Would it be weird to use the middle name

[Marshmallowtoastie]

I’d like to name my baby a fairly common first name and a middle name from our culture, then we would use the middle name day to day and always introduce them by the middle name.
Do you think I could ask the school or other places to use the middle name as well? I’m worried it will be confusing, but I like that they have the option when applying for jobs or go to new places when they are older that they will have the option of a British sounding name, as we’ve experienced issues ourselves due to our names.

My DS has always been known by his middle name, never an issue in school/college.

Not at all unusual, I know several people who have done this with their kids, or grew up with that themselves. But an interesting point about a) informality and b) names on databases etc. Although quite a lot of contexts allow something for 'Known as' - we see this quite a lot as our oldest has chosen a different name since 2 years ago that they'd like to go by but we're waiting until they are old enough to change it themselves if they still want it (which I think they will), so we often fill things in with their given name and 'Known as'

Yup. Me too. It’s a right PITA. People at appointments ask your name and you can never remember whether you gave your actual name or your first name and then you look like you are stupid. You always get called the wrong name. Every single teacher has to be told. Just out the name you want to use first.

That’s also what I was planning on doing- first name British Victorian, 2nd father’s culture, last double barrel. That way people
from both sides can have a name they can pronounce and DD can also have a completely British name if she chooses.

Please don't do that, my parents did this to me and as someone else has mentioned already its a pain in the ar se for your whole life .I've hated the experience, it's been a pest, don't make life harder for your child

Teacher here. Shouldn't be a pain. I've had this exact scenario in multiple classes in multiple schools and has never been an issue. Obviously every school has different policies but I would be surprised if they made it an issue.

Yes, but what happens after the child leaves school? The world outside school is nowhere near as careful and understanding about this kind of stuff.

I do understand pps point about it being a pain because you have to explain. But I have to explain my name anyway, every teacher at school, every receptionist every new person I still meet is me explaining my name, teaching them the pronunciation, them asking questions about it, them asking me to spell it over and over and then usually them still getting it wrong. I also often use a shorter easier version and then have to remember if I’ve given them that, or the longer official version of my name. So I can’t see how that is any different, except dc could have the option of an ‘easy’ name too.
Im wondering if the people unhappy with it being complicated have names like Sarah Jane, in which case you could just as well be either name, and life could have been easier.

To be honest I don't know why you
bothered to ask the question in the first place as you have obviously made up your mind what you want to do from your lived experience and that's fine but don't try and second guess those you have taken the time to tell you it's a real pain in their experience . You seem to be dismissing their experience as not comparable with yours.

I haven’t made up my mind. Do you really think people make important decisions by saying oh welp some people have said this won’t be ok. I don’t fully understand why, and a few other people have said it’ll be fine, but I best make my entire decision based off what this particular group say. I won’t try to fully understand it, I won’t ask any more questions, I’ll just do what they say?

@Marshmallowtoastie , you can use the middle name as the known as name, but it's a PITA. You won't be the person living with the nuisance.

I'm biased because I detested being called by the first name, but if I liked the name I might have just switched to using it all the time. People who have switched from the middle name to the first often get thought of as being a bit up themselves. My close family view me going by a diminutive of my known as name struggle with it.

Here are some people who are known by their middle name;

• Christopher Ashton Kutcher
• William Bradley Pitt
• Laura Jeanne Reese Witherspoon
• Hannah Dakota Fanning
• John William Ferrell
• James Paul McCartney
• Marvin Neil Simon
• Walter Bruce Willis
• Barbara Jane Horrocks
• Robyn Rihanna Fenty
• Henry Warren Beatty
• Troyal Garth Brooks
• Thomas Sean Connery
• Keith Rupert Murdoch

Bear in mind that some of them might have needed to use a stage name because someone else had used the name already.

Secondary teacher here. Register can have ‘preferred name’ on; however official exam certificates have to be legal name. So would have the name they go by as their middle name, if you see what I mean.

Both my names need spelling or explanation. It would just be easier not to add the complication that I’m using my middle name.