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'Stealing' a friend's baby's name

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BonaDea · 08/02/2013 16:57

A v good friend of mine has just 'pinched' our top boy's name. Completely unintentional, and she didn't know we liked it, so of course I'm happy for her (grrr). We actually don't see them very much and don't even live in the same country any more. But of course we have mutual friends. Do you think it would be wrong of us to use it as well?

Another favourite name is the name of the baby of a former (close) work colleauge of mine - NOT an unusual name at all. Do you think that is any more acceptable?

Just wonder whether there is an ettiquette here I should be following or should I just say 'sod it' and use the names we like?

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orangepudding · 08/02/2013 16:59

In your situation I would use the names you like. You don't see each other anymore so it doesn't matter!

HariboAndWine · 08/02/2013 17:28

This situation has happened to me except I was the unknowing 'stealer'. My very good friend lives in another country too and I have no problem whatsoever with her using the name too Smile

rachel234 · 08/02/2013 18:56

It is not so much 'stealing' but about 'identifying' so if you are happy for your child to share a name with your friend's child or colleague, then go ahead and use the name. There are thousands of lovely classic names around, especially if you look beyond the top 100 or even top 250. Is there no other name you love?

HouseOfBears · 08/02/2013 20:55

I would probably go with your favourite name, but have a conversation with your friend first saying that you've wanted to use it all along and you hope they dont mind - I don't know a single person that would actually say "no I'd rather you didn't use the same name, it's mine!" Smile

Rhubarbgarden · 08/02/2013 21:26

I think I'd go back to the drawing board and come up with something different.

Hassled · 08/02/2013 21:27

Oh use it anyway. If you're not right next to each other then I can't see how it will be a problem. Your mutual friends won't bat an eyelid.

scottishmummy · 08/02/2013 21:31

no one steals names,as no one has dibs ona name its as simple as that
theres no name etiquette only the unnecessary fretting that some seem to do
if you like the name use it.dont make all this so fraught,it doesnt need to be

almostanotherday · 08/02/2013 21:31

I was going to name my DD after my nan who had passed away and I stupidly told as so called friend what the name was, she had her DD 3 weeks before me and named her DD with the name.

scottishmummy · 08/02/2013 21:32

and so what?did you use the name
if it was an name you cherish you use it
why fret about some pal and the same name

Ohhelpohnoitsa · 08/02/2013 21:40

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MummyInTraining · 08/02/2013 21:40

I would be annoyed if I was your friend. There are so many names to choose from why not try and see can you find something else?

almostanotherday · 08/02/2013 21:42

No I chose another name for my DD and used my nans middle name as a middle name for my DD in the end

almostanotherday · 08/02/2013 21:43

And I no longer have contact with the so called friend

scottishmummy · 08/02/2013 21:43

some of you need to seriously grow up,if you think anyone can steal a name
i mean christ alive if you like it use it,and if someone gets there before you tough titty

scottishmummy · 08/02/2013 21:45

i can honestly say if i liked a name id use it.irrespective of whether anyone thought they had 1st dibs or their name

almostanotherday · 08/02/2013 21:47

When I told her what we would be calling DD her reply was oh that's nice I had never thought of that name. That's what pissed me off about her using it.

scottishmummy · 08/02/2013 21:53

again so what?she can use a name that she likes, you dont have dibs on any name
if it was a special or family name you too can use it
if someone mentioned a name in passing and i liked it, yes i use it.no qualms

aftermay · 08/02/2013 21:53

Use the name if you like it. I'd be flattered if my DCs' names inspired others. I think their names are beautiful.

TastesLikePanda · 08/02/2013 22:07

I have a name that I adore and is sooooo unusual and specific that I haven't so much as breathed it in anyones presence that I think may be considering baby names in the next decade, in case anyone else uses it - then I would look like the stealer iykwim!

If I get to menopause without a BFP then I shall start yelling it from the rooftops as a free for all - but until then it is my special secret super duper girls name...

TastesLikePanda · 08/02/2013 22:08

I am aware how bonkers I sounds btw... Wink

scottishmummy · 08/02/2013 22:11

most names are out there in domain somewhere unless you've genuinely made it up
im thinking charlotte york having a hissy on satc about her baby name getting stolen
im surprised so many on mn are so agahst anyone could use same name

aftermay · 08/02/2013 22:29

Who is Charlotte York? What's SaTc?

Woollymummy · 08/02/2013 22:32

Use it, she wasn't to know it was yours, and you decided on it before you knew her choice. I have many friends who are happy to have the same name as each other!

LentilAsAnything · 09/02/2013 00:56

I agree with scottishmummy.

aftermay, Charlotte York is a character from TV series Sex And The City.

Am desperate to know what Panda's girl's name is! :) I am the same though, we have a perfect girl's name ready, and we (DH and I) never tell anyone.

aftermay · 09/02/2013 01:01

I get it now. I can't remember that episode of SATCHEL.

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