Is PhEobe a recognised spelling?

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Etiquette dilemma..

We've received a Christmas card introducing their new grandchild Pheobe. I now have to write a card back congratulating them on said new arrival. At first glance I assumed they'd written Phoebe wrongly, then I googled and it is apparently a variant of Phoebe, though I've never come across it before. Do i go with their spelling as written in the card and risk offending them if they think I've misspelt it, or do I write Phoebe and risk offence for getting it wrong?!

Does anyone know of a Pheobe?

Eek. I have a Phoebe. I know lots of people who spell DD's name wrong (we've had Pheobe, Feebie, Feeby, Phebie) but have never known it spelt any other way than the 'traditional' way.

Any chance you could pick up the phone to the card-sender and ask? Might sound better over the phone....

It's a distant cousin of DH's - I haven't seen them in about 6 years and have no idea of their phone number. We're not at all close to that branch of the family, and DFIL is utterly hopeless at anything to do with communication (hence us not even knowing their was a baby in the offing!).

I'm inclined to think it's a spelling mistake on the grandparents' part. If it isn't, i'm guessing this may be something the child deals with a lot in the next few years!

Can you congratulate them on their grand hope without a rurally using the name? Or make your handwriting such that your o and e could be interchangeable?

I think it's a pretty common mispelling, but more likely to be a mistake by the gps than the parents (though not impossible, and also possible that they just thought it "looked nicer" or was "more unik" that way).

Do you usually send a card to the parents? I think you could get away with just saying something like "congratulations on your new arrival" or "lovely news about the new arrival / new addition" etc.

To be fair, they've also changed on of my DDs names from her pretty one to a much less likely old-fashioned name eg Jenny to Gertie.

I only send them a Christmas card (and don't even have an address for their daughter, DM of Pheobe), so will have to just reference the new arrival and await further clues!

Thanks all.

I'd write 'Phoebe'. I couldn't play any part in misseplt names!

There are people who have spelled their own kids names wrong, you see them on here sometimes. Pheobe has been spotted on this very forum, poster was not happy when it was pointed out.

Impossible to know whether thats how they spelled it or if the granparents just got it wrong. Personally I'd just write it the proper way, tough bollox to them if they got it wrong, they'll have to get used to it coming up!

I would write Phoebe. (And cringe for the child if that is what the parents have really done but I think it's more likely a grandparent not familiar with the name thinking OE couldn't possibly be the right order for the vowels and correcting the parents' spelling). It won't be the last time someone spells it right.

I think you should assume they have made the mistake until told otherwise. Always write back mentioning Phoebe, and let them pick you up on it. When they do, say 'OMG I am SO sorry, it's just that it is usually spelt Phoebe so I just assumed that's what it was.'

Variant my eye.

I think it's most likely settled into common(ish) usage because of people just plain getting it wrong.

My DFIL has spelled our 13 week old DDs name wrong in all his round robin cards!

I'm awaiting lots of tactfully phrased enquiries as to why it's such a uoooneek spelling.

It could be worse. There's a child in our town who's name is spelt Feebee

They're going to get Phoebe ALL the time. WHY did they decide to do that?!

Although to be fair I'm sure many Phoebes get Pheobe all the time as well! It's wrong, but an understandable mistake to make.

When a friend of mine went to register their Phoebe the registrar asked them to check they didn't mean Pheobe!

Feebee?

My name is Pheobe. My parents just assumed that was the correct spelling and didn’t check before they registered it. In my opinion I think Pheobe makes more sense than Phoebe. I get miss spelt all the time. Not just phoebe just Phebe, Phiebe, Feebie, you name it. It’s never bothered me though and I find it quite amusing seeing how many variations people can come up with. I personally would go with the version on the card

I would go with Phoebe as the correct spelling. It's probably an error.

@Dozdoz2001

My name is Pheobe. My parents just assumed that was the correct spelling and didn’t check before they registered it. In my opinion I think Pheobe makes more sense than Phoebe. I get miss spelt all the time. Not just phoebe just Phebe, Phiebe, Feebie, you name it. It’s never bothered me though and I find it quite amusing seeing how many variations people can come up with. I personally would go with the version on the card

I don’t know why you resurrected this 9 year old thread.

Phonetically Pheobe is Fee-oh- bee
Phoebe is Fee- be

It’s a bit unfortunate as the Ancient Greek titaness was Phoebe- so there is a long established ‘correct’ way of saying and spelling it.

I think there's something about two vowels together that can trip people up - well at least with me. I sometimes accidentally write Michael as Micheal or Brian as Brain lol , and only notice it once I've written it out.

So I'd think it's more likely a mistake but I guess you don't know. I'd just miss the name out in the reply if you want to be cautious.

opps missed that it's a zombie. I don't know why people give advice to year old threads. I imagine the card has been sent by now lol

Zombie thread resurrected by someone whose parents can’t spell.

PP is right - Pheobe is pronounced Fee oby

If you think it makes more sense @Dozdoz2001 you’re presumably unaware of the language rules behind it.

The oe in Phoebe is the Latin form of the Greek oi pronounced ee. Like Coeliac and Phoenix.

Changing the spelling to Ceolioac and Pheonix changes the pronunciation to see oliac and fee onix.

So unfortunately spelling of your name is just wrong. If I were you I would correct it now you’re an adult.