Feeling too low to name baby

[Ahhhmythirddecade]

Expecting DC2 and suffering from low mood.

We did have a name picked out but now I feel really meh about it and DC1s name is constantly being misspelt by DHs cousins and it only has 5 letters in it so the name we chosen for DC2 would be too complicated to spell. (It’s not uncommon at all)

DH wants to go ahead with the name but I’ve gone off it. We can’t agree on another name.

I’m only 20 weeks so loads of time but I had hoped maybe thinking of names would get me excited or cheer me up but now I’m feeling more deflated

@MrsTerryPratchett

They were:
Melody
Hope
Pearl
Faith
Ada
Ottille

I love Ottilie but it is probably Marmite! I still think Francesca is the best.

I know you're worried about linking the name with this low period, but that's the negative type of thought depression can cause, and it can be quite deceptive. Perhaps instead, you'll link the name to overcoming a difficult time, but by far the most likely is that you'll only link it with your child

Hope would be a great middle name for Francesca BTW

I’m sorry to hear you’ve been feeling low OP. I just wanted to add that I didn’t choose the name we always wanted for our DS due to a low mood after he was born (it took us 4 weeks to name him), that name is now his middle name. I still often regret not giving him the original name we always wanted for him now I’m through that low feeling. Trust in What you loved originally I would say as generally that’s what you will come back to loving.

Frances?

Francesca is a gorgeous name. I love it and Frankie.

Park the naming for now and agree to come back to it nearer the time. Give yourself a break from thinking about it.

Then do somethings to help with your mood. It's a tough time.

You won't necessarily link the name to this time. You liked it previously too, and I'm sure you'll like it again x

Francesca is a beautiful name, personally.I prefer Cesca as a shortening but that is just because Frankie for a girl (not as a shortening) has become very popular recently where I live

It's a really beautiful name.

I'd put it to one side and give yourselves a break from name discussions until you're feeling a little better. Plenty of time yet.

Hopefully when you come back to names in a few weeks or so, the name will feel fresh again and you'll feel more inspired by it.

Often we overthink things and it's easy to let this put us off our initial gut instinct.

I really love Ottilie or Ada or Pearl

Love the name Ottilie and Pearl
But don’t make any rash decisions

I know a Francesca known as Chessie, another idea for nn. Please speak to your midwife or gp about your mood. I was very depressed for most of one of my pregnancies, but was fine after the birth and completely fell in love at first sight with dd, and her name felt right, so don’t feel you won’t bond because of your mood now.

That is a lovely list of names. How would you feel about parking it for a bit and then looking again.
Take care of yourself and I hope you feel better soon.