DH would like to use a family name (great grandfather's) as a middle name. It's Stanley. Which I kind of think is alright. We've agreed on the first name and will choose a middle name each. DH's uncle, who is a thoroughly objectionable person (racist, homophobic) would really approve of us using Stanley. He's into family tree and all that.
I don't like DH's uncle (at all) and am having a very instinctive response NOT to use any name that he'd "approve of".
Am I being silly, mad, far too contrary? Or what?