Tyler for boy

[babynelly2010]

What does everyone think of it?
I like the name but never met anyone with it.

[mrsbugsywugsy]

Congratulations

What did you name him?

[babynelly2010]

oh wow, quite a thread this one turned out, coming back to it few weeks later it is pretty amazing the discussion my question created.
Turned out my boy was not Tyler after all so I gave him another name that is common in america but a bit rare in UK.
So far we received nothing but complements...

[Sadie204]

I must be in the minority on MN cos I actually like it! Doesn't sound very nice with our surname though so was ruled out with DS. I honestly cannot believe how much controversy has been caused by a simple question regarding one name!

[evamummy]

I'm not keen on profession type names - Tyler (tiler), Baker, Miller.

[ch1134]

I like the name Tyler

[PrincessFlirtyPants]

I don't think Tyler is a particularly offensive name. Do I like it? No. Would I choose if for my DC? No. I have no preconceived notions about any Tyler's as I have yet to meet one.

[Rooners]

I don't really like the name Tyler, because of the way it sounds and also the association with the fashion of calling a child what has previously commonly been used as a surname.

However I think my prejudice partly comes from the way I have seen it used mainly among people whose taste in other areas I do not share.

There will be a lot of exceptions to that; I would not seek to judge a child based on his name. I would wait until I met him. But I may half-judge the parents' taste...again, it'a a wait and see scenario. You will have people naming children the same thing for utterly different reasons.

[Writerwannabe83]

Sink estate is actually on Google?
I thought it was just a casual term used by the poster, not that it had an official definition! I'm going to have to go and look now....

[looki]

Apologies for two msgs posted above in error. Silly phone!

When I post I want to read other people's positive and negative comments about the name. Otherwise what's the point in asking at all? If I merely want affirmation about my chosen name, I'll simply call my baby that name and have friends tell me they like it.

When I post about a name I want the good, the bad and the ugly. Otherwise it's a futile exercise.

Ps I've just googled the meaning of.a sink estate and agree its not a very nice thing to say but it does sum up the posters opinion which is the whole point of asking.

[DancesWithWoolEnPointe]

I'm sorry Looki but - I'm standing by to see what you are about to say, but I'm assuming you are having a tablet/mobile fail?

[DancesWithWoolEnPointe]

There you go OP

[Writerwannabe83]

I would imagine Tinkerbell's mom to be a bit of a hippy Or a woman with a Shrine to Walt Disney on her bedroom wall

If my daughter said she was going out with a guy called Tyler I would look forward to meeting him - I have always thought there to be a sexy element to the name and would think my daughter was probably going out with someone gorgeous!

[DancesWithWoolEnPointe]

See, if you said to me "My DD is called Tinkerbell" I think I'd say something like "Wow, that is an interesting choice of name" and I'd probably admire you for being unconventional. If one of my DDs came home and said "I'm going on a date with Tyler" I'd react no differently than if she said she was going on a date with Mark or Ahmid or Sebastian or whatever. (My reaction would be to be appalled regardless due to the fact that the oldest of them is 9 ). Maybe I am unusual in the regard, but it is honestly not a thing I have an issue with.

[Oblomov]

Common, Chevy and horrible.

[Writerwannabe83]

Just noticed you had already noticed, haha

I'm not as ditzy as I come across, I promise.... we'll maybe a little

[Writerwannabe83]

Ps Dances - I think I accidentally called you Dancing with Wolves in an above thread, haha. Many apologies God knows what I was thinking I think I saw the DancingwithWo.....and then assumed it was going to say 'wolves'

[Writerwannabe83]

It is interesting you say that you judge them on their clothes because of the person's own actions and behaviours - which I totally agree with.

I have said a few times in this thread that when it comes to names I don't judge the actual child (because like you said, it has nothing to do with their choices) but I do find myself forming judgements about the parents seeing as it was the parents who made the conscious decision to name that child.

If I met a girl called Tinkerbell or Chardonnay I wouldn't think bad,y of them but I would probably find myself making snap judgements about what their parents might be like based on them choosing to give their child that name, just like you make a snap judgement about someone who chooses to wear a mini skirt and leather thigh boots at the age of 50 . I joke about this because that is what my mom used to wear most days and I know what I and others used to think about that

I can't imagine I would ever harshly judge a child's personality based on their name (before getting to know them) but I do admit that when I hear certain names, certain images come into my head. I can't help it, it just happens because that is human nature.

[DancesWithWoolEnPointe]

I used the wrong there/their in my reply to Writer.

If it redeems me in anyway, my name is DancesWithWool, not wolves?

[DancesWithWoolEnPointe]

looki - I think saying a name is "boring, avoid it" is as wrong as saying a name belongs on a sink estate is wrong.

Saying "I've always loved that name, it rolls of the tongue nicely", or "I've never liked that name, I think it is an ugly word" is fine. Or "I don't like old fashioned names". Or "I think that is a name that will be associated with a certain period in time / character on telly and therefore I'd avoid it" is also fine. This is an opinion and is giving the OP something to think about.

But I don't think name threads are a place where it is okay to air your prejudices, snobbery and other unpleasantness towards groups of people. I also doubt it is ever what the OP was asking.

[DancesWithWoolEnPointe]

You are moving the goal posts on the conversation though Writer. I brought up the point with you that not everyone judges on name. I am not suggesting that I am judgment free. I agree with you that judging is a part of human nature, and we all occasionally hoick up our judgy pants. We shouldn't, as adults, we should know better and behave better. But we do.

But just to be clear, I am challenging the make positive and negative associations with certain names and that's just human! Everyone does it!! - I genuinely don't think everyone does judge on name. I think it is an unusual thing to judge on, and wrong. I stated way up thread that I judge people on their behaviour and actions. So regarding clothes - You chose your outfit - their is a level of action and behaviour involved in choosing to wear a skirt that doesn't cover your pants. It is your right to do so, but it is choice you made. A name is a thing you were born with.

[looki]

.....arms replying heatedly with bad language!! Different posters, different opinions and very different reactions!

[looki]

There are many many threads on this forum where people ask for an opinion and get a reply saying 'Dont, all the (insert name) I've known have been an incredible bore/bully at school etc'

How is the above acceptable when previous posts criticising certain names on this thread are not? As far as I can genuinely see, it seems that that the only difference is that the people who get answers stating how boring a name is, don't jump up in arms re