Tyler for boy

[babynelly2010]

What does everyone think of it?
I like the name but never met anyone with it.

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raven

My dp is the same (I mentioned unthread he's a teacher), he definitely thinks it's the individual not the name.

Oops ,ignore that.

Bloody kindle

Some people are very rude, what's wrong with simply saying you don't like it?

I agree. I happen not to like some names. That's fine. Everyone has personal tastes. Being rude and prejudiced isn't fine.

If I put up a post asking for opinions, I'd rather people said why and gave me some feedback rather than just saying 'I don't like it'. If I didn't care what people thought/would think of a particular name, I wouldn't post in the first place.

Sometimes people get a little het up and take it personally if someone says, for example, that a name is boring or common. At no point did that person say that the person with that name was boring or common. But it's sometimes what the OP hears all the same.

Of course, sometimes people are just rude. That happens too.

I don't like Tyler, sorry.

Every day in every walk of life people make positive and negative associations with certain names and that's just human! Everyone does it!! Any person who says they never make snap judgments about people (based on whatever aspect) is telling porkies I think.

Well I really don't. I'm guilty of a lot of things - I have in the past laughed on here at combinations of names I think are silly, I hate certain shops and supermarkets and just don't go in there because I just don't like them, I occasionally make snap judgments of people based on their taste in clothing - I'm not trying to say I'm perfect. But genuinely, I have never, ever, made a snap judgment about a person because of their name. If I really am in the minority, I think it is a sad reflection on society.

Everlong - no I wasn't I genuinely couldn't remember what term the poster had actually used! I didn't want to spend ages trawling back over all the posts but for some reason the words kitchen sink kept popping into my head. I just used that and hoped people would know which post I was referring to

danceswithwolves - in the aspect of my post which you highlighted where did I specify I was talking about names? I didn't. I said people make judgements based on a variety of things, including dress sense which you have admitted you do. Making a snap judgement is making a snap judgement for whatever reason you do it.

Why is it ok to do it based on someone's dress sense but not their name?
It sounds a bit hypocritical I think?

This is the absolute best thread for finding out who the MN Snob Brigade is.

Maybe an awards ceremony should be held, we could have a vote on who comes 1st, 2nd or 3rd.

I suggested Tyler to my husband yesterday and although he didn't say yes, he didn't say no either. In my eyes it means it can go on my list!

where did I specify I was talking about names?
Ahem, in the bit that says make positive and negative associations with certain names and that's just human! Everyone does it!!

As for accusing me of hypocrisy - did you actually read my post? I specifically said I am guilty of a lot of things, but not this one. I was challenging your assertion that and that's just human! Everyone does it!! - honestly, when it comes to names, I don't. I don't believe everyone does. In fact, aside from KH and posters on MN, I've never known anyone do it.

Everlong - I was kind of close, I will remember that now! Thanks

Danceswithwolves - you said, "I occasionally make snap judgements about people based on their taste in clothing....*

And I'm just asking why is it ok to make judgements about people based on that, but not on their names?

There are many many threads on this forum where people ask for an opinion and get a reply saying 'Dont, all the (insert name) I've known have been an incredible bore/bully at school etc'

How is the above acceptable when previous posts criticising certain names on this thread are not? As far as I can genuinely see, it seems that that the only difference is that the people who get answers stating how boring a name is, don't jump up in arms re

.....arms replying heatedly with bad language!! Different posters, different opinions and very different reactions!

You are moving the goal posts on the conversation though Writer. I brought up the point with you that not everyone judges on name. I am not suggesting that I am judgment free. I agree with you that judging is a part of human nature, and we all occasionally hoick up our judgy pants. We shouldn't, as adults, we should know better and behave better. But we do.

But just to be clear, I am challenging the make positive and negative associations with certain names and that's just human! Everyone does it!! - I genuinely don't think everyone does judge on name. I think it is an unusual thing to judge on, and wrong. I stated way up thread that I judge people on their behaviour and actions. So regarding clothes - You chose your outfit - their is a level of action and behaviour involved in choosing to wear a skirt that doesn't cover your pants. It is your right to do so, but it is choice you made. A name is a thing you were born with.

looki - I think saying a name is "boring, avoid it" is as wrong as saying a name belongs on a sink estate is wrong.

Saying "I've always loved that name, it rolls of the tongue nicely", or "I've never liked that name, I think it is an ugly word" is fine. Or "I don't like old fashioned names". Or "I think that is a name that will be associated with a certain period in time / character on telly and therefore I'd avoid it" is also fine. This is an opinion and is giving the OP something to think about.

But I don't think name threads are a place where it is okay to air your prejudices, snobbery and other unpleasantness towards groups of people. I also doubt it is ever what the OP was asking.

I used the wrong there/their in my reply to Writer.

If it redeems me in anyway, my name is DancesWithWool, not wolves?

It is interesting you say that you judge them on their clothes because of the person's own actions and behaviours - which I totally agree with.

I have said a few times in this thread that when it comes to names I don't judge the actual child (because like you said, it has nothing to do with their choices) but I do find myself forming judgements about the parents seeing as it was the parents who made the conscious decision to name that child.

If I met a girl called Tinkerbell or Chardonnay I wouldn't think bad,y of them but I would probably find myself making snap judgements about what their parents might be like based on them choosing to give their child that name, just like you make a snap judgement about someone who chooses to wear a mini skirt and leather thigh boots at the age of 50 . I joke about this because that is what my mom used to wear most days and I know what I and others used to think about that

I can't imagine I would ever harshly judge a child's personality based on their name (before getting to know them) but I do admit that when I hear certain names, certain images come into my head. I can't help it, it just happens because that is human nature.

Ps Dances - I think I accidentally called you Dancing with Wolves in an above thread, haha. Many apologies God knows what I was thinking I think I saw the DancingwithWo.....and then assumed it was going to say 'wolves'