MIL won't stop giving name suggestions and asking for the name

[Yellowcar107]

Hi,

This is my second pregnancy and my MIL was the same in the last one. I just have had enough really, I don't want to tell her the name we chose as last time we did she was rude about it.

As we don't give her a name she is constantly suggesting names and gets put out if we say we don't like them. I try to be polite and say its to similar to DD or someone in the family has it already.

She just won't stop and I don't know what to do about it. DH can't say a word to her as she gets all high rate with him.

I just want the name talk to stop and just want to enjoy going over to see them wtih DD like we did before.

Any suggestions? 🤦🏼‍♀️

Tell her a made up name. Preferably one she hates.

Don’t say you don’t like them, just say

‘Oh that’s nice, I’ll think about it’ or ‘oh I’ll add that to the list’

Then choose what the hell you want!

My MIL doesn't like DSs name and all through my pregnancy kept asking for names so we made up the weirdest names and told her those instead

How about High Reen or High La?

or High Zak or High Van?

My nan gave me loads of names that got "added to the list of names we will 100% never name our child "

She was so happy the names went on the list!

don’t get irate, tell her it’s going to be ‘insert hideous name’ that rhymes with your surname
Biff Smiff
Bill Williams
Bob
Gertrude. And then look blank when she says she doesn’t like it

Pick out a few names that you would never call your baby in 100 years and tell MIL those are the names on your shortlist.

Bonus points if they’re names MIL hates.

Or you could say that last time she asked about the name, she was rude about it and you don't want to talk about it this time around? Just say that every time she says it.

You know it’s probably just a matter of time until she suggests the name you’ve already chosen and then she’ll take credit for it forever.

Do you think waiting until the baby is born to tell her will make her less rude about it? Or do you think she will just be rude anyway when you have a new tiny person to look after and she will be even more annoying?

I would probably just say tell her. If she grumbles oh well. Or she might even like it.

Agree with Pps add to the list and move on say you are waiting to see when baby is born to give a name. Not everybody including family is going to like a name don't let her bother you.
Late mil called new born Dd Rachel for 3 weeks her name isn't Rachel but mil thought Rachel suited her

My mum does this. I've told her I don't want her to talk names, but she still does. I just smile, nod and say "yes, that's nice" to all names she suggests!

Yep, we made up names also, really weird ones. It stopped her.

(One of them i wish we had used now for real though!)

She could do what my nan did. Ring every single member of the family after ds2 was born and tell them he was called "William" when actually he was called "Alfie" names changed but chosen to demonstrate just how DIFFERENT the names were . My family were most confused because "William" really really doesn't go with ds1's name

MrsJayy and Timeforanothernewone 😮

I would have been furious. I was annoyed enough when MIL told me the name we had chosen was “boring” (because it was normal and SIL has made up “unique” names for her children!)

My mother pointedly told us she hated the name we picked for DS. We called him it anyway. 18 months on, she tells everyone how she chose his lovely name

My mother pointedly told us she hated the name we picked for DS. We called him it anyway. 18 months on, she tells everyone how she chose his lovely name

Tbf Mil didn't maliciously call her Rachel she just got it into her head it got really annoying after a week though

Pick a name that she'll hate and tell her if she doesn't stop bugging you then you will call the child that name just to annoy her.

Or get DH to deal with his mum and every time she starts leave the room. If she can't do as you have asked politely then I see no need to continue being polite.

Tell her you like Helen or Nelson

But you’re not sure about Helen...

@MrsJayy my nan was the same. She doesn't call him the wrong name any more but still struggles to remember his actual name! She normally just calls him 'the baby'. She remembers my niece's name as she once knew someone with her name

Me and DS1 did this as a game throughout DDiL's pregnancy. We worked our way through the 12 apostles, the ninja turtles, world XI footballers, girl bands, boy bands etc. It was just a bit of fun.

High rate?

I would tell her that you’ve got a name but it’s staying a secret until the baby is born because some people were so rude when you told them when you were pregnant last time. Then smile serenely.

Irate?

My OH told his side of the family my fav girls name and they all didn't like it! That was before we even found out she was a girl. From then on we just kept quiet and said we had a few to choose from . We used it anyway despite them not liking it!

Every time she suggests one I'd just say "oh that's lovely I'll add it to my list " . Tell her you're not in a rush and will have a couple to choose when she arrives ! Why's she so desperate to know anyway ! Nice to have some surprise on the day she arrives !