Is your baby taking your surname or your partners?

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Hi all!

I am a first time mom expecting a baby girl in June and I was wondering whether or not those of you who aren't married have given your child your partners surname or your own?

My partner and I have been together almost 3 years and I'd love to get married. He's in no rush to get married any time soon. I've had quite a few friends who have given their child their partners surnames and then broken up, therefore never having the same surname as their child.

I love my partner and of course would love to assume we will get married one day but I'd hate to not have the same surname as my child if something was to go wrong and for us to break up.

My family also feel strongly about me not giving our baby girl my boyfriends name if we're not married yet so I'm conflicted.

What are your thoughts?

We are married, but our DD has both of surnames.

I would say to take the mother's surname.

I see so many families where children have their dad's surname and parents are not together, often situations where parents had split before birth and the dad is flaky, yet the mother still gives her child his surname.

I always wonder why.

@Oaktree1952
*If a man can't commit to marriage, how can them be trusted to stay committed to a child?
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What a ridiculous thing to say! Neither myself nor DP have any interest in getting married, does that mean neither of us can be trusted to commit to our child?

DS has DP's surname. Doesn't bother me in the slightest. My parents were married but my DM kept the surname she shared with my half siblings. I have it as part of mine, but not double barrelled and go by my first name and dad's surname.

Personally I'm not a fan of double barrelled names so wouldn't do that for DS or myself.

If a man can't commit to marriage, how can them be trusted to stay committed to a child?

Yes, because all women want to get married, it might never be the woman's choice not to

DD took my surname because her dad was a wanker during the pregnancy - he showed his colours then pissed off shortly after she was born.

DS has my now DPs surname - we are engaged & when we marry I will change mine; DD will get the choice.

The whole 'marriage means they're committed' claptrap is bollocks

Haven't RTFT but please please give baby your surname. Then if you get married and choose to take his name you can change both of yours.

Please!

Learn from mine, any many other women's, mistakes