Brother in law being a prick about name

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My brother in law is being a total arsehole about the name we chose for DS, every time he says it he pulls a face and says it cringes him to say, when we first told him the name he said he refuses to call him it and will just call him Sam, which isn't remotely similar and he has a few instances said things like "Sammy boy' and it's really hurtful to be honest he won't say his actual mame without pulling a face and it just seems to be constant jokes and rudeness, calling him the American dream etc. It's not an offensive name at all, it's Brody, and I don't think it warrants this strong a reaction. Yes it is a little bit American, also has Scottish connections, yes we are English. I'm just starting to get a complex about it now, I know not everyone will like a name but to be some outwardly rude?

Not the point but I only know Brodie as a surname in Scotland and only 1 person at that.

@Polyethyl

A chum lumbered her child with a terrible name. I said " that's a terrible name, I'm going to use your child's middle name instead." No dramas.

I’m really hoping you aren’t serious. If you are, you are really fucking weird, as well as rude.

But anyway, OP - just remind him it’s your baby, this is his name, not calling him by his name is unbelievably rude - so either he starts using it, or he’s not welcome anymore. Obviously it won’t come to that but it’s the kind of rudeness that can continue if you don’t nip it.

Just address BIL as Derek/Norman/Nigel/Trevor or similar (no offence to any of those btw) every time he does it until he works out it's not acceptable behaviour

Uncle dick

@RandomMess

Start referring to him as "Uncle Prick" to his face?

Agreed.

Why isn't your DH saying anything? My mum and brother started to call my little girl a nickname they chose to annoy my DH. I soon stopped that bs.

'You don't have to like his name, but please stop commenting on it and calling him the wrong name. You've made your point.' and move on.

What a twunt.

Brody is a fabulous name - nit that that has anything to do with it.

Agree with PPs that your BIL is being a bit of a twat and definitely start calling him by some other name until he gets the message.

Brody is a lovely name.

I have been the Aunt in this situation, my BIL & SIL gave our nephew a ridiculous name, a name that is more commonly associated with animals. Then a few years later they gave our niece an equally daft name.

They deliberately chose 'out there' names - would not consider anything in top 1000 names for the last decade when they were looking. I secretly think it is all rather pretentious.

BUT ..... When we were introduced to them and told their names we made all the appropriate noise about how gorgeous each baby was (totally true) and just did not comment on the names because it is totally their decision.

Your BIL is a wanker and I would tell him so in no uncertain terms and refuse to use his name until he paid your son the same courtesy

Is he your husbands brother or your siblings husband?

I would use Uncle Dickhead, and then blame Peter Kaye - it's what I did when I accidently used it within earshot!

@Polyethyl

A chum lumbered her child with a terrible name. I said " that's a terrible name, I'm going to use your child's middle name instead." No dramas.

Is this a joke reference I'm not getting? Or are you actually bragging about your rudeness?

OP, you need to be assertive. Tell him the next time he makes a negative comment about your son's name, he's getting kicked out of your house (or you'll be leaving if you're at his house).

Call him Uncle Knobhead

I love the idea of a T shirt with Brodie's Uncle written on it

Brody is a gorgeous name!

@Easterbunnyiswindowshopping

Your ds needs an entire wardrobe of personalised outfits.. And a blanket. And a T shirt for bil.

I am Brody's uncle.

I love this

You need to tell him straight to stop being such a nobhead and grow up!
He has no problem being rude to you so there's no need to worry about his feelings.

@RandomMess

Start referring to him as "Uncle Prick" to his face?

Agree!

Brody is a lovely name, ignore your dickhead BIL.

@MaryStuart

Call him Uncle Knobhead

🤣😜

At some point Brody will get bigger and learn to shout and stomp his feet when someone gets his name wrong. There isn’t a toddler alive who doesn’t get massively het up about their name being right, so good luck Uncle Wanker in the face of that future fury

You have my sympathy OP. My BIL did a similar thing with my DC. He insisted on saying (while sniggering) both DC's first name and middle names. DC has very 'normal' first and second names - both in the top twenty and it isn't a double barrel name. It didn't make sense. He (and sister) have form for this though and while they didn't put me of DC's name at all, they did put me off both of them as people.
I'd say ignore them to be honest and if you can't refer to him as 'horrible uncle' every time you speak to the baby in his presence.

Just teach your son to call him Uncle Brody. When Uncle Brody stops calling him Sam then Brody can stop calling him Uncle Brody.

Oh I just know I have this to come when I give birth in a few months! Why are people so bloody rude, like their opinion is the Final and Only Judgment.

I think the only way to deal with this is to ignore, ignore, ignore. I just hope I can take my own advice in a few months 😬

@Polyethyl

A chum lumbered her child with a terrible name. I said " that's a terrible name, I'm going to use your child's middle name instead." No dramas.

Rude