DM and MIL don't love the name

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After much deliberation DH and I thought we'd found the name for our DD but it's had a lukewarm reception from both of our mothers.

Charlotte Elizabeth ^
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The surname isn't double barrelled, we want to use my maiden name as a middle name as we've done for DS.

Neither name has any family links. Charlotte is the only name we both love. To us, it's timeless rather than faddy and we think it suits her. It's pronounceable and people know how to spell it. Yes, we expect she won't be the only Charlotte in classes etc. but we haven't been able to think of a less popular name we both like. It's also similar in style in this way to DS' name.

Similarly we like Elizabeth and think it flows with Charlotte and the other names. Not as wedded to this one, but absolutely haven't come up with anything better.

Of course I'd have loved to have come up with the elusive holy grail of a beautiful name which is pronounceable, and easily spelt and which no one else has but we haven't managed to.

I'm not really sure why I'm posting. I think I'm a bit down that neither DM nor MIL could feign delight. Feedback has been that it's very popular, are we using royal names on purpose (no!), it's a bit of a mouthful and so on.

Is it a really dull name?

Is Charlotte here yet?

I’m sorry that you feel a bit flat but you have chosen a lovely name. Your MIL and DM have had their time to name their babies and now it is yours.

I think it’s lovely and classic, nothing there a child or adult could get upset by. Also lots of options for shorter names if desired. Presumably day to day she will just be known as Charlotte surname? Hardly a mouthful. Ignore anyone else apart from your Dh, they don’t get a say on this one.

Is baby actually here? If not why tell them? People always have opinions but ultimately it’s not their baby and you can call her whatever you like! Charlotte Elizabeth wouldn’t be my choice but it’s classic and nice. ‘A mouthful’ is a pointless thing to say when the two middle names will hardly ever be used (speaking as someone with two long middle names) so that’s a bit moot.

It's a lovely name.

Tell them you've decided on Trixabelle Broccoli Sparkledust as her name now and they will soon be excited about the beautiful name you've actually chosen.

Try not to feel too deflated at their reaction, just concentrate on your lovely baby.

It’s a nice name, and it’s classic. It’s not up to them, they named their children, it’s up to you. It’s a nice idea to use your proper/given/birth/real/actual name in the name you choose for your children (choose your preference, but “maiden name” is not a nice term IMO). It wouldn’t be my choice but you love it, and feel it suits her, so own it. Congratulations on your dd.

It’s not their baby, so don’t worry too much. It’s a lovely name.

It's a lovely name. Did you say "her name is Charlotte Elizabeth" or "we are thinking of Charlotte Elizabeth" as they shouldn't give an opinion anyway but if it was the first one then they definitely shouldn't be so rude! Use the name you both love op

I love the name charlotte, it was actually on my list for my DD. Ignore the mums, my MIL and Mum didnt like my DDs name we picked, but now say its suits her perfectly and couldn't imagine anything else. I remember my grandmother telling my sister not to announce the name before the birth as no one will comment once a baby has been given the name and is here, but before that they will all have a negative opinion.

What a beautiful name. Take no notice of your DM & MIL, it's not for them to decide.

Oh, and if there's a next time don't announce the name in advance!

It's a beautiful name, you both like it and you think it suits her - so I assume from that that Charlotte is here. Many congratulations!! My DD had two childhood friends Charlotte - I don't think it was particularly common at all (they are 22 now). One was and is Lottie, which is lovely too.

Charlotte is lovely, lots of NN options too if she wants. I don't know if any young ones bar the obvious so she may well be the only one and if not, lots of NN.

It's a lovely name! One of my sisters' names is Charlotte and the other's middle name is Elizabeth and they both like their own names very much (as do I!) - it will never date either

It's a very nice name. I can't see what they've got to complain about.

Think it's lovely. Charlotte is flexible depending on her chats to shorten to Charlie or lottie.

You're braver than us. We've told everyone we will tell them name when she arrived, then hopefully they won't say if they don't like it

Charlotte is a beautiful name, timeless and elegant. Not only that but both you and your DH love it. Elizabeth is also a lovely name and I think the fact it has four syllables means it flows nicely with Charlotte as a first name. However, the two together are a little bit 'royal'. Not that that matters particularly but I might be tempted to try a different middle name because of it. Your DM and DMIL have had their chance at naming children, it's your turn now. If you love Charlotte Elizabeth just ignore them and use it anyway, they'll soon get used to it.

They've had their time to pick names.
It's not their business and it's rude that neither feigned delight.
Perfectly nice name.

Lovely classic names !

Lovely name. I'd not give anyone the chance to poo poo a name, keep it to yourself! Agree with telling them you've switched it to something quite random. Ha! That will teach them.

Can't go wrong with royal names - they never sound faddy (or chavvy). My niece (aged 20) is called Charlotte, sometimes Charlie when younger.

Lovely names.

Lovely name and I'm baffled what exactly they're objecting to. Please don't listen to them.

How can you not like the names Charlotte Elizabeth?? They are classic names and totally inoffensive... how bizarre! Please don't let them put you off, they're lovely names. When we told my MIL the name of our youngest son, she said 'oh well, you can always cha

It's a lovely name.
My mil and DM (and to be honest dh) didn't really like the name I loved for my eldest dd but I was adament about it.
16 years later she is Poppy Grace, the name suits her and all agree that the name is just her.
What I'm saying is if you love it go with it.
I went for a name I wasn't in love with and we actually changed it when she was 10 months old.

They are beautiful names. Ignore them and their bad manners.

It's a lovely name. Don't take their grumbles to heart, they will be used to the idea in a very short time and they will even forget they ever said anything! Which will also be infuriating, but oh well.

You don't need to make any explanation for your baby's name, it just is her name now, it belongs to her.