Honest thoughts please! I won’t be offended!

[Mamatoobee]

Our first baby (IVF after TTC for 15 years!) is due in 4 months.
If it’s a boy, we’d like to honour our fathers in naming our baby boy.

My DF is Michael and FIL is Raymond (goes by Ray). However, we aren’t as keen on giving them their full names.

We thought about the below names but my sister said they were too ‘out there’ and wondered if you MN babes think the same!

Micah Ray or Raymi (usual spelling Rémi)

TIA

Thanks for your honesty. Think we will go back to the drawing board. We aren’t so keen on very traditional names and both fathers names are very traditional.

I love Michael and considered it for Dd (before we knew she was a girl!). I’d either go with own choice then Michael Raymond as middle names or Michael Raymond.

Congratulations OP! I think using both Michael and Raymond as middle names is fine, and really quite lovely. My DH has two middle names due to his parents wanting to use both grandfathers' names too. Pick a name that you love for your boy.

Dont try & mix the names up - you’ll sound like a teenager off Twilight.

Pick a name you like & add the other names as middle names. Also don’t forget you may have another son in the future… leave a name for him!

Otherwise go for Michael Ray - just because Michael is a nicer name. Use Mikey-Ray as a nickname.

go for Michael Ray if you want to use their names. Otherwise don't bother.
This.

I'd use Michael or Raymond as the middle name. Otherwise how's it honouring them if it's a totally different first name

Michael Ray is much lovelier

raymi is dreadful

Your kid will get bullied with do-re-mi if you call it Raymi.

Definitely Michael Ray as middle names.

No. Just give them a normal name. They'll have to live with it. Why do you need to 'honour' the grandfathers?

micah-ray is probably the best out of the 2 I'm not keen on Raymi at all. how about Mickey Ray or Mikey Ray. I actually quite like Michael Ray actually as its not a name you hear much for babies now so good chance he'll be the only Michael in the class. Also Ray is nice as a first name.

I really like Micah Ray

Another thing you could do is use both their names as your son’s middle names. That’s what my friend did.

Could you use them both as middle names? Eg James Michael Raymond

Oh jeez don't.
I had a conversation with my dsis once. " I was going to give my Dd your middle name but I don't like it"
Thanks said I.
Just pick a name you like and have Micheal Raymond as middle ones

Use Raymond - it's a lovely name. NNs will be Ray or (when older) 'Raymondo' - harmless.

Micah ray is fab. Reymi is big no. It sound childish and unprofessional. You have to think about the baby ehen he is grown aswell. I think micah ray better

All pretty grim I’m sorry,

But massive congratulations!!

We used family names as middle names.

My MIL died very unexpectedly and so we used her name as a middle name for our daughter, DH did ask for it to be her first name but I wanted our daughter to have her own name.

Many congrats OP, what an exciting time for you. The only Remy’s I have known are female. You have waited a long time for your son, personally I will chose a name I loved and give DH & FIL names as middle names. Very best wishes.

I have both my grandmothers names, I’ve got my given name, plus parents choice of middle then each of my grandmothers names so my name is something like Lisa Marie Mary Angela Smith.

I'd use those names as middle names and give your baby a name you like that has been chosen by you. It seems you're trying to honour relatives AND give him a name you like. You can't do it all. Gently, you've had a long journey to get here, maybe please yourself rather than others, you deserve it

Micah is lovely, but it’s not an derivative of Michael; it’s a completely different name! Why not just use Michael? It’s a classic, and Mikey is a very cute shortening for a little boy.

I actually think Michael Raymond (insert Surname) sounds really nice and surely if you want to honour them both by giving your son their names, you’d use their full names. Micah alone is a lovely name. Remi is too. Raymi doesn’t sit right, not sure why but it doesn’t quite roll off the tongue.

Firstly, many congratulations. Micah Ray is fine, although I can’t see what’s wrong with Michael, a perfectly good name with plenty of potential nicknames.

Raymi is made-up and ridiculous.

I am not a fan of ‘honouring’ relatives by imposing their names on our children. Our children deserve their own names. They are not sacrifices to be offered up in ‘honour’. Honour the relationship by creating lots of closeness and family times with their grandparents.

Let your DH change his name to Raymi in honour of his Dad and ILs, and see how he likes it!

Choose a name that you live for its own sake and that you imagine your child growing into.

Raimi.

Do it.