Baby name Regret

[ZoeH123]

My daughter is 13 weeks old and we called her Esme Rose pn ( Es-ME)
However some people say Esmay and it drives me mad. Is it too late to change her name?
Xx

And biased clearly but really dislike Rose as a name, sorry.

Esme Rose is a lovely name.

Stick to your guns about the pronounciation, it will all be fine once people get the hang of it.

There are lots of names with more than one pronunciation and always have been (Helena, Irene, Evelyn etc).

The only Esmes I know are pronounced Esmay (which I think is very pretty) so I don't think it is fair to get cross with people who don't pronounce the name in the way you want it to be pronounced. I would assume a child whose name was pronounced Esmee was spelling her name Esmee. I wouldn't mind being corrected, but I would be annoyed to be corrected by someone in a huff that I was pronouncing a name in the way thousands of people do pronounce it.

It's not when they say Esmay upon reading the name that is fair enough, it's just annoying when I've said I pronounce the name Esme and then people still say Esmay! X

My Esme gets called Es or Esy by everyone anyway! Teachers sometimes called her esmay but not often enough to bother her.
Leave it its lovely

Does your daughter like her name? X

I work in a nursery and all the 'Esme's' we have had are all pronouned 'Es-me'. Its a beautiful name OP and much prefer this pronunciation to 'Esmay'. My 86 year old grandmother is 'Esmee' and has never had any trouble with her name. Perhaps add an extra 'e' rather than changing name altogether?

That's brilliant news.
Which area are you from if you don't mind me asking?
Do they spell there names Esmee at the nursery? Xx

The only Esme I know pronounces her name 'Es-mee'

On a side note no one pronounces my name right. When I was a teen it annoyed me, now I'm an adult I've learnt to smile patiently and correct them. Doctors are the worst for mispronouncing my name! Saying that it can at best be conversation starter, at worst end in a friendly giggle when they realise.

Esme is beautiful and if you and your dp like it then keep it.

Yes she loves it

I thought you wanted opinions on "Regret" as a name. I thought, "you can't call a baby Regret!"

Just change the spelling to Esmee so that people can clearly see it's pronounced differently from Esme.

My Esme loves her name too

Really, I wouldn't even change the spelling - it's annoying but not end of the world stuff!

I just really over pronounce it when I say it! The problem round here is that the regional accent is very 'eh' for 'ee' sounds (think 'lorr-eh' instead of 'lorry' so doomed really! )

We know an Esme who is nicknamed Mimi - so cute!

I'd say es-me, I'm in the south if it helps. There does seem to be a bit of a north/south divide going on with the pronunciation

The thing is, you either have to accept that this is a name lots of people mispronounce or that is very similar to one pronounced differently, or you don't.

One of my dd's has such a name, and in a recent online poll, 50% pronounced it one way, 50% the other! So, however much I pronounce it one way, I have to accept that it gets pronounced the other way, a lot.

I still love the name, my dd still likes her name (though she does get fed up with everyone saying it 'wrong' before they hear it), and it's unusual.

My other dd has a much more common name and it's unambiguously pronounced, and of course it's easier, but then it's more common and some people don't like that!

Either make your peace with the mispronounciation which will continue, but you and her close friends and family will get it right, or change it now as it doesn't get better as the social circle/school expands and lots of people get it wrong!

Hi

Just thought Id update this post for reference.
We changed her name to Evie! X

Glad you reached a resolution.

change it then it will probably annoy her too

I have an Esme pronounced Ezmay. She gets Ezmay, Ezmee, Ezmi and Ezma. It doesn't bother me or her. What bothers her is people spelling it wrong. She has just turned 6 and got 4 cards with random spellings. Id only heard Ezmay before she was born and those I have met since have been Ezmay too.

I thought you'd called her Regret!
Like Sorrow in Tess of the D'urbevilles

Hi

Thanks for message but like I said I've changed her name now to Evie so it's sorted

My daughter's name is Deborah and people would want to keep calling her Debbie, particularly family members. I hated it but I preserved and kept correcting them. Before very long they got the message. She is 30 years old now and nobody would dream of calling her Debbie.

Stick with it OP they will soon get the message.

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