Feel like I chose the wrong name!

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All the way through my pregnancy my favourite name for my daughter was Iris. All the letters I wrote to her whilst I was pregnant are addressed "Dear Iris" and we found out halfway through that it was my husbands Nans name too! Towards the end of my pregnancy I had totally overthought it and all of a sudden couldn't stop thinking of Isis when I heard Iris and suddenly the fact that it was a family name became a negative too!! Then when she was born she didn't "look" like an Iris. My hormones were all over the bloody shop so I couldn't decide on a name and it became so stressful as it's all anyone asks you. Finally we decided on Violet which was a bit of whim and I was deciding between the two right up until the morning we registered. Long story short she's now called Violet and half the time I'm not even sure if I like the name as it reminds me a bit of old ladies! And the worst part is that I'm now pregnant again and would love to use Iris if it's a girl but then that would be two flower names which is surely a bit twee?! How do I stop obsessing that I've named her the wrong name and, if I do have another girl, is Violet and Iris too much of a theme?! Help!

I've just re-read that and please ignore "the worst part is" as it sounds like I'm upset to be pregnant which I'm absolutely not, I'm thrilled and I know how lucky I am. I don't think I can edit the post to change it!

I know siblings with nature names (floral theme) and I think it's lovely, not twee. If you love the name, go for it!

Violet and iris are both lovely, individually and together. You've made great choices

I think having both floral names is lovely. And both great timeless names!

Both would be lovely but I wonder if you would feel weird about having written letters “dear iris” that were for your first daughter and now they would have actually been for your second daughters name? If I were you I would have given iris as a middle name but that ship has sailed I presume!

I really like both names but I actually think iris is more of an old lady name than violet. Violet has been around a while but there are definitely more Nans called iris!

i know two sets of Iris and Violet sisters plus a Violet and lily

I like it. Go for it.

They are both lovely names! Use Iris if you like and you have another girl.

Both are beautiful names. You haven’t called her the wrong name at all, it’s lovely and she will grown into her name and you’ll wonder why you ever had doubts. Violet and Iris sound lovely as names. I always think of violet as a colour rather than a flower, maybe this will help.

P.s this is exactly why I never found out the sex of my babies. Always found it weird that the Americans named a child before it was born and had everything embroidered and personalised. SO odd.

I had a friend who posted up pictures of scans with her child’s name on, then when born changed the name.

If you don’t know the second, it avoids this oddness.

Sex! Ffs

I didn't know what sex we were having the first time. We did find out with the second, (I far preferred this myself). We named both dcs when they were born though. Don't think finding out the sex has anything to do with it. Don't turn it into one of those threads; we have enough of them already .

OP, the other consideration is that name regret can be a symptom of PND. Not sure if that's worth considering, especially as you are pregnant and thinking a lot about it. Just worth thinking about maybe

I think Violet and Iris are lovely names for 2 sisters, absolutely gorgeous together (and individually!). Congratulations on your pregnancy!

I know a Poppy and Rosie and don't think anything of it? They're both just girls names!

How old is Violet? You could always change her name.

Go for Violet and Iris!

Old lady names - both of them are old lady names to me.
Relative who would now be about 100 years old, was Iris, her sister was Violet, other sister was May. I absolutely hate Iris, I hate the sound of it, it is hard whereas Violet is more melodic and gentle.

I think you chose the nicer name.

Violet and Iris sound seriously amazing together! A lovely combination

A possible option if it's a boy - Idris

I agree with PPs - both beautiful names. I would use Iris if you want to for this next baby. Or maybe another nature name? Hazel? Ivy?

I don't think they sound twee. I like both names. Maybe just me but I always think of the part of the eye before the flower so they're not as obviously floral names as something like Rose and Daisy.

I know a Daisy and a Poppy.

Iris and Violet are lovely together

They go really well together.
I’m another one who thinks of the colour violet, not the flower.

@IdentifyingCreamCake that's a good point about the letters! Perhaps I should go back through and tipex the Iris out 😂. I do actually feel a bit weird about her having all these letters with the wrong name on poor thing! Interesting that you think of Iris as an old lady name too- I suppose I've seen it about a lot more than Violet (George Clooneys new film the little girl is Iris and Kate Winslet in the Holiday is Iris and Jude Laws daughter too) so I think of it less old lady but then again when I told my Dad about Iris as a name he was horrified as his wife's very old Aunt is an Iris!

@whattodo2019 wow really?! Maybe they aren't uncommon at all then! I've met two little Violets since I've had my daughter but since she's my first it's hard to know how popular names are as she's not at nursery or school yet!

@Martinisarebetterdirty it does help thank you I was wondering if that might be the case with Violet