cousins with the same name??

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we have 2 sons and ever since the first one we have always have our favourite girls name "in reserve" for a dd if one came along. Though we haven't actually discussed this with anyone.

Now we are expecting again with a month to go. Last week dbro wife gave birth to a little girl.. and gave her our name!!

Not sure what to do, think up a name from scratch.. or go with a variation of the same name, like Helen/Helena, or Diane/Diana. We love the variation so it would still be our first choice name iyswim.

Please give me your views, tia :)

My cousin and I both gave our daughters the same first name, but different middle names, and if it gets confusing we use the middle names to differentiate. There's six months between the girls. But in reality, it doesn't. Talk to your brother and ask if he minds if you're really dead set on it, and go from there maybe..

No friend would stop me using it but I ha r always thought if my bro used a name then it would be taken out of circulation. In fact our dd's name is a family one and I know he would have probably liked it as a middle name if he had dd but we got there first (and used it as first name) and it's now out of circulation just as his son's name is. He was nice about it and just said that he's pleased it's being used in the family. Besides I suspect his wife not so keen on it.

If a family member is selfish enough to use the name that you have already said you love, then why cant you use it? If someone had said to me how much they love a name for years, (and didnt say at that time, yeah thats the name I would use too) I wouldnt then go and use it as I would know how much that person loved it, I would think of my own name, but she hasnt done that. So now you have to? Hmmm.

I think that going through life always thinking that I wanted that name would be very frustrating.

Of course everyone is entitled to their own opinion, some families are much closer than others, however some only see each other at christmas and dont even live in the same part of the country so I dont see that as an issue.

However if you are a close family and see each other regularly then I would think maybe talking to them about it?

NO. I'd feel sorry for the grandparents having to say 'no not my first granddaughter Ellen, my other granddaughter Ellen'. I'd feel like my grown up children had no common sense, sensitivity or courtesy to me if I had to show my friends at bridge pictures of my granddaughters ellen and ellen. morto.

oh old thread. what did the op do?

I have this trouble but I stupidly told sil I liked the name max and now it's her favourite and she's due months before me, we can't think of any others we agree on. Just going to have to hope she decides against it.

In 6 male cousins we have 2 Richards and 2 Christophers. No-one made a fuss and its never been confusing. The Richards are known by their middle names as well, and the Chrises are big Chris and little Chris.