Family strongly dislike baby name

[Abc986]

Im 30 weeks pregnant with my seccond, its a boy again, which my family made it very ovious they wanted a girl and was disapointed when i revealed its a boy.

After weeks and weeks of discussing names with my partner we finally settled on Reggie a couple of weeks ago, kept it to ourselves untill we knew it would stick and now its stuck we have been telling family.

Very few family actually like the name and my family have been very strongly against it. Saying its a drug gang name, i cant name my child that. Then going on to suggest other names. I firmly tell them no Reggie is what we have settled on and that will be his name. To which i get the response you will change your mind when you see him so what about this name.

Its really upsetting me and im due to go to a siblings birthday party tomorow and i really dont want to go as i know the topic of names will be brought up.

[Squiff70]

@whattodo2019

Sorry but i agree. Reggie is an awful name... I imagine a badly behaved child with a shaven head....

Exactly... YOU imagine! So screw what the baby's parents imagine, it's what YOU think that counts? Also, imagination isn't reality. J/S.

[Abc986]

Like any name its going to get mixed reviews but my familys reaction has really upset me

[Starbeach]

We've picked a name haven't told anyone yet but my mum always ask so I humour her and go through name lists and add in the name we've picked so I know she doesn't like it, but, who cares it your child.

If I'm honest it's not in the top 10 names I probably would have picked but we went through fertility treatment through covid and the OH was treated so horribly I thought why not l let him pick the name as long as it wasn't completely horrendous.

BIL picked an out there name for his baby and everyone commented when he was born now no one bats an eyelid.

Stick to your guns Reggie is a lovely name anyway 😊

[Ikeptgoing]

@Abc986

Like any name its going to get mixed reviews but my familys reaction has really upset me

Yes your family are insensitive

[SteveABC]

You should name your child Reggie. There is nothing wrong with that name at all. Someone seems a bit hysterical and narrow-minded. You are the mother and you can't live your life how your family wants you to live it, otherwise you'll have regrets.

[Lisabëthrose]

You should follow your Heart and choose the name you want. Reggie is a cute name, and you have no reason to be ashamed of it.
Did i make a mistake, if i have the sensation that your family involve too much in your personal life?
To be honest when i read that they were disapointed that you wouldn't have a girl, i was shocked.
We don't choose the baby identity, and it's not to the family to tell if it's great or not.
It's crazy that your family is disapointed, while to have a girl or a boy is not a "choice", but it's simply not us that decide the sex of the baby
I understand how you could feel about the name: My own mom dislike names that aren't common, while me i like names that are original.

So take your individuality and don't let them put limitations in your life. Show who you really are and not how they try to condition you. Good luck, and really don't let them decide for you, it's your life, your baby.

[LittleFilly]

Congratulations on your imminent little boy.

However hard it feels, please ignore the naysayers and stick with the name you love. There will always be someone who doesn't like your choice. What matters is what you think.

We had a couple of snide comments about our son's name after his birth ("what a mouthful"). And we kept being asked what we planned to shorten our daughter's name to (er, we didn't!). All these comments came from family or pseudo-family.

People can be incredibly rude and thoughtless. All the more so when they're related to you or think they have the right to their strident opinion. They really don't.

It's particularly unkind and inappropriate to be fending off criticism about something as personal as a name choice when you're pregnant, tired, full of hormones and feeling more vulnerable than usual.

You may find that your friends react rather differently to your family. Which is a good reminder that names come and go in fashion. What was wildly inappropriate when Auntie Beryl was in primary school may now be considered a handsome choice.

Please lose no more sleep over their unkind, petty comments. If you and your partner happen upon a name you love more, by all means, change tack. But otherwise, just enjoy these final weeks of pregnancy and your little Reggie when he arrives.

I'm sure he'll be so scrumptious that, ultimately, no-one will give two hoots what he's called.

[Abc986]

@LittleFilly 6 weeks on and my mum said yesterday she's beginning to get used to the name Reggie now. We're sticking to the name Reggie. Lots of our friends and work colleagues have all said Reggie is a lovely name