DM and MIL don't love the name

[BlueShed]

After much deliberation DH and I thought we'd found the name for our DD but it's had a lukewarm reception from both of our mothers.

Charlotte Elizabeth ^
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The surname isn't double barrelled, we want to use my maiden name as a middle name as we've done for DS.

Neither name has any family links. Charlotte is the only name we both love. To us, it's timeless rather than faddy and we think it suits her. It's pronounceable and people know how to spell it. Yes, we expect she won't be the only Charlotte in classes etc. but we haven't been able to think of a less popular name we both like. It's also similar in style in this way to DS' name.

Similarly we like Elizabeth and think it flows with Charlotte and the other names. Not as wedded to this one, but absolutely haven't come up with anything better.

Of course I'd have loved to have come up with the elusive holy grail of a beautiful name which is pronounceable, and easily spelt and which no one else has but we haven't managed to.

I'm not really sure why I'm posting. I think I'm a bit down that neither DM nor MIL could feign delight. Feedback has been that it's very popular, are we using royal names on purpose (no!), it's a bit of a mouthful and so on.

Is it a really dull name?

It is a beautiful, timeless and classic name. Stick with it. She is your child not theirs.

The only people for whom this should be of any consequence are you, her father and the baby herself.

The names you have chosen are beautiful and, as another PP has said, classic and elegant. Take no notice of anyone else - whoever they are.

Congratulations on your new daughter OP. 🌹

I'm not a fan of my nieces name. But it's nothing to do with me as its nothing to do with your mil/dm I've gotten used to the name and just keep my mouth shut.

Its a lovely name.

I absolutely love this name and would have loved to have been able to use it! Very jealous

Congratulations on a beautiful daughter with an equally beautiful name.
What sort of names did your DM and MIL choose for their own children? Did they go for the trendy or unusual? I’d be very relieved to know you and your DH had chosen a “sensible” name.
Don’t let their disapproval take the edge off your elation at your safe delivery of a beautiful daughter. Good luck.

I let my MIL put me off the name we absolute loved & even now when I hear the beautiful name I wish we had used on another child I cant believe I didn't stick with the name we loved! Please don't let anyone put you off the beautiful name you have chosen! The name you have chosen is stunning.

I have relative who is Charlotte Alice. They are nice classic names that won't date.
She is your baby, you get to choose the name.
Congratulations!

It's LOVELY! Lottie is a gorgeous nn x I'm pregnant with baby no 4 my mum led our first name but I have an Ellie my mum hated it because "Ellie the elephant"😏 however Ellie is the most petite tiny child and her name suits her and I still love it , I also had a max ( Maxwell) my mum said it's a dogs name 😏 it suits him so much and he LOVES his name! this time I'm not telling her until the babies born 😂 x honesty if you and partner like it everyone else can sod off x

It’s a lovely classic name. Stick with it if you both love it. She’ll soon grow into it and her grandmothers won’t be able to imagine her being named anything else.

Lovely names and you can always nn her Lottie.

They have both been queens and both pass the prime minister test. Classic, classy and beautiful, and most important you love them, so where's the problem?

There was awkward laughter when we revealed DS1’s name. Lukewarm is really not bad!

They're great, classic names. Your daughter will thank you in the future.

@SumAndSubstance - I misread this in my sleepiness and thought you had named your DS "lukewarm"

Congratulations on your baby girl. I think she has a lovely name!
The popular names are popular for a reason. All those supposedly unique names out there are unique because nobody else likes them, I tend to think.

Lovely name - dunno why you (or they) think they get a say.

People don’t criticise a name if it’s attached to an adorable little person.

My mum did! Even though we also chose a classic name which you can't really go wrong with

If it's good enough for the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge's daughter then it's good enough for your DC.

SumAndSubstance - I misread this in my sleepiness and thought you had named your DS "lukewarm"

Well that would have warranted awkward laughter!

Not read all the thread.

I think names can take a while to sink but it’s very rude of you MIL and Mum not to be positive about those names especially as they are such solid names.

Give it a week and I bet everyone will love the names.

Also, it’s irrelevant if the names go together or not, no one uses all their names at once.

Probably the best name I've seen on Mumsnet in my entire seven years here. Charlotte and Elizabeth were my great grandmothers. I think the combination is beautiful.

Both my parents, separated, didn't like my dd's name and wanted to use her middle name.
They were told, in stern tones, to use her first name or don't visit.

Absolutely beautiful names op. Her name will stand the test of time in a sea of faddy names. Both your mil and dm have had their say in choosing names, this is your choice.

Totally agree, lovely classic names. I can never understand people who express negative comments about baby names (esp close relatives ), it's just so rude and unnecessary.

If someone tells me their babies name and I genuinely don't like it, I wouldn't dream of commenting, I might privately think "naff name" but would just never, ever comment. The correct answer is 'how lovely'.

Beautiful name, your child your name!