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cousins with the same name??

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tidybooks · 21/09/2012 14:50

we have 2 sons and ever since the first one we have always have our favourite girls name "in reserve" for a dd if one came along. Though we haven't actually discussed this with anyone.

Now we are expecting again with a month to go. Last week dbro wife gave birth to a little girl.. and gave her our name!!

Not sure what to do, think up a name from scratch.. or go with a variation of the same name, like Helen/Helena, or Diane/Diana. We love the variation so it would still be our first choice name iyswim.

Please give me your views, tia :)

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bloodybuilder · 22/09/2012 12:47

Amelie/Amelia very common now so maybe she's done you a favour...
I would pick different name

How about
Cecily/cecile nickname ceci
Elodie
Ava
Rosa
Thea
Saskia
Xanthe
Lydia
Marianne
Dora

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot · 22/09/2012 12:51

I do agree bloody. It's a pretty name but it really really popular around here now.

That's a nice list

squoosh · 22/09/2012 12:57

Steady yourself and get a grip LittleBairn.

Why get so wanky with me beacause you didn't bother to read the original post? Hmm

jellybeans · 22/09/2012 12:59

Don't do it, it is odd and looks copycat. Use different one or variation.

DancehallDaze · 22/09/2012 13:48

If it bothers you, ask them. They may not mind. I wouldn't.

LittleBairn · 22/09/2012 14:03

Your wanky post was unessary so I treated you the same disdain, treat others how you wish to be treated.

Allalonenow · 22/09/2012 14:20

My younger, by a year, cousin was given the same unusual name as me. It really irritated my mother, and she often commented on it.

With so many lovely names available I would choose an alternative name.

squoosh · 22/09/2012 14:37

Thanks for the advice!

Here's my top tip for you, read the post before giving your advice. Then you may avoid looking so foolish.

You're welcome Smile

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tidybooks · 22/09/2012 22:09

ok thanks everyone - I've decided not to use it.

Have another name I like now, had previously discounted it as it leads to a bit of alliteration, and I didn't really think it went with our surname- C.

But I think it might be better than using Amelie.

Just need a suitable middle name now to avoid dodgy initial combinations - KOC, KIC, KEC etc etc.

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TheOneAndOnlyMaryZed · 22/09/2012 22:15

Come on now, tell us the name, and we will all tell you how much nicer than Amelie it is Smile

I can only think of Katie.

You need to avoid KFC as well, btw.

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tidybooks · 22/09/2012 22:21

Oh yes, KFC need to avoid that as well. A shame as my original middle name (for Amelie/Amelia started with F.

I would say the name but am too paranoid of outing myself - sorry -don't think SIL has time for mumsnetting with the newborn but I can never be sure.

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youonlysingwhenyourewinning · 22/09/2012 22:42

Anything 'FC' sounds like a football club Grin

Good luck tidybrooks

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot · 22/09/2012 22:45

Good luck! Glad you've found something you like too.

TheOneAndOnlyMaryZed · 22/09/2012 22:49

I still want to know

Go on, pm me and I'll suggest some middle names.

What are your mums and granny's names?

btw, I don't like Amelie, and Amelia has been taken over by Dr Who and will always be Amelia Pond, so better avoided imo.

Allalonenow · 22/09/2012 23:20

I think you have come to a good decision tidybooks, within the family my cousin was always known as "the other ***", which must have been horrid for her.
Also, Amelie could be over popular ATM.

throckenholt · 23/09/2012 13:40

Depends how close you are - how often you see each other and how much confusion it would cause. And to some extent on the personalities involved. It used to be very common for cousins in the same geographical location to have the same first and surname (and presumably they all coped), but now it is rare.

We chose the same (nearly) first name for one of our boys as their cousin on DH's side - different surnames and live at different ends of the country. It was also a traditional family name on my side that we have previously told the other family that we would use if we ever had a son (they later used it for one of theirs). We ummed and ahhed for a long time, and finally went with it for one of ours (we ended up with lots of boys and really struggled with boy names - could have agreed on masses of girl names !) - and the other parents then threw a major hissy fit that took quite a few years to wear off (has mostly gone now a decade later).

So just be aware that it might ruffle feathers and be prepared for that.

Bottom line though - no-one owns a name - anyone can call their kids (or their pets) any name they choose - regardless of anyone else.

3rdbump · 23/09/2012 13:48

My boy whos now 8 is named Finn, my aunty had a baby who is now 4 and she called him Finn too?! thought it was a bit strange TBH and my nan wasn't best pleased...........

babynumber3 · 10/11/2012 07:49

I absolutely think that you can use the name that you wanted, you have loved the name for ages its not like you have copied them in wanting it (seems to me that she has copied you as you loved it for so long).

No I would definatly go with the name you want, at the end of the day you should think of your family unit, yes they will be annoyed at first, but they will get used to it and it wont be an issue anymore. Some Cousins as they grow older dont really see each other, would yours be like that?

I would let her know by text after you have had the baby just like she did

AThingInYourLife · 10/11/2012 07:54

" at the end of the day you should think of your family unit,"

Hmm

Yeah, fuck the rest of your family.

Just do what you want.

Remember that "getting used to it" might include getting used to the face that you are a selfish arsehole they don't want to spend time with.

forgetmenots · 10/11/2012 10:11

Oooh if you like Amelie I think Coralie is much lovelier (I also really love alliterative names...) here are a few others just to get you thinking

Coralie
Aurelie/Aurelia
Malia
Cecilia

Think you've made the right decision OP.

Jins · 10/11/2012 10:19

Anyone mentioned Anneliese as an alternative?

AlwaysWantingMore · 10/11/2012 10:37

I'm sorry I haven't read all the replies, so potentially a major x-post. There is a name I have loved since childhood and still do, luckily DH also likes it. When my SIL was pregnant they announced they were using that name if it was a boy. That was it, no discussion, they were using it. They knew it was my favourite name as we had discussed names a few months beforehand (before we knew they were pg). DH and I resolved that even if they used the name, we still would. It would be our child, we would be using the name daily - I think we should be able to use a name we love.

The grandparents are very smart people, I'm sure they will work it out!

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Declutterbug · 10/11/2012 11:11

I think to give an identical name would be an absolute no no, irrespective of how gutting for you (I would feel the same).

Amelia and Amelie are, IMO, totally different names. I'd say go ahead with Amelie Smile

DesperatelySeekingSedatives · 10/11/2012 18:14

My brother in law apparently wanted to name my neice the same name as my daughter, her cousin Hmm ok to be fair he wanted to name her that but double barrel it with another name Still the same fucking name though, eh?

I was raging when I found out. Well annoyed at least. I would have been raging if my sister had gone along with this. Mainly because it would be ridiculous and laughable. But also because what child (or anybody) wants to go through life being called "The other XXXX" by their own extended family?

Thankfully sister won that battle (god I love her!) and named her DD something totally different to mine Smile