Alexandra shortened?

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We have a baby Alexandra, we love the name and it really suits her

Inevitably friends and relatives are calling her Alex already but I quite like Ally instead (if it must be shortened!)

Would love to know which you prefer?

Of course they have, they’ve heard you say and they don’t want to upset you. (yet)

Don't be silly. They're old enough ( one of them in their late 20's ) to be able to decide what they want to be called.

At that age they are. Doesn’t mean you haven’t been peculiarly controlling. Personally I’d have told you to do one.

You're making yourself look ridiculous here.
Why choose a name for your child to then have it shortened to something you don't like? If when the child is old enough to want that shortened version, fine, but as their parent we have the right to say to people that we don't want it when they are still children.

You're making yourself look ridiculous here.

Oh the irony!

As children develop relationships with others, they can be given shortening and pet names that are part of that intimacy which is really none of your business. Standing over them, policing their name - believing you own and control it - which is actually part of their own evolving identity - is very bizarre. It’s interesting you’re completely unaware of this.

My own mother was similar - she was always very controlling - but even she gave up past a certain age.

I haven't policed their names. I gave them a name that DH and I loved and that's the name we used for them. When people early shortened them we explained we didn't like the shortened version and would be using the full name.

Because we are the parents and that's the name we chose

Because the dc were used to their full name that's what they liked to be called!

IF they'd have wanted to use the shortened version they absolutely could have, but they didn't.

‘We’! Whose name is it? Who does it belong to?

I get that you don’t get it. I really, really don’t care.

Thank you all for these replies

We know we won’t have any say in nicknames others call her as she builds relationships, or that she’d like for herself. Those calling her Alex so far haven’t met her, and she is a baby.

While she is little though we may as well use a shortening DH and I like, which might set a precedent - or indeed stick with her full name.

We’ve been calling her Alexandra so far and she hasn’t told us to “do one” yet!

Tatiana do you think a baby of 6 months old can decide if they want to shorten their name or they don't mind if their parents friends do? Or do you think it's perfectly ok for the parents to state that they prefer the full version because after all it is their child?

Would you honestly refer to your friends child as Charlie even after they've told you they are calling him Charles?

OP if you choose to call your DD a shortened version of Alexandra that's perfectly fine but as her parents that your choice. Nobody else's.

If you want to stick with Alexandra your friends will have to respect that.

Tatiana you’re a weirdly aggressive poster. Why are you attacking GreatDuck?

As many posters, whist Alexandra is young then you can choose what to call her/ what others call her. It would be totally rude to have a daughter called Charlotte who you call Lottie only to have people decide to call her Charlie! It would be weirdly oppositional of them.

Obviously if she choses to go by Alex as she grows up you won’t have a say but as you’ve said, you have no problem with that :)

Not even remotely attacking her - we’re discussing something and disagree.

I’m the Alexandra in the case. My name, my choice. Not my parents.

It would be totally rude to have a daughter called Charlotte who you call Lottie only to have people decide to call her Charlie! It would be weirdly oppositional of them.

My DD has a 3 syllable name. We call her one diminutive and her friends call her another. It’s not ‘oppositional’ - what a bizarre idea.

It’s my DDs choice which shortened version she prefers - not mine - it’s her name. And if I called my son Charles and his mates called him Charlie - it’s up to him whether he likes it or not - none of my business.

You are talking about older children here, clearly not a baby. Babies don’t have mates so the people calling OPs baby by another diminutive would be adults-OPs friends and family. In which case that would be rude.

No one has said she can’t chose when she’s older. Re read previous comments.

Not even remotely attacking her - we’re discussing something and disagree.

you called her bizarre and wierdly controlling because she expects people to call her baby by the name her parents chose for her and not a version they'd prefer.

I’m talking about all children bar babies who can only goo.

I don’t think policing other people’s names for my children is necessary.

Yes pallisers because that is my opinion. (Who are you?)

Not Alexa, they will get taunted with Amazon commands :-S

"Alexa, play some music."
"Alexa, set a pizza timer for 20 minutes"

Something being your opinion doesn't mean it isn't an attack.

And who am I? What are you on?

How are you pronouncing it - Ally like friend? Ali like short form of Alison?

Then what you’re talking about is totally irrelevant to the OP and all of us addressing the OPs question. The question is about the diminutive for a baby!

It’s not personal to her, I dont even know her.

Nor is it clear why you’re involving yourself.

What you NN your baby now will change over the years. School, siblings, your child's wishes, will all come into play.

Just be flexible.

ANYWAY! I like Lexi, tbh. And Lexi is David Bowie's and Iman's daughter's NN.

The question is about the diminutive for a baby!

This is an issue that continues for their whole childhood, that’s the point.

What you NN your baby now will change over the years. School, siblings, your child's wishes, will all come into play.

Just be flexible.

In a nutshell.