Made the mistake of telling people what name we like...!

[Nixen]

My DH and I both love the name Felicity.

I’ve struggled a bit emotionally with this pregnancy anyway as we had a loss last year and my family are not respecting my wishes not to shout the news from the bloody roof tops. I get that they are excited and that is lovely, but I feel very uncomfortable about the contents of my uterus being discussed with everyone they meet.

I made the mistake of telling my mum we liked the name Felicity and she has said ‘if it’s girl I’d like you to reconsider your name... kids can be cruel blah blah blah’ and some other shit about how when people asked her what names we were thinking and she said Felicity they were like ‘oh’ rather than ‘that’s lovely’ ... like I should give a shit what some random person from her work thinks?

It has really really upset me and I now don’t want to discuss anything to do with names with her. She keeps suggesting other girls names and it’s really getting to me. I was so upset by what she said and it’s making me feel dreadful thinking when baby comes she will hate the name - oh and she says my dad and brother don’t like it either

(the boys name we told her is a family name which everyone is happy with... but we actually know we are having a girl - she doesn’t yet!)

I know it’s DH and my choice, but it’s making me feel shitty and just adding to me really not wanting to discuss my pregnancy with her full stop. Any advice?

QuantumBlue I think you’ve hit the nail on the head with that one! Geography divides DH and I from our families and that’s starting to feel like not the worst thing in the world when it comes to having a baby, I just need to remember that it’s up to me how much I share of our lives

@Nixen I think your mum sounds like a bit of a nightmare "she would like you to reconsider" She had her time to name her children she has no say in what you name yours. I think you really need to put some boundaries down now because she sounds like she would be critical of your parenting. Tell her straight "mum it doesn't matter whether you like the name we're the parents we love it and we're sticking with it and any more suggestions you send will just be ignored!" and really I don't see how kids could pick on her over the name Felicity! its not that common but its a normal name to me and I work with kids I've heard some weird and crazy names.