Jasmyn - poncy spelling or acceptable?

[lucybrad]

Hi
I like the name Tabitha Jasmine but prefer the spelling Tabitha Jasmyn. Am I crazy? Honest opinions please....

It looks very masculine.

Definitely spell it Jasmine!

lucybrad although I think Jasmine is very pretty spelt in its traditional form, the choice is entirely yours and seeing as you intend for Jasmyn as a middle name, I don't really see it as too much of a fuss. It's still a lovely name and if anything your DD will grow up to appreciate having a beautiful and a little more unique name.

And what's with some of the negativity on this thread? Aren't we here to provide honest and constructive advice/opinions, instead of venting or undermining or ridiculing people? We may not necessarily like somebody's choices but surely it makes more sense to approach this in a rational and polite manner instead of being so abrasive? I see so many posts, especially on the Relationships forum, about women encountering unsupportive and/or abusive behaviour from family, friends or partners and asking for support from other Mumsnetters and it's lovely to see all positivity, but why would anyone want to repeat that negativity towards another poster? What example does that set? We're meant to be a welcoming and supportive community, isn't that what Mumsnet is about?

No Mumsnet is about being honest. Whilst I can disagree with other posters viewpoints, I'd rather disagree with them than fanny around under the guise of supportiveness.

Mn is meant to be a welcoming and supportive community?no that's not so
It's a online forum were you post with online strangers.that can feel enriching or negative
The pleasure and pain is the diversity,range,depth of opinions that you get online

For what it's worth my middle name is Frances and I always ALWAYS have to spell it for people. It's just France with a bloody S.

OP I also prefer Jasmine, but look at my example, I have a completely normal set of names and I'm always spelling them for people so why not go for the variant if you prefer it?

wigglesrock I'm definitely one for honesty and if I happen to disagree with a viewpoint I would say so but in a constructive manner rather than an abrupt one.

On a lot of the name threads, some people will disagree with a name choice but suggest similar alternatives which in my opinion, is constructive rather than just saying that you loathe something or that you think it's stupid or whatever and then leaving it at that.

I'm fairly new to Mumsnet and I'm not trying to stir the pot, I'm just querying as to how turning opinions into a heated (and at times a little aggressive) debate would benefit anybody.

But that's only your subjective opinion that its been heated,aggressive.i disagree
What differentiates mn is light moderation,ability to stridently opine,wide range pov
I can assure you vast majority on mn can stridently disagree with no hard feelings.thats it's usp

I'm not really sure what you are looking for? I'm a prickly person - would you like me to tone that down? I'm the first person to call someone out if they're being offensive, but most posters on MN that I've encountered are big and ugly to that for themselves.

Like real life discussions and opinions can become heated but it's an anonymous forum - no-one forces you to join/ stay - it's not school.

or what scottishmummy said! See look how it works!

I understand what you're saying, and maybe it is just me and all my hormones being uber-sensitive. I wasn't trying to offend anybody and I'm genuinely sorry if it did. I'm sure everybody here has the best of intentions for each other.

Why must one suggest an alternative name,why in your opinion isn't it ok to say is like name?
You see that's your preference,but it's not a given others shy away from being straight
There no compulsion on mn that one must oh and ah instead of a direct answer

I don't like it. Jasmine looks much nicer.

Never worry, it's the heat. I'm blaming everything on the heat

Again no.people dont always have best of intentions for each other
Nor do they need to.its individual responsibility to be safe and suitably circumspect
Mn has its trolls,attention seekers,drama queens they don't have your best intentions

She would never be able to simply just give her name, she will always have to spell it. In effect her name becomes 'Jasmyn that's m-y-n not m-i-n'. Which isn't pretty in anyone's book. And will probably be a total pain in the arse for her.

Why not save her the grief and just pick a name that you like the sound and spelling of?

Not poncy, just illiterate. Jasmine is a lovely name though.

I think Jasmyn looks like a patented pharmaceutical contraceptive.
Or JazzMen.
Or JizzMen.

Jasmine is a flower, a lovely flower - why gild the lily?

"her middle name is Claire not Clare. She has a bank account, a passport, a Dr and has applied for a pre pre school - her name hasn't been spelled wrong or queried once."

I have known quite a few Claires, one of them being a family member and all of them spell their name with an i in the middle, so to me that is the usual spelling of the name.

"For what it's worth my middle name is Frances and I always ALWAYS have to spell it for people. It's just France with a bloody S."

I always thought that Frances was the masculine name and Francis was the feminine - like Leslie (m) and Lesley (f). Perhaps that is why everyone gets it wrong. Unless I have got you wrong and you are a man

No op. Jasmine looks much nicer spelt the traditional way.

Plus after spending my whole life having to spell out my surname I have no idea why any parent would deliberately make life difficult for their DC by giving them a name with an alternative spelling.

Well, I think I am the only one to say I like Jasmyn. I find Jasmine too feminine, too frilly.

If you want an actual proper reason not to use it, Yasmin is a contraceptive pill and with the spelling you're inclined to, it's not a name I'd touch with a barge pole.

Jasmyn is a tacky spelling and my iPhone corrects it to Jasmine. Clever phone.

Tabitha Jayne sounds nicer anyway, imho.

A 3 syllable primary name requires a short, single syllable middle name - flows better, less clunky. And Jayne is an acceptable spelling.

Love the name, obviously as it is my daughters name but jasmine is just perfect as it is.she is nick named tabi jas

wigglesrock, I agree with bunbaker - Claire is the accepted spelling. My middle name is Clare & I do have to spell it out, double check the spelling etc. for example when we were buying our house/writing our wills the mortgage company & solicitor always put Claire. It's not a big deal anyway but I think the reason you've had no trouble with your dd middle name is because you've used the widespread spelling.

OP you asked, 'poncy spelling or acceptable?'

Poncy. Jasmine is lovely though.

I don't think anyone has been too harsh, just responded to your thread title where you implied that you were aware that people may not like the name.

If you want to be told you have chosen a lovely name, title the thread 'I have chosen jasmyn as a middle name and I love it!'

On this topic, people don't generally offer an opinion unless it is sought.

But do what you like, not life or death.

Congratulations on baby!