MIL doesn't like name???

[MummyMiddleton]

I am pregnant with my first. He is due November 10th. As soon as we found out we were having a little boy we started thinking of names.
We have chosen Daniel Robert because it is cute and sounds nice with out surname (Middleton).
We met up with some family last week and told them the name, most of them were sweet and loved it. But not old moan pants (DH mum) of course had some issue. She suggested we name the baby Edward after her father. She didn't say we had to, but she looked like she would be disappointed if we didn't. We both felt very pressurized and awkward.

We are still planning to call him Daniel, but im really confused and upset about what happened. Any advice?

Ask her if her Mother in law got to choose her baby names?!

It's not her baby and you are giving your son nice traditional names, it's not like you are calling him cutie pudding or something equally inappropriate. Ignore her and enjoy your new family member.

Given that mil has at least one son, she surely had her chance to call a baby Edward.

She didn't call him Edward because her father was still alive when DH was born

Smile and ignore.

Is it her first grandchild? Maybe she expected your baby to have a family name but honestly put it out of your mind her perceived upset is not your concern really he is your baby to name, fwiw Mil called Dd2 Rachel for 3 weeks nothing wrong with rachel but it wasn't her name mil thought she looked like a Rachel

If she liked the name that much and it means something to her then she should've called your DH it (I'm assuming she didn't).

Not her decision, if she mentions it again just say that you've already decided and that's that.

Next time don't tell them (her) until baby is born and maybe registered. It is your baby, your choice. She had her turn naming babies. If the name was unique then maybe she might have a point (bit still shouldn't say anything), your choice is lovely and along similar fairly traditional lines to hers.

This is why you shouldn't discuss names during pregnancy, just name the baby and tell them then.

Normally I would say your baby your name... but I saw a thread where the OP's DD was planning on using the same name of the woman who the OP's DH had an affair with.

Might be worth checking there's not some massively triggering reason for her objection to the name? Then you know whether to not use the name at all, use the name but be sympathetic towards her, or use the name and tell her to fuck off.

So you only call babies after dead people? Someone should have told my grandfather (John) who called his son after his brother (John), and that son, my father, promptly called his son John, too. All four Johns, who also shared a surname, lived under the same roof for almost ten years.

Could be worse. Ex FIL invited me to choose between Reginald & Aubrey. Both family names.

I declined Reginald on grounds of having had a proverbially creepy Uncle Reg so no one on my side of the family would be able to deal with it.

Never did come up with an acceptable excuse for not producing Little Aubrey to demand, though...

Ignore her. Unless you're happy to have two middle names and make the second middle name Edward. But I doubt that would be good enough for her, so probably just ignore her.

I remember with my first dc naively discussing names with the ILs. I quickly realised they thought they were getting a say in it! So we picked a name that had never come up in discussion and then kept it to ourselves until ds was born. I never discussed names for the next two dc.

Yes, in Jewish culture you don't use the name of a living family member.

The name is important to her because her father is dead. She didn't name DH Edward because her father was still alive at that point

I think it's Jewish people who don't name a baby after a still living relative. Of course some other cultures always name the first son after the father so there's no right and wrong there!

If the subject comes up again just say you are still deciding and want to wait till he is born to see what suits him.

You've learnt an important lesson....never tell anyone the name until the baby is here. Then just announce it as fact, not something that can be debated/changed.

For now, just be straight with MIL. 'Edward is a great name, but we have a name for our baby already. It's Daniel Robert'.

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We asked her why she prefered Edward over Daniel. Her only reason was that Edward was her fathers name and Daniel had no special meaning to her so it would be pointless naming him that.
Im pretty sure "pointless" was a word she actually used if I remember correctly.

So let's take it back to when she named her children... did she name them after relatives who'd died? Her grandfather, maybe? Her husband's father? Anyone?

Her daughter is named Audrey because of Audrey Hepburn and DH is named Clive after her uncle who died

She doesn't have a say in it.

Not her baby, not her choice of name. Put your foot down now, or she'll expect to have a say in every decision till he's 21 or beyond.

I didn't want my dd to call her dd the name she chose. She did. I love the name now. It's the name of my dgd. It's wonderful.