Brother in law being a prick about name

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My brother in law is being a total arsehole about the name we chose for DS, every time he says it he pulls a face and says it cringes him to say, when we first told him the name he said he refuses to call him it and will just call him Sam, which isn't remotely similar and he has a few instances said things like "Sammy boy' and it's really hurtful to be honest he won't say his actual mame without pulling a face and it just seems to be constant jokes and rudeness, calling him the American dream etc. It's not an offensive name at all, it's Brody, and I don't think it warrants this strong a reaction. Yes it is a little bit American, also has Scottish connections, yes we are English. I'm just starting to get a complex about it now, I know not everyone will like a name but to be some outwardly rude?

@Polyethyl
“A chum lumbered her child with a terrible name. I said " that's a terrible name, I'm going to use your child's middle name instead."
No dramas”

You sound annoying.

I love the name Brody! We’re having a baby boy this month and this name was on my list but DH wasn’t enough of a fan of it. Tell your BIL that until he learns to respect the name of his nephew he won’t be able to come and see him. I don’t understand why people feel the need to be like this with a child’s name, if it continues into when your child starts to understand he’s being taken the piss out of then it could cause some issues with his self esteem. Just childish and unnecessary.

Brodie is my favourite name for a boy by a mile. I love it. It's super popular in Scotland at the moment, if you combine Brodie and Brody spellings it's in the top ten.

Your BIL is being a monumental prick about it.

It’s a great name.
Your bil is being an idiot. Just start calling him a different name from now on, he will get the message pretty quickly.
My mil didn’t like our dds name at first, she said ‘I will have to get used to it’ we said ‘yes, you will, as that’s her name’

My aunt has never called me my actual name in 35 years because she doesn't like it... It hasn't harmed me in any way and it's a bit of a family joke.

He is definitely being a prick though

I really hate the name, but that's no excuse! You don't just refuse to call someone by their name because you don't like it, how strange . Do they do this with people they work with, or with their friends?

"Hi, I'm your new colleague, Maxine"
"I'm sorry, but I really dislike saying your name, so just a warning that I'm going to call you Louise".

I'd refer to him as uncle dickhead

A chum lumbered her child with a terrible name. I said " that's a terrible name, I'm going to use your child's middle name instead."

Why would you even think to say that? What if your "chum" has said "No, actually, I would like you to use their first name?".

I simply don't understand why other people think they get a say in what to call someone else's child. It's absolutely bonkers behaviour... And you only do it with children, but you all respect other adults and their names, so why?

Really nice name x

Brody is a lovely name. It's usually those people closest to us that feel that they are entitled to pontificate. As suggested many times, change BIL's name to one more suitable to him. Uncle Nob Head, Uncle Fester ....

I've only ever had to say one particular name which actually did make me wince when I heard myself saying it. So I tried to avoid it as much as I could. (Primary school teacher.) Obviously had to say it at least a couple of times a day.

So there are some names out there which can 'grate'. I can't understand the massive overreaction to Brody - cute as a baby name and masculine as an adult name - perfect.

I like it and double plus for Scottish connections.

That's a lovely name.

As for BIL "oh look Brody, Uncle Knobhead is here again!!! Say Hi Uncle Knobhead!"

I don't like Brody but that doesn't matter.

Your BIL is unreasonable.

He’s a bully. And as little Brody gets older I can almost 100% guarantee that he’ll be one of those uncles that aren’t happy till they make their nephew/niece cry. We had one of them... been NC for 8 years now. Not just because of being horrible to my kids but that was the final straw.

I don't like the name Brody it's not my type of name..

However if I meet a Brody I call him Brody as thats his name.

Tell Bil to stop being a rude knob and learn some manners and use his nephews name

When I first started reading your thread I was expecting it to be something really different or something, but Brody is not that unusual and it is a really lovely name! Don’t care what anyone else thinks!

Not so similar situation but when I was pregnant my husbands cousin was 12 weeks behind me, I found out at 20 weeks we was having a girl, we already had her name picked out and everything and everyone knew this, when I was 8 months pregnant my husbands cousin found out she was having a girl and said she wanted the same name for her baby! We had already picked out the name since we knew we was having a baby so we wasn’t going to change it expecially since we did choose it first and it’s the name we loved and wanted and had been calling our daughter since we found out, our daughter was born and we chose the name, my husbands cousin was talking about us behind our backs saying “ we stole her baby name” and apparently her daughter was in tears because we “ stole their name” it actually really upset me because we had the name first which they all clearly knew, her daughter was born and she still called her the same name anyway.

My point is don’t care what people say, You love the name so choose it. The name is lovely so don’t let it put you off or change your mind he is just being an idiot.

do they do this with people they work with, or with their friends?

"Hi, I'm your new colleague, Maxine"
"I'm sorry, but I really dislike saying your name, so just a warning that I'm going to call you Louise".

It shrieks of self importance doesn’t it.

I know someone who, when introduced to new work colleagues, said ‘I’m going to call you Lizzie because I call everyone Lizzie because I can’t remember names’. Of course what she meant is she couldn’t be bothered remembering names. And yes she called everyone Lizzie. She should have been pulled up on it but nobody ever bothered with her much.

@Youcansaythatagainandagain I knew someone like that. Huge drama when I refused to be Louise

@Tomeeornottomee

He’s a bully. And as little Brody gets older I can almost 100% guarantee that he’ll be one of those uncles that aren’t happy till they make their nephew/niece cry. We had one of them... been NC for 8 years now. Not just because of being horrible to my kids but that was the final straw.

I agree with this.

I doubt this is his first foray into bullying behaviour - I suspect lots of snipes at you / your partner over the years. If he is this type then suggest you start to withdraw your family from exposure to him.

Put him straight. Calmly and assertively (not emotionally) with a consequence in public and then calmly and assertively act on it.

Expect the “it’s just a joke”, “you are too sensitive” bluster which is standard to bully’s - ignore and don’t engage with those words - rinse and repeat your initial request.

Uncle Randy Wanker sure is going to be mad until you get his name right