Felicity/Effie, Caspar/Casper argh help!

[TinyRatsAss]

Haven’t found out the sex of our baby but we have finally agreed on a name for each, kind of.

I love Felicity but my OH loves Effie, can we get away with Effie as a possible NN for Felicity?

And WDYT of Caspar/Casper and which spelling? We’re both English and I think the former is more traditional but OH thinks he’d be forever saying “with an A”. For what it’s worth, I have a name where I have to state “with a ...” and it doesn’t bother me in the slightest. (Please leave your friendly ghost comments at the door, the 90s were a long time ago!)

Other suggestions that you think we might like based on these are welcome, we need middle names still. Thank you!

How do you get Effie out of Felicity? It is nothing like it.

Violet is absolutely like violent. How on earth can you not see or hear that?

You can use whatever diminutive you like for a name, how did people get Polly from Molly from Mary? It’s just a pet name.

How do I not hear violent instead of violet? Because the two words have completely different meanings and when I hear Violet as a name I imagine a small flower or the colour. Not a word with a completely different entomology.

Yes I know they are different words with different meanings but that doesn't alter the fact they look very similar written down and sound similar when spoken.

Well we can agree to disagree then. I’ve never had the issue of thinking ‘is that child called Violent?’ When I’ve heard the name. My name has the sound hell in it, my cousin has the sound scar in her name. I just don’t think it’s a relevant point if the op likes the name.

I can't hear Effie without seeing the comedian

I LOVE Caspar but family have been very about the friendly ghost connotations whenever it's been mentioned. If I ever manage to actually get pregnant though I think I'd just ignore them. I would definitely stick with the traditional spelling if I were you OP.

Also think Effie is lovely but not sure it works as nn for Felicity... are there any other names you like that you could nn Effie for?

Wow, I never knew a name as simple as Effie could cause such divided opinions! I appreciate them all. My mum also says Effie sounds like you're trying not to swear - along the lines of 'fiddlesticks' and such like.

I've never heard of the comedian, it reminds me of Effie from Skins which isn't great when I think about it.

mouse the friendly ghost thing drives me nuts, my partner is called Thomas but nobody calls him a tank engine or makes train noises at him! Effie is my OH's choice and Felicity is the only one that I love that he is more agreeable to but I want him to feel like it's the one iyswim.