Family strongly dislike baby name

[Abc986]

Im 30 weeks pregnant with my seccond, its a boy again, which my family made it very ovious they wanted a girl and was disapointed when i revealed its a boy.

After weeks and weeks of discussing names with my partner we finally settled on Reggie a couple of weeks ago, kept it to ourselves untill we knew it would stick and now its stuck we have been telling family.

Very few family actually like the name and my family have been very strongly against it. Saying its a drug gang name, i cant name my child that. Then going on to suggest other names. I firmly tell them no Reggie is what we have settled on and that will be his name. To which i get the response you will change your mind when you see him so what about this name.

Its really upsetting me and im due to go to a siblings birthday party tomorow and i really dont want to go as i know the topic of names will be brought up.

[heartofgoldcoins]

Unless your first born is Ronnie then they can stick their opinion where the sun don't shine

[canyoutoleratethis]

And this is why you must never tell people the name of your child before it's born! Seriously OP, you were just asking for trouble. People tend to not give you such negative reactions if you hold off announcing until after the child is actually born - few people would be so rude to an actual baby. The damage is unfortunately done now, so it just depends on how much you love the name - if you do, tell them that their opinion is not relevant and you will not be changing it. For what it's worth, I love Reggie and think you should stick to your guns!!

[Apple333]

Love the name reggie - ignore them all. Congrats 💙

[Partyof2]

I had this after my daughter was born and we announced the name. To be honest I think it sent me into a bit of a spiral of pnd and extreme anxiety that I had made the wrong decision. Now she is older and I adore her name. Stick to your guns!

[Spaghag]

There's absolutely nothing wrong with Reggie. Unless, as a PP said, your older child is called Ronnie.

It sounds as though your family are ill mannered joy thieves. Stealing your joy about having a lovely baby boy by expressing their own disappointment & then, as if that wasn't bad enough, stealing your joy at announcing your perfect name by telling you to pick something else.

I'm so sorry they have behaved so appallingly.

[SharonWattsCrispyExtensions]

It's none of their business. Tell them they get to name their kids and you get to name yours. And shut the topic down.

Perfect example though of why you shouldn't reveal your baby's name before they've arrived. Much easier to diss the name of an as yet unborn baby, than a real life farting and gurgling one.

[USaYwHatNow]

Eurgh I feel your pain. Some of my family were instantly 'disappointed' that our baby will be a boy, not a girl. I've then deliberately not told them the name we like because I cba with any more of the drama. I think Reggie is cute.

[ladygindiva]

Reggie is very cool. Ignore your family. If someone starts about it just loudly cut in with " not up for debate" and change the subject.

[KirstenBlest]

Reggie is ok. Be prepared for people asking you if you are/were disappointed DC2 isn't a girl though, and have a stock reply to nip it in the bud. Do not say yes.

My stock answer was that as a DD2, I had always liked having a DSis, so two of the same was great

[RogerThatBravoOne]

I had this from my family. Stick to your guns. It really upset me when I experienced what you are. My family love his name now he’s older and think he suits it. I didn’t make the same mistake with my second, he was born and they were simply told what he was called. I do think my mum looks back and sees how much of an arsehole he was at the time.

[RogerThatBravoOne]

She was *

[inappropriateraspberry]

Never, never, NEVER tell anybody your name choice u til the baby is born.
Unless you have a child called Ronnie and/or your surname is Kray, Reggie is a perfectly acceptable name. Ignore them, stick to your guns and they'll soon get used to it.

[Bunce1]

It’s a class marker name, in the same way Octavia or Crispin are.

You love it, use it.

Names are totally subjective.

[BaaMoon]

What a horrible family you have I'm so sorry x if it were me I'd just shout at them and blame the hormones but that probably isn't the right way to go about it.

[Kite22]

And this is why you must never tell people the name of your child before it's born! Seriously OP, you were just asking for trouble. People tend to not give you such negative reactions if you hold off announcing until after the child is actually born - few people would be so rude to an actual baby

This.
By bringing it up before the name belongs to an actual person, then there is an unspoken 'thing' that there is still time to change it. By waiting until the baby is born, and you deliver the lovely news that the baby has arrived safely and that you are going to call him / her X, it is fait accompli and people are much less likely to share their opinions.

[TabithaTittlemouse]

This is why you don’t tell people the name before you give birth.

[pictish]

Well I don’t like Reggie…but it’s hardly offensive or out there. If you like it, use it. Your family will get used to it.

[CheshireCats]

@Bunce1 So what class is Reggie??Personally, I don't associate it with any class...

[Yahyahs22]

My brother and dad hated the name of my second son, now he's here and 3 weeks old they say nothing about the name (before it was digs, 'are you still settled on the name?' And 'you'll change your mind when you see him') the name seems to have grown on them both and it's a very unusual name

[Bunce1]

@CheshireCats

@Bunce1 So what class is Reggie??Personally, I don't associate it with any class...

Working class. Obviously. Why take offence?

I suspect that’s why family have taken such a strong dislike to it. It’s a strong name. No getting away from it. Mrs Hinchs baby boy called Reggie?

[ChazzaGirl]

I honestly wouldn’t dream of voicing my unasked-for opinion on a baby’s name. It’s quite shitty of them but please try not to get upset about it - it’s your little boy and your choice.

For what it’s worth, I think Reggie is a really nice name.

[pinklavenders]

I don't like Reginald or Reggie personally

But what matters is that YOU like it, regardless of your family.

[SpiderinaWingMirror]

Honestly, you will have to hoik up the big girl pants and ignore them.
You and dh like the name, it's not like you are calling him Gary.

[pinklavenders]

Mrs Hinchs baby boy called Reggie?

Ronnie

[SharonWattsCrispyExtensions]

I have no idea who Mrs.Hinch is but I do know a young Reggie whose parents are very middle class. He has a sister called Stella.

All those Alfie/Freddie/Reggie type names seem to have been adopted by the masses.