MIL won't stop giving name suggestions and asking for the name

[Yellowcar107]

Hi,

This is my second pregnancy and my MIL was the same in the last one. I just have had enough really, I don't want to tell her the name we chose as last time we did she was rude about it.

As we don't give her a name she is constantly suggesting names and gets put out if we say we don't like them. I try to be polite and say its to similar to DD or someone in the family has it already.

She just won't stop and I don't know what to do about it. DH can't say a word to her as she gets all high rate with him.

I just want the name talk to stop and just want to enjoy going over to see them wtih DD like we did before.

Any suggestions? 🤦🏼‍♀️

Holidayshopping - most sensible suggestion so far!

Tell her you love the name of someone she detests lol.
She is probably just excited at having a new Grandchild.

Pick a name that sounds different to how it looks and mispronounce it.
Something like Eurydice or Ptolemy. (Uri Dice and Putt-ole-emmy) and see who she tells.

My daft OH told his family our chosen name and they hated it which put him off to the point he refused to use it.

I wish I'd just said ''I'll add it to the list'' like a smiling robot. It would have been easier.

What did you say ForeverJung ?

Oh I wasted my energy defending my right to choose, pointing out that I had a better idea than she did what names would be perceived as ''weird'' or ''normal'' and that I wasn't going to name my child after the man she left my xh's father (her first husband) for! Kid you not. His name was James, perfectly nice name. But she left her husband for this James who died before I met them and she was actually pushing James on me for the baby's name! You gorra laugh. Now. At the time I felt hounded.

Just say oh that’s nice but I think I like Heliotrope better. Still it might be top of the list tomorrow - it changes every day!

Make it a different odd name every time of course. Don’t have so much fun choosing odd names for mil that you forget to name the baby

My MIL was so determined to have a certain (very not to my taste) name, that she embroidered a special hand made 'my name is....' quilt cover with her preferred name choice pre-birth and told me when it was ready.

Just say 'it's not one of my current favourites or I hadn't really thought about that one.'.. on a loop (and ignore).

wow that was manipulative @5leafclover!

My Mother is the same. I know she'll be rude about our name choice and so we've decided to avoid her negativity and ruining our name by not telling her until baby is born.

I just politely say (over and over) that me and Husband are making our name choice together, that we've thought about it long and hard and that we will announce when baby is born.

She can like it or lump it. Names are so personal to people's preferences, it annoys me how people seem to want to give their opinion.

Ermentrude Petal
Willeeyum Liam
John Thomas (I know someone who actually did that!)
Stacey-Mae-Daysee-Rae
Waynetta
Christian Grey
Cinderella-Belle
Henry Harry
Jack Jackson
Sharon Karen
Tracey Stacey
Debbie Dallas
Gizmo (my hamsters name)
Trixibelle Fifi Heavenly Tiger Lioncub

Just add a few more and give her the list

My mil sent me a list of names not to call dc3, because she categorised them as "made up" names. One of them was Bay, which we quite liked, so sent a message back saying "Bay's lovely, thank you, we'd never have thought of it." She stopped then, although she did tell us that she "approved of DD's name when she arrived, as if we needed approval.

Our immediate family were pretty sane about names, but DH’s great aunt (who he isn’t close to and who I have met precisely three times in 15 years) apparently campaigned very hard to MIL for “Flossie” for our DD. MIL pointed out it wasn’t actually her choice to make not that Flossie would have been her choice anyway. Great Aunt then thought it was “very rude” of us to not give MIL a “proper say”. MIL kindly (and sensibly) didn’t bother us with any of this at the time but told us later, long enough after DD’s birth for us to find it funny.

How often do you see MIL? I think if you can the “add it to the list” idea would cause the least aggro.

”she did tell us that she "approved of DD's name when she arrived, as if we needed approval.”

We got this. We were warned (threatened really) by FIL not to have a “stupid” name because they were embarrassed by the names SIL had chosen for her children. When we used the name I had always said I’d use (old family name) MIL told us she was glad we’d taken notice of. FIL 🙄.