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Made the mistake of telling people what name we like...!

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Nixen · 21/03/2018 07:17

My DH and I both love the name Felicity.

I’ve struggled a bit emotionally with this pregnancy anyway as we had a loss last year and my family are not respecting my wishes not to shout the news from the bloody roof tops. I get that they are excited and that is lovely, but I feel very uncomfortable about the contents of my uterus being discussed with everyone they meet.

I made the mistake of telling my mum we liked the name Felicity and she has said ‘if it’s girl I’d like you to reconsider your name... kids can be cruel blah blah blah’ and some other shit about how when people asked her what names we were thinking and she said Felicity they were like ‘oh’ rather than ‘that’s lovely’ ... like I should give a shit what some random person from her work thinks?

It has really really upset me and I now don’t want to discuss anything to do with names with her. She keeps suggesting other girls names and it’s really getting to me. I was so upset by what she said and it’s making me feel dreadful thinking when baby comes she will hate the name - oh and she says my dad and brother don’t like it either Sad

(the boys name we told her is a family name which everyone is happy with... but we actually know we are having a girl - she doesn’t yet!)

I know it’s DH and my choice, but it’s making me feel shitty and just adding to me really not wanting to discuss my pregnancy with her full stop. Any advice? Sad

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cago2710 · 21/03/2018 19:47

My sisters a felicity it's a lovely name. She loves it The only problem was my dd used to say auntie piss when she was learning to talkGrin. But go for it if u like it that's all that matters .

BatKat · 21/03/2018 20:50

I love the name Smile

badg3r · 21/03/2018 20:55

I LOVE Felicity! Tell her you've changed your mind and you're going to call her Olivia. It tell her it's a boy Wink

BlackberryandNettle · 21/03/2018 21:18

Felicity is a lovely! Great choice. Dont engage in discussion, just go ahead and use Felicity. Your mum has had her turn to choose names! She'll get used to it and probably feel a bit silly in years to come for dissing it.

faireemuff · 21/03/2018 21:23

Felicity is my all time favourite girls name!! I was desperate to have it but we have a very close friend by that name so decided on our second. Although in hindsight I regret that and wish we had gone with it.

My dad was awful about my sons name (after he was born and registered. I honestly lost sleep over it, fucking awful thing to do.

You call your baby what you want too.

Soon after you'll have to develop a very thick skin and won't give a shot what people think

applesandpears56 · 21/03/2018 21:25

Felicia nicer Smile but it is your choice and you should just go with what you’ve chosen!

flumpybear · 21/03/2018 21:45

@green
Hilarious!!! I was sending that to a friend as we were going out for a work meal lol!! Was very nice by the way Wink

I did wonder why she didn't get the message - so pleased I didn't put something more identifying ShockHmm

Frazzled2207 · 21/03/2018 22:09

My mum made it very clear how much she hated DS2's name. She is irrational about a lot of things, her best suggestion for his name was IanConfused(no offence to any mnetters with baby Ian's)
He's nearly 3 now and she still hates it but has stopped banging on about it and admits he couldn't really be anything else now.

I know a baby Felicity and think it's lovely and timeless. Don't know any others - nice to stand out a bit!

WhereIsBlueRabbit · 21/03/2018 22:48

Slightly outing but our bump was known as Jeremiah-Obediah at one stage, mainly to wind up my DM when she kept asking about names. She didn't believe I wouldn't really it our shortlist up for comments and approval by the whole family Grin. Another week, it was between Wayne for a boy and Waynetta for a girl Grin. (No offence to anyone with a Jeremiah-Obediah or a Wayne, of course)

TempusFugitive · 21/03/2018 22:52

Felatio obviously thats why your mum doesnt like it.
Dreadfully harsh name despite nice meaning. Heard worse. Im with yr family. Id be begging u not to use it

Greenyogagirl · 21/03/2018 23:12

Haha flumpy! Although Prosecco is a lovely name for a girl Grin

Joeybee · 21/03/2018 23:19

I know how you feel here. I am pregnant after a loss last year. Last year when I was pregnant, I was so excited that I discussed some name ideas with my Mum and she was very negative about my choices. Despite the fact I'd thought a lot about the names, and liked them, her reaction did make me feel upset.
That's why, this time around, we didn't announce the pregnancy to the family till 13 weeks, and we will not be announcing the gender or the name until baby is born. People will have their opinions, but it's a lot harder for people to be negative once baby is here and it's all set in stone.

Try and not let your Mum's comments put you off the name. It is a lovely name, and I am not quite sure why she thinks kids would be cruel about that name tbh. It's your baby and your decision, and I am sure she'll get used to the name over time and accept it.

windchimesabotage · 21/03/2018 23:22

Felicity is a gorgeous name!!

My son is called Ambrose and you would not believe the flack we got when I stupidly told people what we were going to name him before he was born.
The worst case was when I had this terrible pain and had to go in to have it checked out and thought we had lost the baby. Of course no one knew this had happened but on the same evening one of our 'friends' posted something on my facebook timeline with Ambrosia custard and a song basically taking the piss out of the name.
I went absolutely mental. It was really horrendous to have someone make fun of my sons name like it was all a big joke whilst I was in hospital not knowing whether he was alive or dead.

This pregnancy I am not telling anyone the name until she is born.

For some reason people think they can say what they want when the name is only potential. As though they might be able to get you to choose a different one. They dont get that for you its very real already.

thegreylady · 22/03/2018 07:40

Felicity is one of my favourite names and such a beautiful meaning too.

thegreylady · 22/03/2018 07:42

Fizz on Corrie is Fiona not Felicity 🙂

NellMangel · 22/03/2018 07:47

I had this from family after son was born. And my son has a top 5 name. Comments along the lines of "where did you get that from?" and "I wasnt expecting you to choose a name like that". It made me doubt myself and I got in a right state over whether to change it and what to.

He's three now and suits his name.

People can be thoughtless dicks.

laddylonglocks · 22/03/2018 07:52

It's a lovely name OP. It's got some great nicknames too.
We didn't give a shit what anyone else thought, I'm sure some family members thought our choices were too common. But once baby is here none of it matters.

Snowysky20009 · 22/03/2018 08:03

I love this name. Was on my 'girls' list for both my pregnancies. I had 2 boys!

mintich · 22/03/2018 08:08

Felicity was on my list!

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Nixen · 22/03/2018 13:48

Thanks for that TempusFugitive but I fail to see how the first three letters being the same as a rarely used word for sex act would be something anyone cared about Hmm

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Appuskidu · 22/03/2018 13:55

I absolutely love that name-I know one who is shortened to Flick; I think it’s really cute!

I would actually pull your mum up on this and ask her not to comment again. She’s had her turn to name her own kids-it’s your turn now.

Amomentofbeauty · 22/03/2018 22:39

I would literally never make the connection Tempus somehow has and also would never describe it as a harsh name. So Hmm.

TempusFugitive · 22/03/2018 22:48

Well you were warned!

LoveInTokyo · 22/03/2018 23:45

I also would never have made that connection - and still won’t.

Felicity is a lovely name, OP. It’s both a sweet name for a little girl and a classy name for a grown up woman.

Ignore your mother, she’s being ridiculous.

Shitterton · 22/03/2018 23:58

My darling girl is Felicity. She's 7 now and I love it as much as I ever did. I've not once heard anything negative about it. There are two more at her school too! It's pretty, classy and not so unusual as to stand out in a weird way. Go for it! (And congratulations! )

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