FURIOUS

[MissMoodyMoo]

We had decided on Sophie for a name and my OH has just told me it is an ex girlfriends name!!!! Wtf! He tried to justify it saying it was a daft under 16 relationship but I'm still raging!!

I would maybe feel this way if it had been a serious relationship, but a teenage relationship wouldn't have any impact on a baby name for me.

if you had your heart set on Sophie, use the name. If you don't you'll end up looking back in years to come and may regret not using the name you really wanted.

I struggled so badly to pick a name for DD there's no way I would have discounted a name I loved for something like this 😂

You're being ridiculous.

Unless he is only 17, I don't see the issue

Bloody hell

Did he tell you because he's less keen on the name Sophie than you are, knew that you were hormonal and that it would put you off it?

Sophie was, some years ago, the most popular girls' name in the charts and it's been pretty popular for a long time. My best friend (48), my niece (32) and DDs friends (20) are all called Sophie so it's stood the test of time. If I loved it, I would use it and the association will very quickly be with your DD and nobody else.

My ex fiancé always liked a particular name, the name of a friend of ours who unfortunately died. It was “our name” for if we had a little boy.

Things didn’t work out. Ex married someone else, had a little boy and used the name! People kept asking me whether I was shocked. I wasn’t, it’s a name that he liked. However, about a year later his wife found out about the history of the name (ex told her I think) and she was FURIOUS. I sort of understand her reaction. The name came from a loved up time when he was with someone else.

But it still is a name he loved.

(I didn’t use it!)

FURIOUS I'm not a fan of. But one of the DCs goes to school with a child whose name is the equivalent of Fantastic (deliberately not IDing the poor child on the internet!) which I think is much nicer.

Seriously OP, cuppa tea and a lie down.

You are ridiculous. How about "Ridiculous"? But I think you'd need a more ordinary middle name than "Furious".

Tom
Sam
John?

My DH vetoed every name he had a 'relationship' with. Fuck me, I'm surprised our kid has a name... all my favourites were a no.

I didn't care, and thought he was being ridiculous - it's not like you're going to look at your daughter and think of Dorris from 2003 who was a firecracker.

Go with Sophia if it bothers you too much.

Come on OP, go have a cuppa and take a breath. This is a none issue. At least it wasn't a favourite past dog or something.

If it was a long term adult relationship I could see your point OP, but a teenage one?

Use the name, I think you’ve got overly upset and once you’ve calmed down you’ll see that.

Sophie is an incredibly popular name id imagine around half of the male population of the uk have an ex named Sophie.
Its a lovely name I think. Just use it if you love it. Its not like its the name of an ex wife!! just a teenage girlfriend.
I had the name of an ex on our baby names list and we both loved it (not a serious ex relationship) but we didnt use it in the end because it was in the top ten names for last year.

If you backtrack on a name you love because of an age old teenage relationship, you are NUTS.

Nuts.

What about Sophia?
Or Sylvie?

Don’t be raging. Your baby isn’t here yet and she won’t know that she shares a name with her fathers ex. She’ll share a name with a lot of people.

Sophurius?

If ex boyfriends' names were out, it would severely limit my choice of baby names!

Track the bitch down on FB and insist that she changes it
I would be fummin Hun

In hindsight we really should have called ds FURIOUS.

DD has the same name as an ex of DHs. Didn't realise I had to be furious about it.

We chose the name because we liked it, it worked with our ridiculous surname and we liked the meaning.

Your DH once knew a girl called Sophie?
This is not a thing to upset yourself over. Everyone knows someone called Sophie.

When your Sophie has been grumpy all day, cried 349 times that night and will only sleep on your chest like a tiny sticky hot water bottle, believe me, the other one will be a million miles from anyone's thoughts

In too was hoping for a baby called Furious.
Call her Fury.

I'm in the minority here I think but I totally agree with OP, even though it was a teenage relationship, I would never name my child after an ex of my husbands or suggest that any of my exs names, that's really weird and he should have let it be known immediately so you didn't get attached to it. I feel your pain. I wouldn't be furious as such but I understand why you're upset you now can't use the name.

Our DS has the same name as a childhood boyfriend of mine and my DP couldn't care less. In fact I can't even remember if I mentioned it before or after we used it. Furious is a bit much, it's not like it's his ex wife's name!

Dammit thought the baby was called Furious!

DS has the same name as an ex of mine. DH knows. Also same name as a couple of celebrities, my ex boss's son, 2 colleagues... and a neighbour... Not an issue!

FFS

Imagine having an actual problem