DH chose daughters name, opinions please

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I know it's two late to change my daughters name, and this is a pretty pointless post, but it will just confirm what I think people feel about my daughters name or not. DH named her.

I was very ill all throughout my pregnancy and after birth. DD didn't have a name for 4 weeks after birth, it was nearing the time to register her. I said that DH could name her. I was expecting him to let me know what he's decided before he registered her so I can give it the thumbs up or not. I wasn't going to be extremely picky, time wasn't on our side.

A few days later he came home and said that he registered DD. I asked what name he picked and he has picked Mackenzie-May (not actual spelling). I could write a whole page on how I felt about him registering her without even letting me know there was an appointment, or even letting me know her name! But this isn't a rant I was just wondering everyone's views on her name. Not something I would of gone for imo, but i now can't imagine her not being Mackenzie.

I like the nickname Maisie pp suggested. It’s a bit weird to have told your dp they can name the baby! I get final say over all baby names here, they get dps last name after all.

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Vv stupid question. Can Maisie be a nickname for Makenzie? It seems a bit of a loose connection imo, not something I would of thought of! Definitely nicer than Makenzie-may

I like Mackenzie as a girl’s first name. I’ve never come across it in RL and it’s nice.

I’m afraid that I agree the May part does date it a bit and kind of downgrades it, but not enough to bother with changing it by deed poll. Just step that down to being a middle name of you prefer.

It’s not a horrible name at all, OP. And if you can only think of her as Mackenzie then that’s surely a good sign the name works for your DD.

It's the hyphen that's the problem. Mackenzie is fine, May is fine. Just drop the hyphen and use May as a middle name.

A nickname can be whatever you want. My husbands entire family go by names other than their actual given names. Some appear to just be completely made up. Some have loose connections, some go by their middle or third names. I honestly didn’t know his name wasn’t his actual name till we had been together a year and I stumbled upon his passport...

Why have you spelt it differently here to the actual spelling?

I hope you are better now after a traumatic pregnancy and start.
It sounds like you quite like the name now. I would think of nn that you love before really considering changing it.
We all meet surprisingly great people who make a name seem more likeable.
Hope you are well now and enjoy your daughter whatever you decide

My immediate impression of Mckenzie was No I don't like it, but within the few minutes of reading the thread it's actually really grown on me. As per previous posters there are also lots of nickname options - Kenzi, Macey, ZiZi...
I'm not a big fan of may as a middle name but that's just my personal taste. The May will rarely be used anyway.

I think unless you really hate it, keep it. At 17 months she already knows her name now anyway.

I love Mackenzie-May! You could change it but I'm sure he did it with your best interests at heart - and I have to say I think it's fab!

Our daughter is a -may . Not sure what I was thinking but we wrote name on her known as name. No-one ever calls her name-may unless it's on an official form. Very few people even know the -may exists.

I would just use Mackenzie and not use the -may

I would probably call her May or Macey as a day to day name.

It's not a terrible name, I've heard far worse. I would have been incredibly pissed off at DH choosing a name and registering it without even running it past me first though!

Naming your child is one of the biggest decisions a couple take together.

It's not my cup of tea at all. I cannot imagine meeting an adult at work for example and them introducing themselves with that name.

However, it's her name now and Kenzie is actually quite a nice nickname, or even 'Mac' which could be quite cool depending on her personality. Drop the May though - it's awful.

I wasn’t keen when I first saw it but it’s quite nice!
You said that you can’t imagine her not being called Mackenzie now so why change it.
My exh chose our dd’s middle name. I’m still not keen (18 years later). Obviously I’ve never told her but she likes it and uses it.

Have it changed to Mackenzie May and just drop the dreaded hyphen.

Nickname options:

Mac
Kenzie
Kenza
Kenna
Makena
Zizi (very cute for a baby!)
Zee

Or what about Em or Emmy, given she has 'MM' initials?

Just change it. It isn’t great and it’s not going to do her any favours tbh.
Just use May if you don’t want to do the whole legal change. May on it’s own is fine.

Mackenzie means 'son of Kenneth'. If that's relevant then you have no reason to change it. Obviously, if your child isn't a son and your Dh isn't called Kenneth, then it's a meaningless name.

Maybe just use May instead?

I have a family member named McKenzie. She goes by Kenzi or just Kenz. There are a couple in my dd's year at school, one girl, one boy. I think it's ok.

@achoocashew to try and hide my identity a bit. Ive not heard of ANY Mackenzie-mays so it sounds pretty identifying to me, so hoping if a family member comes across this thread then the spelling might throw them off.

I can’t actually believe your hubby registered without checking her name with you 😯

But the name Mackenzie is nice. My daughter has an unusual name - Aliyena which gets shortened to Leni (as we didn’t want Ali)

Some love it, some don’t....... be we and she totally do and that’s all that actually matters.

i was once in the doctors and they shouted a kenzie mckenzie

i wouldnt have been furious if i hadnt been there to register my child

You can nickname her 'Pebbles' if you want, it doesn't have to have anything to do with the actual name. Call her a name you like if you want to.

I’d change it if possible.

I would try and make your peace with this, OP. My dad registered me without my mum, and chose a name she was never that happy with - I remember they were still arguing about it when I was a teenager. It's not great what your partner (or my dad) did, but I beseech you never to let your daughter know this is an issue. It was quite uncomfortable for me growing up - felt like an important part of my identity was based on something quite fragile.

Although I wouldn’t choose it myself Mackenzie is quite a nice name. The -May bit really ramps up the chav factor for me I’m afraid. I really don’t like double barrelled names and the latest trend seems to be May tagged on to everything. I also don’t like names with ‘creative’ spellings and as you’ve said it not spelled as you said in your OP I’m wondering whether the spelling he used might also affect my opinion