DM and MIL don't love the name

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After much deliberation DH and I thought we'd found the name for our DD but it's had a lukewarm reception from both of our mothers.

Charlotte Elizabeth ^
^
The surname isn't double barrelled, we want to use my maiden name as a middle name as we've done for DS.

Neither name has any family links. Charlotte is the only name we both love. To us, it's timeless rather than faddy and we think it suits her. It's pronounceable and people know how to spell it. Yes, we expect she won't be the only Charlotte in classes etc. but we haven't been able to think of a less popular name we both like. It's also similar in style in this way to DS' name.

Similarly we like Elizabeth and think it flows with Charlotte and the other names. Not as wedded to this one, but absolutely haven't come up with anything better.

Of course I'd have loved to have come up with the elusive holy grail of a beautiful name which is pronounceable, and easily spelt and which no one else has but we haven't managed to.

I'm not really sure why I'm posting. I think I'm a bit down that neither DM nor MIL could feign delight. Feedback has been that it's very popular, are we using royal names on purpose (no!), it's a bit of a mouthful and so on.

Is it a really dull name?

The only time to tell someone what the baby's name is, is when you call them that Bonzo is born. Unless they're utter dicks they will respond with congratulations,

We haven't told anyone else and positioned it to both mums as 'we think we've got it'.

Ah. There’s your problem. You need to present your choices to them as a done deal.

I’ve never told anyone my babies’ names until they were here. People don’t criticise a name if it’s attached to an adorable little person.

FWIW I think Charlotte Elizabeth is beautiful, I have a 3yo Charlotte myself and it’s not as popular as you might think.

There’s also a lovely U.K. handbag brand with the same name 🤗

Charlotte Elizabeth is lovely, properly lovely. And I agree with a PP that there aren't as many little Charlottes around as you might think. It's more 'one other in the class/year' than '3 others in the class and 10 in the year' territory.

Is it possible that they are both disappointed not to find their own names somewhere in your daughter's name?

^^This

Both names are classic and beautiful (unless they think the initials spells out some weird acronym with your surnames).

Your DD, your choice.

How strange. You don't need their approval. Do they run their life choices by you? Pick what you want.

The only time to tell someone what the baby's name is, is when you call them that Bonzo is born. Unless they're utter dicks they will respond with congratulations

The baby is here.

It's is a beautiful name and they don't need to 'love 'it , only to love your daughter.

Charlotte is what I'd name a daughter. I t's perfect IMO. 😍

Elizabeth is great too, classic, timeless, BUT (and only if you're still debating names) could I suggest Charlotte Eliza? It's a little less royal family (if that your family's concern). Charlotte Elizabeth is a great name though.

Lovely name. Sod what they think, they had their turn at choosing names, now it’s yours.

Ignore them and look into why you want their approval so much, is it just in this instance or is this a regular thing

Oh and congratulations and welcome little Charlotte 😁

I always have tried to keep names secret even from family. With my first ds, my step dad made a negative comment which really upset me. With dd1, managed to keep the name under wraps. Then with dd2, I told my dad the name, he was ok about it, but then I nearly changed the name because he told my aunt one and she laughed about it. Thinking back, it was quite funny because me and my cousin were both expecting at the same time, we'd both picked names that were a bit more 'out there' and some of the family were like . They probably would have welcomed names like Charlotte and Elizabeth! I didn't change the name and auntie who laughed says she really likes the name now, and the one my cousin picked for his ds. You can't please everyone, so go with the name you like. They will get used to the name when she's here. I've heard names before that secretly I'm not keen on (I would never offend anyone and say), but often I grow to like the name as you get to know the child.

Sorry. I misread and didn't realise baby has already arrived. I'd still stick with the name you love. They will grow to love her name I'm sure .

My inlaws are very worried that DH and I will give our DC a Welsh name (I'm Welsh, from a Welsh speaking family so Welsh names are very much the norm for us).

They would be over the moon with Charlotte Elizabeth!

I suspect your DM and MIL each expected their names to be used as a middle name and that's why they're disappointed. They shouldn't be showing it though, it's very rude of them!

Ignore them, they've had their turn to name babies and Charlotte Elizabeth is a lovely name.

Congratulations.
It is a classic timeless name which is also beautiful.
(I remember being pregnant with my 1st and being in hospital with hyperemesis - my mum visited and told me that her friend had cried for 2 days when her first grandchild was born because she was called Ruby May and it was such a weird old-fashioned name she would be teased for ever. Pretty much one girl in five was called Ruby May that year! Grandparents are often wrong!)

Beautiful name.

When dd was born, mil told us she didn't like the fact we were double barreling her surname. We said we were happy with our choice. She never mentioned it again and that was that.

They had their choics of names for their kids. Just ignore them.

They have done their baby naming when they had their own children.

I don't think parents should discuss names in advance for this reason.

Your baby. I love the maiden name as a middle name. This used to be quite common practice by Victorians.

I don't like the name of one of my GC but I'd never be so rude as to say so or show it! Charlotte Elizabeth is a lovely, timeless name.

Lovely name. Stick to your guns OP.

If I’d had a daughter she would have been Charlotte Elizabeth so I obviously think it is beautiful.

When I was throwing names around my mother disliked both names I eventually chose for my sons. She says she can’t imagine them being anything else now even if she wasn’t sold on them at first.
Your DM and MIL have names their children, now it’s your turn. Don’t let them put you off.

When my DD was about 10 months, MIL turned to me and said "her name really suits her now, doesn't it?"
Don't worry, it's your choice. But like others said, don't tell anyone your choice until baby has arrived, they can choose to be rude to the baby but it's much less likely!

We have a Charlotte and we gave her a middle name that begins with a J so its shortened by the family to CJ when communicating by text or email. My parents didn't like the shorter name but we all do it now as its easier to type. She doesn't shorten it, she doesn't allow anyone to, she corrects people when they try to shorten it to Lottie or Charlie. She is 11 now.

Nice names, mother and mil will just have to get used to it won’t they

It's an absolutely beautiful name!!

I think it’s beautiful!