Name regret - too much pressure for a miracle baby?

[FFSparenting]

I keep obsessing about my baby's name and wonder if anyone on here felt the same. Maybe it's common to feel this way but this is my first and most likely only baby due to a long journey with fertility issues, multiple losses and failed IVF. I then found myself pregnant naturally out of nowhere after having accepted I would be child free. I now have an amazing baby son who is lovely and doing really well. He is my miracle and the miracle of our family as he is the only grandchild on either side.

We could not decide on name throughout the pregnancy, I had many girls names I would have loved but could not settle on a boys name. Not one that really sparkled and felt right.

We could not decide even after he was born and were getting close to the deadline so settled on a name that I thought I wouldn't regret because it is solid and classic. But perhaps because of my fertility issues the name had to be so special that it was impossible to find one that felt right? I get quite 'meh' responses to his name which I find quite gutting and I find myself not using it and using silly nicknames instead. Does anyone else feel like this? Am I over thinking it?

The name is Jack. I can't help feel there was something better for him and it's casting a shadow over what is an absolute miracle given all our hurdles to have him.

Well, after that huge build up I did rather expect it to be something rather spectacular.

He will thank you for Jack instead!!

I think you’re over thinking it. Are you sure you’re not really wanting people to be more wow about his name because of all you’ve been thought to get there? My son has a very normal name. I love it because everyone knows it, everyone can spell it, I never have to repeat it, everyone pronounces it properly. As well as the fact that it sounds good and I love the idea that it’s a name that’s been in use for hundreds and hundred of years.

It's a lovely name. Enjoy him!

It is a lovely name.

Who are these rude people giving a "meh" response? - who the hell do they think they are? It is absolutely none of their business.

It is a good solid name that will stand him in good stead - nothing pretentious that he will have to be embarrassed about for the rest of his life, whilst also having a certain charm. If I had had any boys .......

Sending lots of love to dear little Jack - a true miracle. .

You’ve saved him from a lifetime of being your miracle every time he introduced himself.

In a lot of countries, names more or less come from a prescribed list, so that kids don’t get too defined by their origin stories / parental emotions at the time of birth.

The ‘special’ names from when I had my first DCs had a comedy second act when school started and parents discovered that weird groupthink where everyone picks the same ‘unusual’ name & suddenly there are loads of them around. I also find that they can really place the child’s social class - in a way that’s actually kind of limiting and regrettable.

Jack is great. Jack will be exactly who he chooses to be.

OP a baby's method of conception doesn't correlate to how wanted, precious and loved they are.

DS was the product of a drunken one night stand and his dad is a right dickhead. He is still very much wanted and absolutely adored and extremely precious to me. He is my miracle and no less worthy of being called one that's any other baby. 🧐

I love Jack. It's a classic and lovely name. DH and I had a miracle baby, tried for years. Fell pregnant once. Had her and never had another and we just named her what we liked and what would suit her. It wasn't the name I'd had picked for years but was the right name if that makes sense. It's Sofia. The name id had for years was grace

Honestly - I don’t understand the angst over names. Names are a way of distinguishing us from others, so are an admin thing really; a name doesn’t “make” you or say anything about who you are. It’s just a way of distinguishing you from the next person. I firmly believe it’s unkind to saddle a child with a name to which many people’s response is “What?”. My maiden surname was impossible to spell and I hated that; I made sure that both my kids had names which were recognisable and easy to spell. Jack is a nice name for a little boy. People can spell it. They won’t make assumptions about him when they hear it. On that basis, I think you’ve served him well!

Jack is a lovely solid dependable name I really like it, my gp is called jack too
my sons name I don’t like I should’ve called him Matthew tbh that’s what I wanted
but he has this name now so suits him he can change it one day if he chooses

Jack is a gorgeous name! Huge congratulations!
I thought you were going to say something really dull or awful. Jack is a strong, classic name that is always going to be popular because it’s such a great name.

I think that maybe you had such a massive build up to becoming pregnant, being pregnant and now he is here it’s suddenly all a bit of a blur. He is incredibly precious of course but maybe for the first time in a long time you are able to relax and enjoy your little one but can’t remember how.

If you had said Penfold I might agree with you 😂

Jack is a fantastic name. I'd have seriously considered it if we had had a boy (had 3 girls instead).

😐 seriously?

I don't hear of many baby Jack's anymore, last one I know is now 8! I would stick with it. I did have a wobble about my baby's name after some 'it's meh' or '_ is SO much better' here on Mumsnet. Not everyone is going to love your choice but so what.

@Mischance

I don’t think people are saying ‘meh’ to the child’s name. I think op means their reaction is ‘meh.’ Like they’re not acting excited/wow to the name. But of course most of us are probably like that!

That poster was correcting a typo in their previous post, not saying the name was bog standard.

Is classic name, timeless

I am not a fan of top 100 names, let alone top ten, HOWEVER, I make an exception for Jack. I absolutely love love love it. Enjoy your darling boy. I hope you can feel better about his name.

Jack is a wonderful name. It's the name of my much loved Grandad who was honestly a truly special man.

Your son is special, his name doesn't have to be.

Jack is gorgeous - excellent choice mama. I had mild name regret that I DIDN'T call my son Jack - genuinely.

As PP have said, it's a name that he can take anywhere. Classic, sweet, strong etc.

FWIW if I'd met you and you said his name is Jack, I would have enthusiastically said 'aww LOVELY name'.

Congratulations on your beautiful miracle boy.

Love Jack.

I have a nephew. I sometimes lengthen it to Jackson.

You couldn't have picked a more solid strong sound name for a boy. It's lovely.

Less can most definitely be more

My nephew is called Jack. Everyone loves it. It's a strong classic name.

One of my friends recently had a boy and called him "Orlando" everyone in our group commented on how AMAZING the name is and how lovely and it's so great that it's so unusual..

When she left with the baby they all started laughing and saying how pathetic the name was 🥴 so moral of the story - you can't trust what people say to you or what their reaction is. Who cares what people think.

Personally I like classic names & I do think jack is a lovely name 😃

Are those people still your friends? They sound like a bunch of nasty little primary school girls. I’d not have been listening to any of that type of poison/mean girl talk.

Jack is a lovely name. You don't want a name that people react to!! I think you're overthinking it because of all the trauma of getting to this point.

I actually regret not calling my baby son Jack!