Matilda

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Apologies if this has been done a thousand times but names go in and out and opinions change as a name gets more popular.

What do you think of when you hear the name Matilda?

Are there are well....chav associations with it? Sorry for using the 'c' word but my other front runner seems to be associated with this word which has turned me off the name.

Thanks

Rudeness and being tactless aren't traits I admire in people either.

OP it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, if you like Matilda, you go for it. FWIW I think it's a pretty name.

I think it's a pretty name too but no matter what I think of it you don't deserve to get called names for your post!

Feeling better now

I'm a proper snob - I only like Heinz baked beans.

I like Matilda too, and I think it's not uncommon to choose a name that matches your social circle/standing/class (whatever you might choose to call it) or one you aspire to for that matter.

I'd have loved a Tilda but alas a close friend has a Tilly.

Fwiw, I also think names like Matilda and its diminutives will scream 'born in the early part of the millennium ' when she is about 35 Tilly et al will be the Gillians , Nicolas and Alisons of the 2050s!

Matilda, Mabel, Ruby are not timeless. They characterise an era, just as, say, Pauline and Angela defined a different era. I wouldn't want to give my child a name that will 'date' quickly.

But that is just me exhibiting a different kind of snobbery

'As for rest of your comment, my Mum raised me better than to stoop to a level where name calling is used.'

Good for her. And I hope you teach your children that it's unnecessary to refer to people as 'chavs'.

I have a Mathilda - the 'h' was to please FIL, whose mother was called Hilda.

There's a Matilda in her class, so she's known at school as Huh Mathilda, which cracks me up .

I also have one friend who used it as a middle name & another who really wanted it but changed her mind as she didn't want to copy me (I honestly wouldn't've minded).

Still think it's a fab, strong name, & it really suits her.

I don't like it. I think of it as being quite international and recently middle class.

the young traveller bride Matilda McGinley whose father or uncle barney mcginley was shot at her wedding comes to mind as it was only a few days ago.

No but we teach our children not to call people rude and unnecessary names like 'knob' when they are merely asking for an opinion on a baby name.

That type of thing is very low brow and frankly too chavvy for my liking.

(Said in a posh Downton abbey voice).

She wasn't merely asking for an 'is this a nice name' opinion though was she? I'm sure even you can see that.

ressyHedMair Why recently middle class? The Roald Dahl Matilda makes me think of it as quite classic. I should say that I don't actually know any.
bubalou now that it comes up I do remember telling my youngest sister years ago that calling someone a knob was completely unacceptable :)

Oh my mistake....

Did she ask for you to call her a knob then?

Sincere apologies - I must have not read that part

You keep scooting over the obvious and picking on parts other people have said. You're name opinion isn't what is under scrutiny - it's the fact you were unnecessarily rude and mean to someone for no reason.

Clearly my earlier observation about brain cells was correct as nothing that has been said to you seems to sink in.

Htf2

I'm not one to talk - apparently when I was about 10 I called my sister a dildo!

I didn't know what one was obviously but after my mum told me off I didn't say it again!

Off point, but I read practically this whole thread thinking you meant Iceland the country, not the shop, and thinking 'I don't get it'.

Theylearnedfrombrian

That is exactly something I would do!

bubalou do try and keep up. Of course there was a reason for my name calling. I called her a knob in reaction to her frankly ridiculous worries over whether a name was chavvy or likely to be heard shouted in Iceland.

God forbid someone would find out their child shared a name with someone whose parents shopped at Iceland rather than Waitrose.

But go ahead, you defend those petty little prejudices it it makes you feel more secure about your own situation.

Oh I dunno, until recently that would have been my perception of the name, that it was a middle-class choice. I wouldn't want to stand up in court and defend that perception though, and as I said, perhaps I shouldn't have pigeon-holded matlidas as being middle-class as the poor young traveller girl married off to a sixteen year old boy the other day was called Matilda. So obviously it is like Jessica or Holly or Charlotte.

Having a friend who seemed traumatised to have been a Tracy, I do understand that people want to put avoid giving their daughter a name that would be disadvantageous to her. This is something that would have effected me more in the UK as I would have worried about OTHER PEOPLE'S SNOBBERY

I agree with the poster who says it's amongst the names that will be like Alison, Gillian, Nicola, Suzanne. But there's nothing wrong with that. I wanted to avoid that but it turns out, I didn't manage to avoid it. I'm sure my dd's name is very much of its decade.

theylearnedfrombrian I did do that! I realised I must be missing something as I know Iceland has a very strict names policy but still it didn't add up :D In my defence, I am not from the UK and I'm not sure I've ever been to an iceland shop so it's not my first thought!

I thought the OP had discounted her first choice name (which she hasn't specified) because the baby name threads had thrown up comments that it was 'chavvy' and 'likely to be heard shouted across Iceland'.

I read it that she is now casting about for opinions on her second choice, Matilda. I thought she only mentions the chav and Iceland bits in context of the research done on the first name and the comments she found.

Is this not right?

I can't speak for the OP but I can attempt to defend my own fear of other people's snobbery. I knew in my heart when I was pg with dc2 that the relationship was on the rocks so I knew when I named DC2 that I'd be facinng the immediate future as a single mother, a single mother on benefits at that. Their father paid no maintenance for a long time. I am socially confident in my own country. I don't have to worry about others looking down on me, it wouldn't occur to me. But in a foreign country, and one so class-conscious as Britain, and Britain considering Irish as lacking class whether that is the case or not, then I will admit that I was very conscious of not inadvertently giving my child a name that would be another invitation to pre-judge him/her. I think I avoided that, but who knows. I was sensitive at the time. I cared at the time. Now I would think fuck the judgers. But naming a baby is scary.

Kav - that is how I read it.

Oh god squoosh I guess I might as well give up. It's like banging my head against a brick wall.

I think that people should be grown up and admit when they have said something wrong or clearly offensive (very clearly as it was deleted by MNHQ).

If you're happy with the way you come across then I'm very happy to carry on sitting here and quietly rolling my eyes at yet another dumb comment from yourself.

At least I'm not alone as several other posters have spoken up to say that you were also bang out of order.

Oh and what do you mean by 'more secure about my own situation'?

What situation is that? Do you know something I don't?

I don't shop in Iceland if that's what you mean but it's because I don't like the food they sell.

I do shop in good old Tesco though as well as a lot of local farm shops etc.

I ride my high horse there which is very economical but not so good for parking nor storing the shopping bags.

'I might as well give up. It's like banging my head against a brick wall.'

And that's exactly how I feel about you. You're determined not to admit that yes, maybe it isn't very nice to refer to names as chavvy.

I really am quite content with the way I come across, thanks for your concern. As I've already said if you believe I'm a troll as you stated earlier I believe the recommend course of action is to report. Not to boast that you bitch about me on another corner of the internet.

squoosh why would I do that? There are "chavs" in all walks of life and I am friends with a few, all of whom are nice people and even say they are "chavs" themselves. I would stay to chat but I am bidding on a high horse on eBay and I wouldn't want to get outbid. Lovely chatting, I wish you well with rest of your pregnancy and your name choosing.