DH doesn’t like any of my names

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My DH has vetoed all the names on my list while coming up with a shorter list I don’t like. Suggestions for names we might both like please?!

My list:
Joseph
Benjamin
Aidan (he thinks this is ok)
Francesco (Frankie)
Adam
Luke

His list:
Theodore
Max (which we can’t have as my bf called her child that)

If we have a girl we have agreed on Georgina. But we don’t want George.

Help!

Oh I’m surprised so many Georginas are called George! Really surprised. I don’t actually know any Georginas.

Good progress. Was going to say he needs a longer list, you need a veto.

I don't think it's helpful to start with a 'these are the only names acceptable to me' list or attitude.

Better to start with a longer list of names you like, one each. Be a bit open-minded and creative if possible. Apply vetoes, discuss areas of uncertainty, arrive at collection of names acceptable to you both.

Starting with heels already dug in and a 'defender of acceptability' atitude gives both of you the false notion that it is possible to insist on a name the other dislikes, despite their objections. That is not true.

On Georgina, have you never read The Famous Five OP?

Very good points there Lottie I think we both have strong aversions to lots of names for a variety of reasons (people we know or have known mainly- both good and bad) but we need to keep a more open mind and test things out.

Haha I’ve never read famous five (I was a fan of secret seven and magic faraway tree!) but yes Georgina aka George the Tomboy hehe

I like his lists much more than yours, sorry op.

I also know a georgina who goes by George. Also, you don't control what their friends call them when they are older, so if you hate georgie then don't go with georgina.

So are u still going with Georgina out of interest?

Georgina is still under discussion ! We’d like to control what her nickname will be but I know that’s not possible

I’m also starting to like Kate.

The Georginas I know are Georgie and Gigi, not George.

No, you can’t control nicknames! George may well be used, especially with Famous Five still around. I also dislike the other shortenings - those above and Gina.

Isaac?