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Eldest ds in tears about new dd's name....

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luckywinner · 28/01/2012 21:23

I have just had a baby girl three weeks early. We didn't really choose any names before, just a short list. Ds (7) and dd (5) have been v excited about new baby. This afternoon they both came to see me in the hospital and were seriously lovely with her. Ds kissed her lots and lots. Dd just wanted to dress and undress her!

Dh took them home then came back to me and we decided on our name for new dd - (Elizabeth) Tess. When dh went home and told them her name my ds sobbed and sobbed and said he didn't like the name. Dh called me in hospital and I spoke to ds who cried again and said he didn't like name. I asked him what he did like. His answer was Felicity, Darrell or alicia (we've been reading mallory towers!), or Cecily. Now he was going to be Cecily if he was a girl. I love the name but a friend of ours has since called their child Cecily and I am just not sure about it any more. And part of me says 'tough, you are 6, you don't get to decide'. And I love the name Tess. Someone come and tell me what to do/say. I am exhausted, just given birth, am tired and emotional!

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Memoo · 28/01/2012 21:26

Sorry, but it's up to you not your ds. You can't change her name just because a 6 year old throws a paddy!

Lightofthemoon · 28/01/2012 21:27

I'm so sorry to hear this but my brother cried when I was born because I was a girl and he had to get over it (and did!). I'm sure he'll be fine, I would keep the name you like.

snice · 28/01/2012 21:27

7 year olds can name puppies/kittens
you and DH name your baby-congratulations by the way!

Sidge · 28/01/2012 21:27

Congratulations on your new baby Smile

He'll get used to the name. You are the parent so you choose, not him! Elizabeth is a beautiful name.

It could be worse, my DD1 was 5 when we had DD2 and wanted to call her Bacon.

Surf25 · 28/01/2012 21:27

Congratulations!
That's a hard one. I think you should go with the name that you and your dh have chosen but how about adding in Cecily as a middle name?

pinkteddy · 28/01/2012 21:28

Poor you that must have been a really difficult conversation - whats he got against the name - is it just because he didnt get to choose it?

EauRouge · 28/01/2012 21:29

I'm sure he'll come to love the name, he's probably just a bit emotional with the arrival of his new sister. Congrats on your new DD :)

SpecialBranch · 28/01/2012 21:29

Congratulations Smile

Agree that you and your DH get to decide on her name. How about a middle name - if you're not set on one then could DS help choose that? Elizabeth Cecily?

nooka · 28/01/2012 21:29

'tough, you are 6, you don't get to decide" seems a perfectly appropriate response to me! However I don't understand why you are using Tess as your nn, as it is a derivative of Theresa not Elisabeth.

For managing the situation would you be OK with giving your ds some input into a middle name? Elisabeth Cecily for example?

PartialToACupOfMilo · 28/01/2012 21:30

I have an Elizabeth Tess and call her Tess, its a bit odd to hear of another! He'll get over it and maybe he can name her first doll or something Grin

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breatheslowly · 28/01/2012 21:31

You get to choose and when he has his children you get no say. That's how it goes and Tess is a lovely name anyway.

Collision · 28/01/2012 21:31

Sorry is her name Elizabeth Tess or Tess as a nn for Elizabeth?? Confused

Tess is not a real nn for Elizabeth............could he come up with a nn for her or the middle name?

My nephew was going to be called Freddie but their eldest ds kicked off about it and they changed it to Alfie. Shock

gormlessdinner · 28/01/2012 21:32

Congratulations on your new arrival! Could your DS choose a special nickname for the baby just for him as big brother to use? It could be another name stemming from Elizabeth or a cutesy one. Elizabeth is a beautiful name - he'll come round in time.

thisisyesterday · 28/01/2012 21:32

aww bless him!
i think you have to stick with the name you've chosen. 7 year olds are fickle and if he'd been reading ben 10 and wanted to call it brainstorm you'd have said no, wouldn't you?

he'll get over it

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purpleroses · 28/01/2012 21:35

Can he have a new teddy that he gets to name whatever he likes? Everyone buys new dolls for girls when they get a little sister, but boys can do role-play games too and it's a great way of learing to copy parenting, and deal with feelings towards new sister.

MrsSnaplegs · 28/01/2012 21:36

Why don't you suggest that you choose her real name and he chooses a special big brother name for her like a nickname which only he is ever allowed to call her so when she is 21 and he is pushing 30 everyone else will call her Elizabeth Tess but he will call her .... ?
My DS will be v v embarrassed at that age as his big sister will still be calling him Hugh the pooGrin

NewYearsRevolution · 28/01/2012 21:36

Wouldn't it be Bess from Elizabeth?

But either way, a seven year old does not get to choose. It's probably an emotional displacement to the shock of a new arrival. If she was early I assume you hadn't down the 'any day now' bit with him yet?

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 28/01/2012 21:37

It is really sweet that he cares this much. How much do you love Elizabeth? I presume you intend to name her Elizabeth but call her Tess? Why not name her Felicity and call her Tess - as Tess isn't actually a nickname for either...

I'm with DS - Felicity is nicer :)

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pinkappleby · 28/01/2012 21:52

My DS wanted our new DD to be Caroline (again books, had been reading Thomas books) and tried to call her Caroline for a few days but it soon wore off. Now he hardly remembers (DD is now 1). He also looked in her nappy to check that she really was a girl (he wanted a boy).

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luckywinner · 28/01/2012 22:02

Thanks all, you've made me feel better. I knew I was being emotional, just needed a slap around the face to stop feeling guilty.

She is going to be elisabeth alice rose. I love the name Tess and dh needed a teeny bit of convincing as he wanted elisabeth. So I have managed to get away with nickname tess. Does that make sense? Basically I'm blagging it to get my own way while he still is in awe of delivering his daughter without punching him in the face during labour once Wink.

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QuickLookBusy · 28/01/2012 22:08

My DD wanted to call her sister Little Miss SunshineHmm

We stuck with our lovely traditional name and DD1 soon forgot about it.

I expect Ds is a bit tired and emotional. I'm sure he won't be worrying about the name once he gets a good noghts sleep and his mum back home.

I love the name Tess. I think it is used as a nn for Elizabeth.

catinboots · 28/01/2012 22:12

DS1 hated DS2s name. He said it was weired and embaressing.

Nearly 2 years later, he loves his little brother and loves his name. He thinks it is a cool name now Grin

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