Baby name Regret

[ZoeH123]

My daughter is 13 weeks old and we called her Esme Rose pn ( Es-ME)
However some people say Esmay and it drives me mad. Is it too late to change her name?
Xx

Don't change it, especially if you and your DH love it.

I'm in Ireland and had never heard of the Ez-me pronunciation til I joined mumsnet but I think names in the U.K. often get changed to the most simplistic, phonetic sound (e.g. Gallagher, Cahill, loads of other Irish surnames) rather than the original pronunciation so I'd say the majority in the uk would say ez-me and the rest of the world es-may. So big deal she will have to correct some people, if it's a name you love it's worth it.

If seen meadows comments on another thread she aggravated people on there too with fixed views Id just ignore. If by fixed views you mean not in agreement then I supoose you are right.

Is that how things work on here? Just ignore anyone who has a different viewpoint?

Very mature.

Sorry I asked for my last post to be removed as it was maybe unfair, I meant you kept arguing with people because you could t see their point of view. I just felt U were a little unfair to op here she's not referring to her child as a kitten just unhappy with how the name she thought would sound actually sounds in reality some people make mistakes she was just looking for advice

I never said she was campaign the child with a kitten. The reference was because of the way it seems acceptable to change a child's name. I don't agree with that. People who do are never going to understand why I mentioned the family pet. I just think a child's name is far more important.

I can see other points of view, i just don't agree, but also that works both ways, can people see mine? I don't think so. rather than reiterating their point, people have accused of being a troll, said I should be ignored and called me a low life

*comparing the child

I appreciate you asking for your post to b removed, but in keeping of context I would just leave it.

Lovely name, don't change it.
Honestly every time someone says it wrong just say sorry it's prouncounced this way. You'll only have to correct them once. She won't be doing it all her life once she can introduce herself. So many names have versions of spelling/pronunciation it is a weird mumsnet thing to be concerned at having to spell your name. I've spelt my name every time I do something and correct pronunciation and it doesn't bother me one bit

You are perfectly entitled to your view, in some ways I agree with you to not change the name, I advised op I thought she should keep it too! Id just read that the op had said you had upset her and she's obviously upset about the name issue anyway. Sorry if I offended you in the process as I said I asked for my post to be removed as I was quick to judge U and clicked send before Id thought.

Nah no worries I appreciate you saying.

Is is incredibly frustrating to be the one who upset the OP though, particularly as she is the one doing the name calling. That really pisses me off. She calls me a troll and a low life but then I get told I'm upsetting her

I'd never have considered using a French pronunciation. I don't know any Esmes, but there are a few Aimees around and they sound exactly like regular old Amys. I think it would be a shame to change it just because a few people have made a mistake.

I would try to rise above it if you can. Soon she'll be old enough to correct people herself if she's bothered.

I would pronounce it EZZ-me unless corrected. If I were you, I would not change Esme's name. It's really pretty. Names get pronounced differently according to where you are anyway. So Helen becomes Ellen if you are somewhere where it's the norm to drop aitches. Sandra has a different 'a' sound depending on whether you are in north or south England. Ruth might have a rolled 'r' in Scotland, but a flat 'r' elsewhere. Just stick with Esme and gently correct people. They'll soon get it!

I know an adult EsME. She does occasionally get Es-MAY from new people but generally easy to correct and not a problem. I think its a lovely name! Think people will manage to mispronounce most names given half the chance!

It's a beautiful name. I'm not normally into Anglicising of names, but I think Esme without the accent is fair enough.

Definitely don't change it to Eve, it's a lovely name but SO overused. You've not chosen anything weird or embarrassing for your DD.

My cousin's daughter is Esmé pronounced as es-may and when I see it without the accent I just assume that the English parents didn't understand that it was necessary for the pronunciation so would still pronounce it Es-may as it's what I know. I've never been corrected in real life.

Technically, it should be pronounced Es-Mee if spelt Esme, but most people assume you've just missed off the accent (like Zoe, should technically be pronounced Zo unless it's spelt Zoë or Zoey etc but most people will still pronounce it Zo-ee in the UK). Esmee would be a more suitable spelling.

You shouldn't have too much of an issue changing her name to Evie. Honestly, you could just call her Evie and leave it as it is on her bc.

Hey Autumsweater

Does it bother your friend being called Esmay or doesn't she mind?
It would be lovely to see a real Esme's point of view so I can have a guess at how my daughters reaction maybe!
Thank You all so much for the support ( ex the one I choose to ignore)! Xx

ex the one I choose to ignore that would be me. You haven't ignored me, you have acknowledged me in your post above. Making snide comments is really immature. As is calling someone a troll and a low life simply because they have a different opinion to yourself. I don't really get offended so it's all good, but maybe in future you could consider that just possibly everyone does not think the same, and that maybe it's ok to have a different opinion without resorting to childish put downs.

Zoe doesn't bother her, she just tells people how she pronounces it and there's no problem. I don't think it happens that often to annoy her.

I think most names have something to annoy people at some point - my name is Gaelic so lots of people don't know how to pronounce it when they read it, my husband has a very common top 10 name which he thinks is too generic..

Dd will correct people when she's older and everyone will get used to it.

Regret is a terrible name

I'm glad I'm not the only one reading the thread title that way

Every time I see it in active I do a double take

Is her middle name Rose nicer than Esme do you think? X

I have an Esme (Ez-mee) and I agree, it drives me mad when it is mispronounced!

I can understand if someone reads it and thinks 'Ez-may" but when i've just bloody said it to you, just listen to how I pronounce it!

Don't change it just because some people cannot be told (honestly, I think half the people I know can't even hear that they say it differently) - why should you have to do that for other people?!

No one could pronounce my name as a kid (is a bit more well known these days) and it's annoying to correct people but meh - not the end of the world!

I like Regret but I'd pronounce it Re-gray, of course.