Should you not use your fav name due to fears of bullying in future?

[KathyLou1981]

Feels like I'm being weak. Some say it will make him individual and any bullying strengthens. Others that my vanity could cause future problems for child. So hard to know what to do?!

I have four sons and my favourite name is Gabriel-never used it even though it's beautiful because my husband is convinced he would have been called Gayboy

I like Gabriel. DS could have been one.

Also like Raven as a middle name.

I don't think an unusual name necessarily leads to bullying. I had an unusual name as a child (it's quite popular now) and my DC have fairly unusual names.

Ironically the only bullying over my DC's names has been by mumsnetters, ha .

Unless a name is something implying willies, boobs or poo I think you'll be fine. Boglarka, Gaylord or Titiana maybe not.

OP, go for what you want. I have an unusual name, but it has definitely got me places. One lady from a prospective job said at an interview that she was looking forward to meeting me due to my name, as she thought that it was beautiful. She must have been bored of all the Janes and Emmas!

As someone said up ahead, it is really helpful to have a different name when you are networking. Also, what's to say that your child will only work in the UK? The name may be very well received elsewhere in the world, as is my name in the US and Canada.

Don't pay any attention.

Bullyish children come from bullyish numbskull parents. Rubbish about the name being the cause of bullying. Absolute rubbish.

I have a Gabriel. It is awesome and he suits it so well. Am in leafy London though and there are a number around. He is either G-man or Gabes (but he is just turned 3 so can be whatever the hell he likes)

My stuffy in laws made some sounds about him being teased but then my fil voluntarily goes by 'Dick' even though it's not his given name so WHF

Gabriel is incredibly popular where I am in the US. Usually shortened to Gabe. Both are lovely. I have never heard of a child being teased about it.

My husband was bullied in school. including about his unusual name but that wasn't the trigger. His brother has an even more unusual name - the most unusual name I have encountered actually and which also sounds very like a girl's name. he was never bullied.

*stops taking pill
*plans Valentine's night of passion

Watch this space for son number five!!

it's impossible to say without hearing the name

I work with children, and they are bullied about names much less than you would think (hardly ever).

Plus, what parents think will result in bullying might not be on modern children's radar

Scrolled all the way down to find the name, and I was disappointed.

I didn't use a name because of fear about teasing- my DH was the one who vetoed it. I liked Clover for a girl, but I was the only one!

it's impossible to say without hearing the name

No it's not. Nobody needs to know the name because the op is not asking our thoughts about the name,

She is asking if it's ok to use a name that the people in her life say will get her child bullied.

Assuming the name is an actual name that is not also the name of a STI or body part it is very unlikely to result in any bullying.

People passing comments on perspective names is a very different ball game and has very different dynamics to people passing comment on an actual persons name.

The first is done by people who are invited to give an opinion or by those who think they have some entitlement to give one and these tend to be based on many things like background,comfort zones,how fond you are of the person asking, age, all sorts. And you will get different answers from different groups.

The second is very unusual and tends not to happen and if it does it tends to get a very negative reaction towards the person doing it.

Bullying doesn't make someone stronger, IMO...

Don't give your child a name if you know it'll cause bullying!

Unusual doesn't make it a name which would cause bullying.

Just use your initiative...

Use the name. It might be great.
Oh then again it might not.
How the hell are supposed to tell you anything without knowing the name?