Cher'/American (DH has chosen a rather unpopular name-trend, there) and Reid, as others of said, seems like setting the kid up for a lifetime of shit 'bants' about whether or not they like to read. I mean, imagine if he gets to primary and struggles with reading! It's just asking for it!

Luca is nice, I think. Not hugely common, either.

Agree re Robin - much nicer for a girl.

Have you tried The Times birth announcements? Some corkers there, if you like 'different' names.

I do agree there are good reasons to play safe.
It's a child, not a dog or cat, the child needs a name that they can life with without embrassment.

Sonny I'm never sure if it's meant to be like Sunny 🌞 / 👩‍👦or more like Sony hifis I assume Sonny like my son but its an infants name.

Same with Junior, how do you get taken seriously at 50 with an infants name?

Sonny abd Reid are both dreadful. I am sorry.
Luca and Rory are lovely.

Much prefer your choices to your DH's.

How would he feel about Jackson , Archer or Harrison.. then they could become Jack, Archie or Harry ?

My favourite on your list is Charlie though

Op does DH have a name the could become (name) son, like Harry / Harrison

Go with the name you like as long as it’s not offensive. Once baby is here they will suit the name and people will get used to it and in my experience start to love the name as they associate it with the baby.

Are you sure you can’t get on board with Austin? It’s definitely the nicest from his list.

Not keen on Sonny or Reid personally.