DH chose daughters name, opinions please

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I know it's two late to change my daughters name, and this is a pretty pointless post, but it will just confirm what I think people feel about my daughters name or not. DH named her.

I was very ill all throughout my pregnancy and after birth. DD didn't have a name for 4 weeks after birth, it was nearing the time to register her. I said that DH could name her. I was expecting him to let me know what he's decided before he registered her so I can give it the thumbs up or not. I wasn't going to be extremely picky, time wasn't on our side.

A few days later he came home and said that he registered DD. I asked what name he picked and he has picked Mackenzie-May (not actual spelling). I could write a whole page on how I felt about him registering her without even letting me know there was an appointment, or even letting me know her name! But this isn't a rant I was just wondering everyone's views on her name. Not something I would of gone for imo, but i now can't imagine her not being Mackenzie.

Zee is a fab nn!

pronoun of choice for the non-binary blue-haired crowd? Well, whatever floats your boat.. why not just Kenzie?

I’d be so fucked off with my DP if he did this. He wanted Raymond as DS’s first name ffs so I’m glad he didn’t name him!

It’s not too late to change her name OP. I would if I were you.

Don't like the may bit but Mackenzie is a great name, not heard it on a girl before but I like it. So many shortenings!

Kenzie is a great suggestion, as is May, but there is nothing wrong with McKenzie if you like it. My youngest daughter is fostered and she has a hyphenated name, (like laura-lynn) we just dropped the second part and it hasn't caused any problems. Weird of your dh not to tell you til after though.

It's not my taste. I'm not keen on hyphenated names, not keen on May on the end of so many (though love May on its own), and not keen on names like Mackenzie that become extremely popular for a brief period, and it feels American to me.

Just Mackenzie on its own is better, or even better, just May. An alternative to officially changing it is using a nn such as Maisie, or just calling her May. However, if you hate it I would change it.

I'd be more worried about your relationship with your dh (not telling you the name he was registering!?) than the name Mackenzie May!

Kenzie is a great Nickname for a littlie and Mac is great for a cool teenager, but as PP have said just drop the -, have May as a middle name and when she is older she can choose what she wants to be called.

Oh and don't let your husband choose the next one discuss carefully what to call the next DC.

Thank you for everyone's suggestions and honest opinions. The name isn't as bad as feared. I like the name Mackenzie, it's the -may part that has ruined it completely for me. It makes me cringe seeing it on letters and having to write her full first name down for things! I feel that everyone is secretly cringing at her name as well.

I like Mac for a nickname, very unusual but 'cool' nickname for a girl! I agree with pp that you have to have a certain personality to pull it off though. Kenzie is cute as well. DH called her Kenneth one point as a nickname as a joke. The look I gave him is probably the reason he only called her Kenneth once!

I know some pp have commented on the situation of DH naming her and registering her without me, I didn't want to make this thread about that. DD wasn't supposed make it alive to the end of the pregnancy, this made things like buying baby stuff/choosing names extremely difficult because I had little to no hope but couldn't abort the pregnancy! When it was clear she was going to make it, DH went out and bought the baby stuff and we both discussed names. Me being indecisive had a short list of about 100 names (slight exaggeration).

DH did have my best interest at heart, he thought it was something I would absolutely love, and wanted to surprise me. He knows it was a bad idea now but I couldn't stay mad knowing he thought he was doing a lovely thing for me.

oh, bless you all! So pleased that little Mackenzie made it!

(My dad laid a new living room carpet when my mum was off having me, back in the dark ages. Nice gesture, they'd just moved into a new house, lots to be done. She hated it, but lived with it and indeed still does even though he died quite a few years back.)

My ex husbands dad registered him. He was supposed to be Peter Christopher but when he got there he muddled it up so he’s Christopher Peter 🤣

I think it's a beautiful name, and not "chavvy" at all. If anything, I'd put it in the Ottily / Ella / Ava camp.
Agree with PPs re the wealth of lovely nicknames.
Also don't think it signifies any major issue in your marriage; we've all done things before with the intention of giving our partner a nice surprise and it's backfired when they didn't like it. Assuming your DH is a nice normal guy and not a controlling dickhead, I'd accept his effort graciously and find a nickname we both love.
Deed poll is a bit extreme at 17months unless you absolutely hate the name yourself.

@ladycarlotta do you like the name your dad chose or do you wish your mum had changed it? I rushed to agree to my daughters name (OH’s choice) and was put off the name I loved by friends and family. I started doubting her name after a couple of months but felt silly changing it and worried that my daughter would wish I kept the original name so I left it...she’s now 14 months and it still bugs me! It’s a nice name but it’s not the name I wanted 😩 wish I’d waited or changed it as I feel it’s too late now as it would have to be by deed poll and of course she knows her name!

OP if you quite like the name stick with it and drop the hyphen. You could def get away with Maisie as a nn if you wanted. My daughter is 14 months and I still doubt her name!

Oh that’s a sweet story, lovely she made it :) . I really wouldn’t worry about the name. You could write it without the hyphen if you prefer, it’s quite nice really.

I love Mackenzie. I also love nickname Kenzie. Personally I'd want to delete the May.

Sorry, but it sounds really tacky and tasteless to me. Awful name.

A million congratulations OP. I am so happy that your DD made it and that you, too, are now well. That is incredible and I send really un-MN hugs.

What's in a name? By the time she is old enough to appreciate it, your DD will either have embraced her name or adopted some nickname or abbreviation of it.

Please don't worry about this. There are some awful people on this thread who delight in saying things to try and make others feel bad. Ignore them. History gives us a wonderful patchwork of strong women with unconventional names. You call her what you need to call her; she'll do the rest.

Take care x

@MyLearnedFriend that’s a really lovely message

It amazes me sometimes that people forget there’s an actual person behind the post, especially in this case where it’s pretty obvious the OP has gone through a very traumatic experience.

I said above I didn’t really like the name but so what and go right ahead and keep it and ignore naysayers.
Interestingly I have come to quite like it (without the -May though). Thanks for helping this okdnstick in the mud (not really not generally) think again.

MyLearnedFriend cheers to your comment.
You’re so right, people forget that they are talking to a real life person about their real life daughter. A little tact goes a long way.

And also, I promise (from a profession that is notoriously conservative) if someone has the skills, a name will not disadvantage them.

OP - feel free to message me and I'll happily tell you all about the junior members of my chambers with wonderful, normal, names.

@L0ki, @Cbeebies and

Thank you so much @MyLearnedFriend such a lovely and reassuring message

I will message you, when I figure out how to do it! I use the app and you can't message someone using the app. I need to log in on a browser, I'm not sure which of my 5000 email addresses I used! I'm a sucker when it comes to forgetting login details

I too am in Chambers and we have a lovely diverse tenant profile (plus names!).

It's awful sorry.

Separately they're ok but hyphenating with May is just so naff. And over done.