Choosing a name your family will hate

[17caterpillars1mouse]

Would you choose a name for your baby if your pretty sure nobody in your family will lile it?

If it’s a name I really like, then he’s, or use it as the middle name.

How do,you know te will hate it? Is it really obscure?

Our parents all hate the name we have chosen for our baby. DP has said that they have had their chances to name their children, it is our turn!

However, if his Mum continues to call the baby the name she likes after he is born, words will be had.

If it was a name that was going to cause hurt I probably wouldn't. However if it was just a name that they simply didn't like then tough. They'd just have to like it or lump it.
The ones who have had kids especially. Theyve had their day choosing names.

Yes. I was once told when pregnant that even if people don't like the name they will love the child and that's what's important.

So if you get any negative comments just say well do you love X? When they say yes just say that's all that matters to you!

I had exactly this problem and I went ahead and used the name regardless as with dd1 and dd2 I was pressured into choosing a different name even though I was quite set on it I listened to my mum saying Over and over how the name she preferred suited her more or was much prettier. When dd3 was born I stuck to my guns and to this day (dd3 is now 3 years old) she won't call her by her name although now I'm NC with her, she just used a nickname or called her baby. I liked to remind her before going nc that she'd had her children and her time that it was now my choice and I wasn't going to be bullied into changing my mind again. Just remember this is Your baby and the decision should lie with you and your dh/dp x

Wouldnt bother me tbh - we all have different taste in names, so you will never please everyone. This is your child and your decision. (maybe dont mention the name until baby is born, then you wont have anyone trying to change your mind).

I wouldn't put too much weight on what other people think. If you love love it then that's what important. I didn't tell anyone my LO name until he was a week old and by that point it was non negotiable

I would.

I wouldn’t choose a name I thought no one would like as I would like my child to grow up liking their own name.

None of our family were over joyed with our choice for DD, but now at 5 months no one has mentioned it for a long time (FIL has even had it tattooed on himself after commenting the name looked like we had thrown scrabble pieces on a table and gone with whatever order they had fallen). Go for it they will get used to it

My family liked our name choice but in laws didn't. They told us they didn't like it when we were talking possible names one day, before we even knew what the sex was. A while later we told them we'd chose a name but were keeping it a surprise and one of them said "I hope it's not ....." 🙈 I ended up crying in the bathroom lol.

Still used it though :) so glad I stuck with it and it suits her 100% .

It depends. They might dislike it for personal reasons or maybe it's dreadful. Maybe they are set in their ways. Try it out on us and let us guide you.

Why would all the family hate it? Is it after someone they know?

Personally no I wouldn't.

Totally depends why they won’t like it!

If it’s due to a specific connection that all the family know about or something, I wouldn’t use it

If it’s becuase they are very traditional and you want something more unusual, I would say go with what you want!

I called my daughter something really unusual and my MIL wanted to call her by a different nickname as she couldn't pronounce it apparently?! Now she and everyone love it

No one in my family liked or understood my nephew's name, and honestly none of us really use it - we've all got our own nicknames for him (fairly normal in our family, I am called by about 6 different names by various family members). Obviously if it was causing upset we'd use the name, but parents don't mind. Baby was given the name of a relative with an unsavoury past but "not named after him", so an odd circumstance.

As long as it’s not the name of someone who has caused hurt and pain I’d go ahead and call them what you want to.

Yes I would. Your baby, your choice of name. But I agree that as long it's not the name of someone who your family have reason to hate/dislike.

What is the name? It is obscure?

Yes, my family hate my DCs name, they are 3 now and I still love it and think it suits them. My family still pull faces if a stranger asks their name.
The only time I wouldn't if if I was naming them after someone and they had good reason to associate the name with bad feelings.

Maybe hate is the wrong word, more to none of their tastes.

The name is Rufus so not completely out there but i know it's not going to be a favourite of anybody in the family

Rufus is a great name choice. Go with it!

I'd say go for it. The name my family hated for dd3 is Matilda. I didn't think it's unusual but you'd think I'd announced in calling my dd Satansunshinepop for the reaction it got 🙈

Rufus is a fine name imo. As a grandparent I see my job as loving my GC not naming them. Children grow into their names and soon Rufus’s relatives won’t be able to imagine him with any other name even if it’s not one they overly like.

We used a shortening for our son’s name at first which upset fil. He asked us not to, so we stopped. But it wasn’t just that he didn’t like it. I think you should go ahead, unless it’s the name of the person who strangled your mum’s hamster or something.

Rufus is an ace name! It reminds me of a gorgeous chap I went to school with- plus, obviously: Rufus Sewell!